I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We were going strong. We went to prom together as our first date. We had an amazing relationship at first. But by the second month he started talking to one of his ex-girlfriends. She had moved on and had a boyfriend before he asked me out.
This caused a lot of fights between us. His ex hated me and tried breaking us up multiple times, because her boyfriend also used to like me. Eventually they came to an agreement (without me saying anything) to not talk. So things were fine until his other ex came into the picture. She started taking him on an emotional toll and making him upset all the time, which really made me upset, but i didn’t mention anything. About 5 months passed and he started asking me if I wanted a threesome. I never wanted to have one so every time I’d say no. This really upset him. And it was really starting to tick me off. About 7 months have passed, and he stopped asking about the threesome.
One day he told me he had to stay after work. Me, being as gullible as I am, didn’t think anything of it. It turns out that he went to this girl’s house (whom I knew and also knew had a boyfriend) and started flirting with her constantly. He came and picked me up after and we hung out at his house. After he took me home he went back to this girl’s house and had consensual sex with her. I figured this out a month later by him and the girl trying to confess.
A huge mess came along with this, and the girl claimed he raped her. Which was not true ,obviously. The law was involved and it got crazy. Eventually everything died down and I was still with him. Everyone told me to break up with him because of his actions. I couldn’t do that. Then about a month later, my boyfriend became really good friends with this girl, and I had my doubts. Then she introduced him to a friend of his, who I assumed was just a friend. It turned out (after I looked in his phone) they had been sending nudes back and forth. I felt betrayed and heartbroken for the millionth time. Our fighting got worse and I was so fed up with everything.
So basically I’m asking anyone out there, what am I supposed to do? I don’t want to break up with him, but he is driving me crazy. He tells me he is young and just wants to live a little. I call bullcrap. Please can anyone help me?