Tag: marriage

“My wife and stepson don’t respect me”

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Me and my wife have been together for 8 years, married for just over 3. She has a 10-year-old son from a previous relationship.

When we first got together, all was great. My stepson loved and enjoyed being around me, so we got engaged.

However, slowly over the years, my wife has left a lot of things to me in terms of housework, cooking and tidying our flat, doesn’t speak to me with an awful lot of respect, and is very often short with me when the situation really doesn’t call for it (I think of myself as a nice guy who doesn’t like confrontation).

The knock-on effect of the way she is has also caused my stepson to lack any sort of respect for me and treat me like dirt. If I try to stand up to him, my wife will just undermine my authority by visibly criticizing my parenting skills in front of him, to the point where I now walk out of the room if I can see he’s doing something he shouldn’t, because I know that if I react, then I will have my authority undermined again (when I do try to discipline him all I get is her moaning that we should stop arguing, rather than standing by what I have to say). Continue reading →

“I got drunk and cheated on my husband”

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I absolutely love my husband and believe he is my soulmate. We have gone through some pretty bad times together, but are happier than ever now. We mostly have a very open relationship, where we can talk to each other about many things.

Long story short, I have a minor issue with alcohol, where I lose my shit when I drink alcohol, and just do a bunch of stupid things. I leave a trail of destruction after a night out. I have stopped for three months at a time a few times because I have just hated myself so much after my actions on some nights out. I wish I had been able to stop altogether, but I guess I couldn’t. Continue reading →

“I was left out of a threesome”

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Anyone ever get left out of a threesome? The wife and I (we are mid 20’s) had a threesome awhile back. It ended up being just the girls that played. I would try to get involved and barely receive anything. Has this happened to anyone else? Do you think it’s more of me not being what the other girl wanted as far as looks?

Now we are trying again, but all the girls we talk to seem to only want her, which makes me happy for her. But it’s like well, fuck, I don’t want to just watch and thanks for making me feel like shit.

Are we just talking to girls that only want other girls, or am I that unattractive? Might be harder to answer without pics but realistically I’m not expecting much insight/help.

“I’m married, but can’t stop fantasizing about someone else”

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I am married and have never been unfaithful. I love my wife.

I have a friend I have known for years who I cannot get out of my thoughts. I have been drawn to her like a magnet since the day we met. I have never crossed the line with her, but I feel guilt because I have dreamed and fantasized about her. I value our friendship and I don’t understand why she has this effect on me.

Does this make me a bad husband?

“My wife won’t stop texting her guy friends”

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Should I stay or leave? We’ve been married for five years, dated for seven, have two kids, life great, no problems.

So here it is: my wife has always had guy friends. Before we met, she had slept with a few of them. So, when we started dating, I requested that they keep their distance. Fast forward to a year ago when I picked her up, very drunk, from night out. I found a text on her phone to one of these guys from the past whom she slept with saying “what you at.”

A fight started and she says that she can’t remember why she would text.

Fast forward.

She’s in a new job, and has met friends (guys & girls). She’s friendly with one guy, which is okay, but she wouldn’t stop talking about him every day and about what they got up to, and texting with him constantly. I sat down with her and explained that guy friends are okay, but this guy was getting too close. She said she would back off and respect my boundaries — just talk at work, but stop texting all day. Continue reading →

“I’m married, but can’t stop thinking about an old friend”

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So, I have a friend whom I’ve known for twelve years. We only just got back in contact within the last two years. He helped me start my career — got me reconnected to what I wanted to do. He has listened to me cry, and talk about my fears and concerns.

We have slept together three times. He said to me, “I don’t want to be offensive, but, I see our friendship, and my attraction to you as separate.” I think I am starting to have strong feelings for him, but I think he has said where he stands from that. He has also said “we would destroy each other” when I said I wish we got together when he had feelings for me, and I turned him down (12 years ago).

I am now married — to an amazing man, and I have turned into a 15-year-old. I don’t know how to move on.

“I’m ready to be married, but he keeps making excuses”

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I have been with my boyfriend for three-and-a-half years and living together for two-and-a-half years. We bought a house together one-and-a-half years ago and decided then to start trying to get pregnant (we have a big age gap and time is of the essence). We now have a four-month-old baby. We have an awesome relationship and love each other very much, however, marriage has been on the table for the last couple years.

He has been telling me he wants to save for a ring. I didn’t push it too much before, but now that the baby’s been here for a while, I would really like to get the ball rolling. It’s just a personal preference for me. I’d like to be married especially now that we have a kid together. I did tell him just before the baby was born that I no longer cared about a ring, but he was adamant about it.

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“My boyfriend won’t marry me unless I lose weight”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now. When we began dating, I weighed close to 210 pounds, then dropped to 140, and am now back up to 168.

Recently, he let me know that he doesn’t want to get married until I am in better shape. Obviously, this crushed me, but, he said marriage is forever, and he does not want to have the urge to cheat on me with women who are in better shape.

In the mean time, he assures me he is committed to me, and is very much in love.

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“My husband is obsessed with other girls”

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My husband is in a group text with a bunch of his coworkers, and all they talk about are hot girls and constantly send pictures of naked or half-naked girls. Some are famous, some  are Instagram models, and some are girls they hook up with. My husband chimes in occasionally by just agreeing that one of the girls is good looking.

Today I saw that one of his friends sent a picture of a girl’s vagina that he had recently had sex with. My husband replied with “I like that p**sy a lot. Definitely down to bang her if you want.” Then someone else wrote “he’s obsessed. He wants to eat it so bad” (talking about my husband).

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“How can I revive my marriage?”

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I have been married for almost 20 years. For 10 of those years, I have lived apart from my wife. There are no jobs in my hometown, and I am eager to work. With that being the case, I have been working out of town for the past 10 years. I have moved back into town for short stints over the year, but the best employment has always been elsewhere.

She has never wanted to move with me. It has always been the house from her previous marriage, the kids, the job, the church, the family, or the friends. Recently, something changed. I used to drive four hours each way every week to be with her. All of a sudden, I didn’t want to be with her anymore. I told her that I wanted a divorce. A better man would have been able to tell his woman to quit her job and join him in the new location, but that is not me. I work government contracts, and they are usually for less than a year in length. When I told her that I wanted a divorce, she told me that she wanted to meet every weekend in our midway point. The midway point is my house, which is midway between where I work and where she lives. I said no, she showed up anyway. She wanted to remain in contact throughout the end of the year. I agreed. Not because I wanted to, but because she seemed to need it.

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