I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We were going strong. We went to prom together as our first date. We had an amazing relationship at first. But by the second month he started talking to one of his ex-girlfriends. She had moved on and had a boyfriend before he asked me out.
This caused a lot of fights between us. His ex hated me and tried breaking us up multiple times, because her boyfriend also used to like me. Eventually they came to an agreement (without me saying anything) to not talk. So things were fine until his other ex came into the picture. She started taking him on an emotional toll and making him upset all the time, which really made me upset, but i didn’t mention anything. About 5 months passed and he started asking me if I wanted a threesome. I never wanted to have one so every time I’d say no. This really upset him. And it was really starting to tick me off. About 7 months have passed, and he stopped asking about the threesome.
One day he told me he had to stay after work. Me, being as gullible as I am, didn’t think anything of it. It turns out that he went to this girl’s house (whom I knew and also knew had a boyfriend) and started flirting with her constantly. He came and picked me up after and we hung out at his house. After he took me home he went back to this girl’s house and had consensual sex with her. I figured this out a month later by him and the girl trying to confess.
A huge mess came along with this, and the girl claimed he raped her. Which was not true ,obviously. The law was involved and it got crazy. Eventually everything died down and I was still with him. Everyone told me to break up with him because of his actions. I couldn’t do that. Then about a month later, my boyfriend became really good friends with this girl, and I had my doubts. Then she introduced him to a friend of his, who I assumed was just a friend. It turned out (after I looked in his phone) they had been sending nudes back and forth. I felt betrayed and heartbroken for the millionth time. Our fighting got worse and I was so fed up with everything.
So basically I’m asking anyone out there, what am I supposed to do? I don’t want to break up with him, but he is driving me crazy. He tells me he is young and just wants to live a little. I call bullcrap. Please can anyone help me?
3 thoughts on ““My boyfriend is driving me crazy””
You should call bullcrap and you should move on like yesterday. Listen to your friends and family. They love you and see what a jerk he is.
He’s cheating/cheated on you multiple times now.
He’s gas lighting you into believing it’s your fault for not being harassed and pressured into a sex act you are against.
I know it’s hard when you still having feelings for him. Block him on all social media and so on. This will make things easier. Do not try to be friends. He’s the one doing all the damage here and he’ll just do more while he has you and a side girl. Cheaters don’t change over night or sometimes, ever. This one seems to be a narcissist too (look that up and I bet you’ll start seeing your boyfriend in the description.)
Sweetheart, you need to end things with him ASAP. He’s cheated on you several times and alls he can say to defend him is he “wants to live a little”. That’s a load of bull. You’re in a toxic relationship that I can see is causing you so much emotional pain. He’s abusing you. Even if he’s not hitting you. It’s still abuse. Emotional abuse. You need to get him out of your life so you can catch a break and let yourself heal. And maybe try again with someone else after awhile.
Please, for your own sanity, break up with him. The whole being young and wanting to live a little — it is bullshit. This guy has absolutely no regard for you mental health or well-being at all. If he sees no fault in what he does, please leave him and find your peace. I promise you that you will prosper without him. The universe has a funny way of dealing with people, and when you leave him your life will flourish while his might look great for a while… and then he will flop. When he does, he’s gonna need you to fall back on. Don’t give him that space because he will hurt you again. This is abusive behavior because if he cared for you he would end things with you so he can live a little, but clearly he wants someone to fall back on when things go awry. Reminder that you are beautiful and no girl deserves to go through this kind of torment, but “love” in an abusive relationship can make it difficult to understand that. I promise you that nothing is worth more than your peace.