How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?
My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. As for the part about not making her feel controlled, she has been in a relationship with a pretty controlling boyfriend who demands what she can and cannot do with her body. I don’t want her to feel that way. I love her too much but I just need her to consider me in her decision. When I heard her intentions, I mentioned to her how I’m not into tattoos as a whole, she responded that it’s fine because they wouldn’t be for me, they would be for her (her body).
This has made me a little restless. I don’t want to say the wrong thing to make her think I’m trying to be controlling of her. I need your advice on what I should say to her regarding the matter. I don’t want to come on too strongly and cause her to be defensive about it. Rather, I want her to go “hmm, he really doesn’t want me to get this, maybe I shouldn’t”.
Thank you for your time!