Well, let me tell you my story. Ever since I could remember, my parents fought a lot, the times they got along were really rare, and so precious memories I’ll always keep. Then they got divorced, which was not really that surprising. I got to see my dad about once every other month. Like two years later, my mom got a boyfriend. Which was cool and all, since it meant my mom was getting better.Then my dad passed away, a sudden heart attack. I felt so bad.. I didn’t get to say goodbye, and I never really told him that I loved him. So now, my mom’s boyfriend lost his job and moved in with us. I hate it so much, I hate it when he thinks this is his home, when he tries to teach me ‘life lessons’, the way he talks, the way he laughs… I don’t like it. I don’t feel free in my own home, I want him out of here. He’s so uneducated yet he acts like he knows it all.
I know it sounds so childish but this is the only place I can think of expressing my feelings in. No, I don’t act like a spoiled brat in front of him. I try to smile and laugh it off when he annoys me.
Basically, no one knows I loathe him. These feelings are locked away inside me, and I don’t know if I can keep doing this. I feel like I’m going to explode at any moment..
Well, that’s it. If you read all of that, thank you very much. Any advice would be very much appreciated.
3 thoughts on ““Am I a bad person for hating my mom’s boyfriend?””
Talk to a professional? Find a friend, find a way to channel your thoughts… it helped me. Those feelings could be coming from somewhere else, you might be misplacing or confusing those emotions with something else. If you don’t like him because You just don’t like him (it happens) work on finding ways to healthily relieve yourself. What i did was just focus on how my mother seemed to be happy and that helped me until I moved out and I no longer had to deal with whatever was bothering me..
However, when I look back, I can see that he was just trying to connect with me, in his own way. We are humans, we are flawed and it is part of our design.. I was kind of mean in the past and I regret that and he wasn’t always the nicest person to me but in general he did take care of me or he tried to and he did take care of my mum and made her happy and like I said I moved out and made my own life and those feelings went away. I actually wish I was a bit more open and nicer to him because he was just trying to be himself and to be nice and accepting of me and trying to be accepted, himself. As for the life lessons, seems like he’s just trying to help, I hope. If you really don’t like hearing what he has to say you can find a nice way to communicate that to him. Some people have their heads up their asses and think they’re know-it-alls. And some people are just confident in themselves even if they’re wrong.. I also had to face that.. sometimes biting your tongue and knowing that you yourself are correct has to be enough. Keep writing. Release it. It’s better than storing negative emotions inside. You’ll just manifest it into your reality in some kind of way. Is he really that bad? Or is he kind of a punching bag for you? I hope you can see where I am coming from. Just focus on yourself; your life will change again, soon. “This too shall pass” but yeah trust me you don’t wanna be making him a focus lol
Also, no. You’re not a “bad” person 🙂
You are not a bad person. I would talk to your school counselor. Sometimes just talking about it helps. As soon as you can get a job and move out. That will help tremendously, because then you no longer have that feeling of helplessness and you have somewhere to escape to. I had both stepmothers and a stepfather. Also, I’m sorry for your loss. internet hugs