“How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?

My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. As for the part about not making her feel controlled, she has been in a relationship with a pretty controlling boyfriend who demands what she can and cannot do with her body. I don’t want her to feel that way. I love her too much but I just need her to consider me in her decision. When I heard her intentions, I mentioned to her how I’m not into tattoos as a whole, she responded that it’s fine because they wouldn’t be for me, they would be for her (her body).

This has made me a little restless. I don’t want to say the wrong thing to make her think I’m trying to be controlling of her. I need your advice on what I should say to her regarding the matter. I don’t want to come on too strongly and cause her to be defensive about it. Rather, I want her to go “hmm, he really doesn’t want me to get this, maybe I shouldn’t”.

Thank you for your time!

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3 thoughts on ““How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

  1. Vaingloriouspoopweasel says:

    If a girl getting a tattoo is enough of a turn off that you wouldn’t want to have sex with her, you don’t really love her for who she is and should probably find someone else.

    And if you don’t want to be controlling, quit trying to control what she does with her body.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Short answer. You don’t and when you love someone you love all of them, not just what you consider a physical blemish. Looks fade. Be with someone who makes you a better person, who will be there for you when times get rough. Right now you are only focused on what is outside her and not her heart, mind, or values.

    You should move on for her sake. She deserves a better person as a boyfriend.

  3. yeahbutwhatif says:

    She is right, it’s not for you. Her body, her choice. You can say you don’t like them and find them unattractive but that is about it. She makes the choice. One thing I would say is that if you can be turned by so little and are already low sex drive I would consider if feeling about her and what they are based on. If this is something she wants and does go ahead with it then it is part of who she is.

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