“My relationships always go downhill after sex”

Hi there. I just started dating this guy. We knew of each other for a little while, but recently have been talking/texting every day for almost a month. We have hung out one-on-one before, and I can tell that he really likes me. He says sweet things like that and is affectionate.

The problem is that I have these bad memories of dating guys or being interested in guys who used me, kept me around just to hook up with while being dishonest, and now I associate having sex with “the beginning of the end.” Continue reading

“I get giddy for my husband’s co-worker after our foursome sex party”

I’ve been married for almost 3 years now. In the 5 years we have been together, I’ve NEVER once had eyes for anyone else, I’ve just been madly in love and loyal to him.

Until I met his co-worker 3 weeks ago. My husband invited him and his girlfriend over to play pool and have some drinks, and we were all having such a good time getting to know each other. A couple drinks turned into several, then we all found ourselves in a very, very odd predicament….. Continue reading

“I like this girl but she is still into another guy”

I really like this girl, and she says she likes me too. But at the same time she is still open about how she’s not over this guy she’s been having sex with for about a year. I’ve talked to her about it and she said she’ll tell me when she’s over him, but I don’t know when that’ll be. My question is – Should I just ghost her until I don’t feel anything for her anymore, or should I continue to cuddle with her and try to win her over, even when I know she likes and is probably still having sex with another guy??

Info – We’re both college students, we go to school together, the boy she can’t get over lives four hours away in her home town.

“My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me”

My husband of two years doesn’t want to have sex with me. I’m a fairly attractive individual, and my husband has NO interest in sex at all. He watches porn all the time, but since he has touched me, it’s been around six months.

And before that, it was another four. We have had sex three times in the span of a year. He says it’s because he has gained weight (70 pounds) and he is ashamed of himself. His attitude towards me is still the same. He still jokes with me, and he’s still my best friend. I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. I’ve tried coming onto him, wearing lingerie, buying toys, asking him if he wants to invite anyone else in… but nothing works. He doesn’t want anything to do with it. He is only 30, and should still have a healthy sex drive. Please help.

“Will I be okay seeing my husband with another girl?”

I don’t know how to put this … I have a very REAL fantasy of using a strap-on. I am a woman.
My husband and I do anal regularly, but now I feel I want to return the favor. He is very taken aback by this fantasy of mine. I just can’t shake the feeling though. It turns me on immensely! I think about it very regularly.

When my husband met me, I was dating a woman. The sex was average (no toys). So I’ve asked my husband if he’d be willing to let me do it to him, as I was willing to try — and now enjoy — anal for him.

I have told him that I am willing to get a third party (a girl) in. Understandably, he asked if he could do the same to this girl. This is all in talks, and he says he really needs to sit down and think about all of this before he decides anything. I’m just worried about how I’d react to seeing him with another girl. I know I’d love to do her, but would I be okay watching my husband do her? Continue reading

“He acted romantic, but then didn’t want anything serious”

I got matched with this guy on Tinder. We talked for a couple of days and decided to meet up. The first planned meeting didn’t happen because he was too tired from work. Yup, he is flaky! But it eventually happened a few days later, when he had his off day from work. It was plain getting to know each other through a meal and a couple of drinks. He walked me to the bus station, I went home and that was it. Nothing physical. Didn’t realise the purpose of Tinder changed!

We texted almost daily after that. I invited him over to mine for our second meeting. We had sex. And a couple of times more across a few weeks. Then, it turned out weird. We started going on romantic dates. We walked the park. We explored some new places. We watched movies. We met up for dinners. Sometimes with sex after, sometimes without. It got really confusing. We would cuddle all night and have breakfast together. It wasn’t just about sex anymore.

From the beginning, we assured each other that we don’t want anything serious, especially since I am leaving the country in a year time. But, eventually, I got attached and I confronted him. He then said he doesn’t want to take things further and would only like to meet sometimes and sleep together. Continue reading

“I slept with a guy I met at a conference”

I went to this international scientific conference halfway around the world from where I am from. On the first day of the conference, I met this awesome guy whom I have connected with during that night’s social event. We connected so well that we ended up being the last ones to go from the conference hall. The night ended with a friendly hug.

Then the second day came, we saw each other again (it was a relatively small crowd so it was inevitable to miss people). The conference being an opportunity to network and meet other people, I tried to open myself and converse with other humans. However, every time I tried to strike a conversation with anyone (especially males) he’d always be there to try and befriend the guys I am talking to or just plainly steal the conversation and grabbing my attention. He invited me to hang out with him the second night, but I accidentally stood him up because I fell asleep (credits to jet lag). Continue reading

“I get nauseous every time we get sexual”

I need help. So I’ve been seeing this girl for months now and everything with her is perfect, until we get into the bedroom. Every time without fail anything gets even remotely sexual with her, I start to feel REALLY nauseous, to the point where I have on multiple occasions run off and had to throw up. It could be anything from fooling around on the couch, to even just lying next to her in bed.

We’re both virgins, but want to get into the more real stuff soon. I’m worried this will get in the way, and could use some advise. I’m a perfectly healthy person, and it is in fact rare for me to be ill or to throw up, so this is all really confusing for me. Might be worth mentioning I get this feeling when I’m with her in a restaurant too, and we’re just finishing food, a very sudden nausea feeling which I can’t ignore and am forced to run off quickly to the toilet.

“I’m breastfeeding and don’t want my husband touching my breasts”

My husband and I have three kids, and I am still breastfeeding the youngest. I’ve requested that while I’m still breastfeeding, I really don’t want him to touch my breasts. They just have a different sensitivity right now, and it doesn’t feel good at all. In fact, it puts me out of the mood almost instantly if anything touches my nipples, to the point that I don’t even go bra-less at night.

This being our third child, these limitations are nothing new. The last time we had sex, though, he kept reaching for my breasts. I was trying to subtly push him away, but he wasn’t getting the message, or at least was pretending he doesn’t. Now I don’t know whether to mention it to him, but it’s been several weeks, and I still DREAD having sex because I think he might do it again. Continue reading

“This guy I used to hook up with is now my neighbor”

This guy I used to hook up with is now my neighbor.

About a year ago, I met this guy from class. He was cute, charming, and I was definitely attracted to him. I just got out of a long-term relationship, so I felt ready to get out there.

We hung out casually, and finally went out. On that night, we hooked up. I felt good because it was the first time I got back out there after my breakup. We hung out a few times after that, but stopped talking after a while.

Close to a year later, I see that he’s my neighbor. He instantly texts me and after talking for a bit, he asks to come over. I knew exactly what he wanted, -and I wanted the same thing. We hooked up again. It was strange this time around – meaning little chemistry. I think it was mainly because we didn’t talk and just went straight to it. Continue reading