“I want us to have multiple sexual partners”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and I love him dearly. The problem is that I have the desire to sleep with other people, and having multiple partners is a turn on for me, but I still want to only be with my boyfriend emotionally and him with me.

He could sleep with other people too if he wanted, but I’ve dipped my toe in the water and he doesn’t seem interested in it and I don’t wanna leave him, but how can we be together if we aren’t on the same sexual desires? Opinions?


“I had sex and want to come clean”

Last year, I had sex with a guy, only to find out that he had a girlfriend. I honestly felt terrible because he continued to go on dates with her since, and she had no idea what happened. I recently found her social media and saw that she had posted a picture of them together.

I really want to come clean and tell her what happened between her boyfriend and me, but I am scared of what is going to happen next. I need advice on whether or not I should tell her, and I also need advice on what I would say if I told her.

“My boyfriend’s cold attitude is making me feel horrible”

I told my boyfriend today that his indifference and cold attitude towards me makes me feel horrible about myself. He won’t call me beautiful, won’t have sex with me, and spends every waking hour he can on his computer and ignoring me.

I told him it feels horrible that I always build him up and let him know how great he is, when in return he won’t even give me the time of day basically. I told him when he rejects me for sex, it’s more than just an “oh man I’m horny thing” and that having sex with him makes me feel sexy and empowered. He cooly responded that he was sorry sex was so validating for me.

I have manic depression and he used to be an uplifting part of my life but I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m in a tough spot as I live with him and feel like if I leave him it would put me in a position where I would need to find a new place and I don’t think that’s possible. I don’t know what to do.

“Our sex life has gone downhill”

I tell my girlfriend what I want in sex. I need her to be more spontaneous about things. She’s super sensitive about me touching her. It’s been 5 years and I feel like my sex life isn’t where it needs to be in the relationship. Am I overreacting about the situation?

“My boyfriend’s circumcision is leaving me unsatisfied”

Hey! I have a question about a situation I’m having with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and we just recently started exploring intimacy in all forms; sexual, emotional, etc.  A little background on my man, he had a surgery three years ago for a circumcision, and for a very long time he masturbated and now can’t get off on just the vagina.

I personally get off when my man ejactulates because of my mouth, or my body, but this is not the case. He would finish with his hand and I would be left somewhat unsatisfied and sometimes even feel sad after we finish. He can make me cum, but I always prefer it if it were with his penis, not his hands. I believe his masturbation is getting in the way of this.

My question is, how do I tell him that I am unsatisfied because of this problem, all while making it clear that I still love him and do not insult his manhood? Please get back to me as soon as you can!

“My guy doesn’t want to have sex with me”

The guy I have been seeing for the last few months is hesitant to want to have sex yet, which I am very much okay with. The last thing I would want to do is have someone take things faster than they are comfortable with. We are both in our mid 20’s, and have both had multiple sexual partners before each other.

My concerns come from his reason for not wanting to have sex yet. When we discuss it, I hear a lot of “you deserve better than to jump right into sex” and “we often don’t see each other due to my schedule and it’s not fair of me to expect you to give it up on my schedule”. We have talked about how I’m very interested in going ahead and having sex, and that those wants are based on my own pleasure not his.

I hope someone can shed some of their own insights into this situation.

“I feel unsatisfied and used for sex”

My partner of seven years lately hasn’t been satisfying me.

Just today, I was off my period and ready to go. It felt amazing and he cums and just rolls over as if it was nothing. He goes on these sites pretending to be me, (this is his fetish and yes, I gave him permission for it.) He uploads my nudes (without face.)

He gets off on the fact that other men get off to my body. But when he goes to have sex with me, it’s like he kinda uses me and is done. I don’t know what to do, it has me really pissed off now. I love the man to death, but I’m tired of feeling unsatisfied and used for sex. Everything else in our relationship is great,  just sexually it’s lacking.

“Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?”

Someone who I have been kind of friends with for a while ended up hanging out with me one night. We had sex and since then have been doing the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing with no title whatsoever. I feel like she likes me a lot more than I like her at the moment.

This has been going on for about a month and last week I met another girl at a school event and we hit it off. We’ve been texting ever since then and I feel that she likes me, because of a lot of flirtation in our messages. I think I like her too, she is very attractive but I’m not sure what to do.

Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?  Do I wait until me and the second girl are actually dating before I stop with first one? To make it even more complicated girl two, who I like more, and is more attractive, is only a sophomore in high school, while me and girl one are seniors. I turn 18 very soon but she claims that she already told her parents about me and that they were cool with us going on a date. Please help me.