“I’m sleeping with my co-worker”

I’ve been dating a guy from work for the last 3 months. We’ve worked together for a year, but things finally started recently. We go out when our busy schedules permit it, and we always have a good time. We started sleeping together. He compliments me, pleases me sexually (takes his time on me in the bedroom), and motivates me in so many other areas of life. He’s supportive and gives great advice.

Our communication has waned in the last few weeks but we still see each other and are intimate. We have only had sex about 5 or 6 times. I’m a very passive person, but I want to make sure our situation is not based on the physical. How can I approach the situation? Any tips on how to have this conversation? I do want to pursue a relationship with him but I want to protect myself from getting hurt.

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“My boyfriend has poor hygiene and nasty habits”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. For the last 3 years (since we moved in together) I have been pointing out his poor personal hygiene habits and overall cleanliness. He has made improvements, but I find it hard to be attracted to him as of late. He used to go 5 or 6 days without a shower and was wearing the same clothes every day to work.

He doesn’t work now, but wears the same thing every day at home. When I mention it he retorts with ‘he showers nightly now and should be able to wear the same house clothes.’ He makes me feel as tho I am nit picking…. am I? Continue reading

“I want to date my best friend’s ex”

My best friend and his girlfriend broke up. His girlfriend went on a mentally unstable bender. I comforted her and kept her safe all day. Thought she was suicidal and had to call an ambulance at one point (misunderstanding, she wasn’t suicidal). So happy she was alive. She said she shouldn’t be alone, came up to mine. We slept together. She stayed the following day and night.

We hung out since. The friend knows everything. She now said she can’t see me because she needs to get her head straight. Run into her and she looks right through me. I am very much in love with her. I know there was something special between us when we were together. I’m thinking of going for one last hurrah and asking her. If she says no I might move away. If she says yes I would happily give up everything I had to be with her. What do you guys think? Help.

“My boyfriend slept with his cousin”

My BF slept with his “cousin” and they live together. I found out because she called me to tell me she was his wife and raised his kids. At first it made sense why he never invited me to his home but later found out by him, that he wasn’t married, and it wasn’t his real cousin.

He confessed saying he slept with her a handful of times after his divorce and they grew up together and his aunt who couldn’t have kids raised her so they weren’t biological cousins. They live together and I asked for him to move out or she move out. So he agreed to moving out but needs about three months to get financially ready. Continue reading

“Does he just want to date me for sex?”

My friend set me up with a guy friend of hers. He texted me and we planned our first date. Our date went very well, we had dinner, drinks, dessert and made out a little at the end of the night. We texted a bit the next day and then I didn’t hear from him for a couple of days. When he finally texted again, he apologized for being MIA and we made plans for him to come by my place as I was ill.

He brought me some tea and soup. We watched a movie in my room and he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, without success, because I was sick. I asked if he’d like to get together the following day, he said yes, he’d be free after 7. Next day, sporadic texting and he didn’t end up being free until 11:30pm. I told him I was already in bed and let’s try again when we can hang earlier….no response. He went away for the weekend, so I figured I wouldn’t hear from him. I texted a quick, “hey stranger” 2 days after he got home, no response….that was 3 days ago. Yet he looked at my snapchat story, so I know he’s alive, but he hasn’t contacted me. I understand he’s a busy guy, but this is ridiculous. When we were planning our first date, the texts were frequent and answered almost immediately, now I get nothing. I thought we had really hit it off, but now nothing…..wtf?!

“Can I date another guy?”

I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months now. When I met him he had a girlfriend, he was slightly flirty but I never thought anything of it. I’ve always really kind of liked him but never did anything obviously, because he had a girlfriend.

They broke up about two months ago and a couple of weeks ago we kissed and have been texting non stop ever since. We ended up having sex a couple times as well over the past few weeks. We see each other every other day to hang out or to study since we are in the same college classes. I can’t seem to tell if he is talking to other girls or not. I want to ask him but I’m not sure how to bring up the convo because as I do want to date him I also understand that he is still kind of newly single and probably doesn’t want to rush into anything.

I’m also absolutely fine with just doing whatever we are doing. I just want to know if it is okay for me to go on a date with another boy if I was asked or if we are somewhat exclusive. Above all else I don’t want to hurt our friendship or whatever we have going on. Any advice?

“I cheated on my wife then gave her an STD”

I have been diagnosed with gonorrhea. Got from my sexscapdes outside of marriage. I am taking antibiotics now and getting better. I haven’t told my wife yet. But I think the symptoms are starting to appear on her. I just told her to have herself checked.

Im really confused because if I tell her then she’ll probably leave me. I think by the time she is diagnosed mine will be gone already. What do you think should I do? Thank you.

“I want us to have multiple sexual partners”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and I love him dearly. The problem is that I have the desire to sleep with other people, and having multiple partners is a turn on for me, but I still want to only be with my boyfriend emotionally and him with me.

He could sleep with other people too if he wanted, but I’ve dipped my toe in the water and he doesn’t seem interested in it and I don’t wanna leave him, but how can we be together if we aren’t on the same sexual desires? Opinions?

“I had sex and want to come clean”

Last year, I had sex with a guy, only to find out that he had a girlfriend. I honestly felt terrible because he continued to go on dates with her since, and she had no idea what happened. I recently found her social media and saw that she had posted a picture of them together.

I really want to come clean and tell her what happened between her boyfriend and me, but I am scared of what is going to happen next. I need advice on whether or not I should tell her, and I also need advice on what I would say if I told her.

“My boyfriend’s cold attitude is making me feel horrible”

I told my boyfriend today that his indifference and cold attitude towards me makes me feel horrible about myself. He won’t call me beautiful, won’t have sex with me, and spends every waking hour he can on his computer and ignoring me.

I told him it feels horrible that I always build him up and let him know how great he is, when in return he won’t even give me the time of day basically. I told him when he rejects me for sex, it’s more than just an “oh man I’m horny thing” and that having sex with him makes me feel sexy and empowered. He cooly responded that he was sorry sex was so validating for me.

I have manic depression and he used to be an uplifting part of my life but I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m in a tough spot as I live with him and feel like if I leave him it would put me in a position where I would need to find a new place and I don’t think that’s possible. I don’t know what to do.