“My partner and I are bored with our sex life”

My partner and I have both gotten bored with our sex life. We’ve tried different positions, different lubes, even different ways of foreplay. At one point we even put up a porno to watch while we were doing it and that didn’t help.

We need help. We both feel like we need to do something different but we can’t think of anything. Please give me some advice!

“My ex-boyfriend keeps using me for sex”

I’m heartbroken and tired of being “played with.” My ex and I broke up about two months ago, and I am still devastated. I genuinely feel like he forced me to break up with him, because the moment it was even suggested, he agreed and wouldn’t let me take it back.

I haven’t been living here very long. I moved here a couple of years ago, but, haven’t made very many close friends yet. He was my best, and almost only friend. I am friends with people I work with, but I don’t see them outside of work. He has lived here his whole life and has a good network of friends. While we were together, they were kind of my friends too.

After we broke up, he basically insisted on staying friends. I have tried this in the past and know that this is very hard to do! Continue reading

“How can I make sex good for my girlfriend again?”

I’ve been with my girlfriend for three years now, and things haven’t been so great in our sex life for at least two. I have a premature ejaculation problem, which sort of just started happening a year into our relationship. Our sex life has gone from a daily thing we both enjoyed, to an awkward thing we hardly ever do anymore.

We have talked a lot about this issue and we have come to the conclusion that the only thing that can help is more sex, but that’s just the problem now — she needs me to make it good for her again for her to even want sex with me. It seems like she is avoiding any opportunities in which I could initiate sex, and it’s not easy to get an opportunity as we live in a small house with flat mates who are always around. Continue reading

“Did I cheat on my boyfriend?”

Well, basically, me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly two years, and for the last few months he hasn’t been giving me what I need physically (even just like hugs and stuff, and of course, sex). It’s just because he isn’t a very physical person, and he used to be just for my sake (which he didn’t tell me until recently) and he wanted those things too at the time. I am very much deeply in love with him, but recently we’ve been going through a hard time as he doesn’t think the “spark” is there, and often he’ll joke about us splitting up.

Anyway, last night I stayed in a different part of the country for work and after work me and some colleges went out for a few drinks and cocktails. We all got drunk, and I was staying at my friends for easiness, and to save on a hotel. When we got into bed, he started kissing my face and hair, and things somehow escalated (he asked me if it was what I wanted, and I replied that I think so, but we were drunk, so I didn’t mean it at all) then he started kissing my mouth and fingering me, and because I was drunk, I just let him, but when he tried to put his penis in me, I refused. Also I refused him this morning when he tried to put his penis in me again. I felt a bit violated since he kept trying after I’d said no, and when he said it would be our secret, I told him that we couldn’t do it and pushed him away.

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“I’d spend my last dime on my girlfriend if I could”

So, my girlfriend and I have been together a few months and she is complaining to other people that I’m not getting her hints for sexual attention. I’m also a virgin, and she is aware of this fact. We share the same birthday, and every time I try to set up what we want to drink, or where we are going, or what we are doing, she gets distracted or says, “I don’t know” and shrugs it off.

Is this a sign that she isn’t really feeling the relationship? Do I just idly sit by and hope she feels comfortable enough to talk to me about how to respond to her moves, or make moves of my own? She talks to me all the time about how she has eloped in this parking garage or corrupted that parking lot. When I try to ask what she is comfortable with, she says, “We will get there when we get there.” It’s to the point that I kinda just exist in the room with her, and am relatively indifferent unless I’m getting inebriated with her. I know that’s not healthy, but I’ll be 21 in a few days, and she will be 19.

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One Night Oral

I’m 18. The other day I got a little frisky with one of my friends. It was his first time for everything, even just kissing a girl, but not mine, for the past few days I’ve been feeling really anxious about what happened, I have a constant knot in my stomach and I can sense some feelings towards him. I didn’t want this to happen and he hasn’t text me or anything and I just wanna sort things out. He’s not been in any relationship before and being his friend I know that he gets attached quite easily, I don’t know if that’s going to be the case with me. I can’t tell if I want this to go anywhere either. Are these real feelings or am I just feeling like this because of the intimacy we shared. Please help!