I started dating this guy on September 16th, and my birthday is October 12th. He’s my first real boyfriend, my first kiss. But is it okay to give him my virginity? Especially if there’s no way to hide that from my parents, who told me not to give my virginity to my first boyfriend? He’s planning something sexual for my birthday, he’s already hinted at it. He’s said things like, “me, you, and nobody else.” I really want to do it, but I’ll be turning 16 and I don’t know if it’s okay to give my virginity to my first boyfriend, especially after having been with him for only three weeks, give or take a day or two. So, can I give him my virginity, taking all this into consideration?
(P.S: Yes, we’ve said we love each other. And I really do love him.)
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Virginity isn’t a /thing/ you can give to a person, it’s more or less a social construct. That said, NOBODY should be pressuring you for sex. Parents will always warn against it, they don’t want you contracting an STI or becoming pregnant at a time that could severely impact your life. There are ways to explore your relationship and your sexuality safely, but do not let this boy dictate when and how you make your choices for your body. If it doesn’t feel right, if you’re not ready, you have every right to say “no” and he must respect that.
Hi, I totally understand where you’re coming at. Honestly, if he’s worth your time, he will be okay when he hears about how concern you are if its the time right. From my experience, I knew when I wanted to and when it was the right time for me. If you read more about that, I have a lot of that stuff on my blog. Go check it out. Here is my most recent post https://gosh-boys.com/2017/11/02/open-letter-thank-you/.