Hi guys, first time I have used anything like this, but I need advice really bad. I am currently halfway through being 18 and breezing through University life.
6 months ago, on my 18th birthday, I got a message from a girl I used to be really close friends with, and it was odd as I had not seen or had contact with her for 6 years. Obviously, it was my 18th birthday and I was a little drunk and as a result, I messed up the conversation and it was awkward and cringeworthy to read back the next morning.
I then thought that any opportunity of rekindling a friendship with her had passed as I messed up (for a while I thought I could message her apologizing for the conversation, explaining I was drunk, but it seemed false and even if it would be a good move, the moment has passed).
6 months down the line and there has still been no contact, but I can’t stop thinking about her.
It may seem a little weird and creepy, but when we were young we had the sort of friendship where we didn’t understand what a relationship was, so nothing really came of it and it was the sort of age where it was “uncool” to hang out with a girl (lol).
I guess I don’t have the courage to message her, in fear of rejection or if she doesn’t feel the same way and I wouldn’t know where to start, or what excuse I would have to message her in the first place.
I’m not very social media savvy so I missed her birthday and the opportunity that could have come along with it. I sort of hope when we both get back from University that we bump into each other in the street so I can start up a normal conversation with her then, but in the 6 years of me not seeing her at all, despite living in the same medium-sized town, I doubt that will happen now.
I basically want some advice about how I can try and get back in contact with her after my hiccup on my birthday and to try and become friends with her again, as I just can’t shake her off my mind and I have inexplicably strong feelings for her, even though I haven’t seen her for so long.
I have tried asking the girls in my flat, but they aren’t useful at all and just tell me to message her with no advice as to how I should approach it. The guys I have asked as well just tell me to forget about her and move on, but I can’t.
I can’t stop thinking as to why she decided to message me all of a sudden for my 18th as if I was on her mind for some reason rather than doing the standard happy birthday post on Facebook. Basically, I need some advice on how to approach this situation or if I should just leave it and carry on with life. Thanks in advance for any replies.