I am dating a guy. We recently went out of the country together. When we were away, he let one of his guy friends (whom I have never met) drive my car, and he lied to me about it. I found out because I found a receipt in the car, and when I asked him about it, he lied initially. I asked him again, and he came clean. I was annoyed, but tried not to get too upset about it. I have a tendency to overreact. He didn’t understand my being upset. Was I wrong for being annoyed by this?
Tag: dating
“I like him, but he’s so attached to his mother”
I’m a single mom with 3 girls ages 2, 3, and 5. I’ve been single for about 2 years now and just recently met a great guy. He’s also a single parent with a little girl, age 9. He’s a pilot so he frequently travels.
His mother lives with him because while he’s gone, she takes care of his little girl. Which I think is sweet! He’s a good guy and seems very willing to be a part of my kids’ lives and he’s very understanding of my busy schedule. We’ve only been on 3 dates within the past month.
I’m basically new to dating after being in a very long (abusive) relationship and I need to take it slow and casual at first. But the only thing is, this guy is soooo attached to his mother. Which I think is nice BUT he asked me if it was okay to bring her along our last date. It was at the park to let our kiddos play so I said sure. But thought it was a little strange and I honestly wasn’t ready for all that. She ended up not coming and it sounds bad, but I was relieved. Continue reading
“He didn’t know what he wanted two years ago, but now wants to see me”
I dated a man (whom I met through a personal friend) back in ’14. Whilst things were going great at first, I decided after a pull back and keep things friendly. After a while I just realized that he honestly didn’t know what he wanted, didn’t know where he was going in life and simply put wasn’t ready for a relationship. Despite the fact that there was an age difference. I’m now 31 he’s 41.
We kept in contact and met up occasionally but again, I kept things casual and as friends despite the fact that he continued to give me mixed messages. He would continue to flirt with me, be touchy, want to spend time together, etc. Our mutual friend didn’t understand really what was happening there either. But I eventually moved on and started seeing my ex (wasn’t planned at all) but life goes on.
Early last year, he told me that he started seeing someone. I was happy for him and told him I was in a good place as well and that I had reconnected with my ex and that we were expecting (wasn’t planned either but was completely awesome nonetheless). He got completely saddened by it (strange for someone who didn’t know what he wanted when we were dating and was now in a relationship with someone else) and drilled me about my ex. Continue reading
“He acted romantic, but then didn’t want anything serious”
I got matched with this guy on Tinder. We talked for a couple of days and decided to meet up. The first planned meeting didn’t happen because he was too tired from work. Yup, he is flaky! But it eventually happened a few days later, when he had his off day from work. It was plain getting to know each other through a meal and a couple of drinks. He walked me to the bus station, I went home and that was it. Nothing physical. Didn’t realise the purpose of Tinder changed!
We texted almost daily after that. I invited him over to mine for our second meeting. We had sex. And a couple of times more across a few weeks. Then, it turned out weird. We started going on romantic dates. We walked the park. We explored some new places. We watched movies. We met up for dinners. Sometimes with sex after, sometimes without. It got really confusing. We would cuddle all night and have breakfast together. It wasn’t just about sex anymore.
From the beginning, we assured each other that we don’t want anything serious, especially since I am leaving the country in a year time. But, eventually, I got attached and I confronted him. He then said he doesn’t want to take things further and would only like to meet sometimes and sleep together. Continue reading
“Have I permanently lost interest in having intimate relationships?”
I am a 45 year-old, divorced, heterosexual male. Lately I am satisfied watching 10 minutes of porn and jerking off. I have lost interested in all the work involved with dating and trying to find a meaningful relationship. Is this is a short term problem or is this who I have become for the rest of my life?
“She still has feelings for her cheating ex”
I met this girl at a place and we started inboxing. After a week-and-a-half, we went on a date of sorts where she told me she liked me and I admitted that I liked her too. She almost kissed me that day, but I backed off, knowing she had to sort out stuff with her ex. Anyway, the next day we met again and she came over to my place and she stayed for the night and for next few days to come we practically lived together going to work and coming back and the whole deal.
On our first night we discussed that she needed to make the decision that 100% being with me or nothing. After 4-5 days she meets up with her ex and she rediscovers her feelings for her ex, who’s a profound skirt chaser and had cheated on her multiple times and still she decided to go back while I was better at everything. Now this stuff is messing with my head I really did like this girl … what should I do?
“Is she interested in me?”
I’m 26m, independent person, met a girl introduced by a mutual friend. Hit it off quite well, she’s independent too, about my age.
Asked her out for some desserts and coffee and she said yes. Texted very little because I prefer to see her and not be a text buddy (I found that I always initiated first). Offered her to pick her up, but she prefers to meet at the place, so we met at the place and hit it off really well. We talked for almost 4 hours effortlessly, didn’t felt like it was that long, she had to go cause she had a family dinner and I offered to walk her to her car. She initiated text by saying she reached home and had a good time.
During the date, she showed signs like playing with her hair and sharing some very deep personal stuff talking about her life on top of the casual stuff we talked about having fun.
I maintain texting her, initiating every about 2 days and she replied rather quickly, and there was teasing and I threw a bit of sexual double meanings to indirectly let her know that I want her and not to be a friend and she played along with me. Continue reading
“I keep falling for guys I meet on Tinder”
After a heartbreak years ago, I’ve since been on a weird Tinder spree. I was a virgin at the beginning of the year, and have since slept with seven or eight men.
The trouble is, along he way I’ve met a couple of guys I fell hard for, which make me decided to delete Tinder, because I can’t keep reliving this cycle of heartbreak and then needing validation. I’ve never been in a long-term relationship and have absolutely no idea how to handle one. Continue reading
“The women I date seem to think I only want a casual hookup”
Would definitely appreciate any insights you might have on the following dilemma!
As a bit of background, I’m a man in my late twenties, well educated, confident, and an all round good guy. I never had a whole lot of success with women as a younger man, but now that I I’m all grown up, I’ve been rather successful in courting, dating, and romancing women.
I do however have a very specific and seemingly unorthodox problem.
Conventional wisdom might suggest that expressions of physical intimacy are an indicator of a burgeoning relationship. However, on many occasions the more physically intimate I become with a woman I’m dating (over the course of the first few dates), the more reticence/resistance I encounter on subsequent dates when intimating or initiate intimacy.
If I can distill some of the feedback I’ve received from women, I get the impression that the ladies in question might sense a predictable ending to dates, and/or feel that the date was just a perfunctory prequel to intimacy, and/ or seem to be wanting something “more” on dates (whether that is more face time, more fun, or more of a connection, I don’t know), and/or that I just want to “hook up.” Continue reading
“Should I treat this as a date or just a friendly outing?”
A few months ago, this girl I like invited me to her party. I go, talk with her, talk with her friends, have a pretty nice time, but didn’t really make a move on her there. Afterwards, I send her a simple “thanks for the invite” text and ask her to do something. She gives me no response. Bums me out a great deal, so I go about everything else. A few months later, on my birthday, I post a before and after picture of myself since New Year’s (I dropped 20 pounds). She likes the pic, gives me a happy birthday post, and actually suggests doing what I was asking her to do.
I won’t be able to see her for about another month, but just wondering, should I treat this as a date or just a friendly outing? Advice appreciated.
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