Tag: sex

“Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?”

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Someone who I have been kind of friends with for a while ended up hanging out with me one night. We had sex and since then have been doing the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing with no title whatsoever. I feel like she likes me a lot more than I like her at the moment.

This has been going on for about a month and last week I met another girl at a school event and we hit it off. We’ve been texting ever since then and I feel that she likes me, because of a lot of flirtation in our messages. I think I like her too, she is very attractive but I’m not sure what to do.

Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?  Do I wait until me and the second girl are actually dating before I stop with first one? To make it even more complicated girl two, who I like more, and is more attractive, is only a sophomore in high school, while me and girl one are seniors. I turn 18 very soon but she claims that she already told her parents about me and that they were cool with us going on a date. Please help me.

“I don’t understand why our sex life has changed so suddenly”

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I’m 18 and my boyfriend has just turned 21, we’ve been together almost 8 months and we’ve never argued or had any real rough patches. But since about October/November it’s become really rare that we have sex.

It was about a month without it so I talked to him about it, and he said he’s not really sure why he has no sex drive and that it’s probably from stress. He gets stress problems from work and just general irritability. After a month of nothing we had sex a few times (still only once every few weeks or something) so I thought it was going back to normal but now it’s been a month and a half with no sex, no foreplay, making out or anything. Continue reading →

“Should I let my fiance have sex with another woman?

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Should I let him have another woman, just for sex? I have been with my fiancé on and off for over 10 years, and it’s been a solid relationship for the past 2 years. But, for the past 6 months, I just don’t care about sex anymore. I don’t desire it from anyone at all.

I’m still attracted to my fiancé, and I love him. But, I find no benefit from it. Some info to note, I have depression, hypothyroidism, am 4 months pregnant, and I’ve never had an orgasm during sex. I’ve accepted the fact that I never will. Although, even satisfying masturbation seldom sparks my interest. Continue reading →

“Will he ever be okay with me needing time to be ready?”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now, he’s my first boyfriend and our relationship was doing amazing. We’re both in college now and he’s really sweet, and we talk about our future together all the time.

However, he has told me many times that the sexual aspect is sub-par and he would like more from it. Lately he has been asking me to go down on him more and for me to start giving him bjs even though I’ve expressed to him many times that I’m really uncomfortable with doing that. Even though he tells me that all of his friends are doing it, it still really scares me. He’s been asking for about 6 months now and my idea of it hasn’t really changed. Continue reading →

“I didn’t tell her I’m HIV-positive”

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I’m 27 years old, male, and HIV-positive. I met a girl and slept with her several times without telling her about the HIV. We used condoms every time, and I am on medication and undetectable.

I know it was the wrong thing to do, not talking about it. Now I am worried if I tell her, in an attempt to come clean and potentially continue a relationship, she could also send me to jail.

What should I do?

“My boyfriend is driving me crazy”

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We were going strong. We went to prom together as our first date. We had an amazing relationship at first. But by the second month he started talking to one of his ex-girlfriends. She had moved on and had a boyfriend before he asked me out.

This caused a lot of fights between us. His ex hated me and tried breaking us up multiple times, because her boyfriend also used to like me. Eventually they came to an agreement (without me saying anything) to not talk. So things were fine until his other ex came into the picture. She started taking him on an emotional toll and making him upset all the time, which really made me upset, but i didn’t mention anything. Continue reading →

“How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

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How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?

My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. Continue reading →

“It’s almost a year since we last had sex”

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In February 2016 my hubby and I found out we were pregnant. We had a beautiful baby girl in November 2016.

My problem – we haven’t had sex since we conceived our daughter in February 2016! He thinks it’s gross now. That’s literally all he will tell me when I try and talk to him about it.

It’s almost a year since we last had sex!! Thoughts?

“I’m having sex even though I’m saying ‘no'”

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In high school, I was one of those people who just wanted to be accepted. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a boy who I thought I was in love with. (Cliche right?) Anyway, that started my downward spiral and I ended up having sex with several different people, just because it was easier to do it than to say no.

My reason behind that, is because on different occasions with two different people regardless if I said no, they continued to do sexual things to me and I would just let it happen because I assumed they would continue even if I fought it. Well, my boyfriend of three years knows all of this, and now sometimes he does this to me too. I will tell him to stop and he will continue even if I try to fight it. I feel like all of the progress I have made over the last few years is slowly withering away, and I do not want to be that person again. I am just scared that this is how it is going to be for the rest of my life….

“My relationships always go downhill after sex”

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Hi there. I just started dating this guy. We knew of each other for a little while, but recently have been talking/texting every day for almost a month. We have hung out one-on-one before, and I can tell that he really likes me. He says sweet things like that and is affectionate.

The problem is that I have these bad memories of dating guys or being interested in guys who used me, kept me around just to hook up with while being dishonest, and now I associate having sex with “the beginning of the end.” Continue reading →