“He holds money over me”

So my boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. Moved in together 8 months ago. I make significantly less money than him, and he makes significantly more than average. He pays the rent, I pay the rest of the bills (electric, water, trash, cable, etc). He always holds it over me that he pays for everything, while I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, and such to make up for what I can’t pay.

Sometimes I feel like he needs to up his end, cook or clean, anything really. Also, my car needs tires, and he offered to buy (as my Xmas gift) USED tires for me…. I said no and that he’s being cheap but how do I go about getting him to be less stingy, and/or stop holding money over me??

 

“Concerned mom!”

Hello! My daughter recently got pregnant and decided to terminate the pregnancy about 2 weeks ago. (we have respected her choice although it was very hard.) She has been with her boyfriend for about a year and we are meeting him for the first time soon, as he is coming to stay with us for 4 days.

We already let him know we want to discuss the matter with him because we are very concerned about how much he cares about her. He has cheated and given her an std once before and obviously they do not have safe sex or a healthy relationship. Any advice on how to have a productive discussion and questions would be so helpful!

 

“I’m fantasizing about another man”

I have a problem.. so I’ve been with my bf for a while now, we dated for 7 months, broke up for a while, and now we’re back together for almost 6 months. I got back with him because I thought I loved him, but recently I feel like our relationship is falling apart.

Everything he does annoys me and makes me feel unwanted and I keep fantasizing about another man, and I also want to talk/tell everything to the other man instead of my boyfriend. I don’t know what this means considering I haven’t talked to the other man in six months since me and bf got back together, so why am I thinking about him so much now? And what do I do about my boyfriend? I’m so confused and I don’t want to leave him because I feel like I’m making the wrong decision. Please help!

 

“It hurts to think that I’m not good enough for him”

I don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend won’t propose to me, and we’ve been together for over a year. I am currently 5 months pregnant with his child, and even then it seems he doesn’t want to. He is 31, and I am 25. He and I are both divorced; however, he proposed and married his ex within 1 year of being with her, even though she didn’t have his child.

Apparently it ended badly though. Anyways, I am heartbroken, and it gets worse when he mentions how marriage is “just a paper.” He says he wants to marry me someday…but I don’t know when :/ He also goes out a lot on his free time and drinks/smokes medicinal weed, which I am not a huge fan of. I am two weeks away from graduating with my bachelor of science in criminal justice and then heading to law school. I’m an honor student and have a promising future. It just hurts to think that sometimes I may just not be good enough for this man. Whatever happens, my child will always be my first and only priority. Any advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated.

“I’m starting to have doubts”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and the last year has been long distance. He is without a doubt my favorite person in my life and the best guy I know. We have so much fun together and he is incredibly kind and thoughtful – the type of guy many women dream about marrying and starting a family with.

He is completely devoted to me, but for some reason I can’t get doubts out of my head that something is not right. Even though I really love him, I’m not as attracted to him as I would like to be. This has caused a problem with our sex life because I don’t particularly want to kiss him or have sex with him. Continue reading

“I want to break up with him, but he pays my bills”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We took a break a few months ago and I started seeing someone else. I fell in love with the other guy, we had the same goals but the other guy just wasn’t stable. He did drugs and was unemployed, but we clicked.

I got back with my boyfriend and the other guy was devastated, and honestly I was too, but I also loved my boyfriend a lot and the plan was always to just be a break. Anyways, a few months have passed and I just don’t feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. I still love him a lot and the thought of not being with him hurts like hell, but I can’t be intimate with him without thinking about the other guy.

I feel so guilty, and I know I should probably break up with him, but he pays most of my bills and I’m working part time so I can finish school. Without my boyfriend, I wouldn’t be able to work things out financially. I don’t want to keep delaying this break up… but I don’t know what else to do.

 

“My love life is a complete mess”

I’ve made my love life a complete mess. I was dating this wonderful guy, off and on for 3 years. I cheated on him twice (yes I know, I’m awful) but we got back together after both.

He bought me all kinds of thoughtful gifts, made me close with his family, planned a future and was just great. In February I broke up with him to date my friend from work, who I thought I was madly in love with. It felt incredible, like my last relationship just sucked, and this felt great. That only lasted for a few months and now I feel sad all of the time and find myself constantly thinking about my ex.

I currently live with my boyfriend which makes this all so much worse. Do you think I actually regret ending the relationship? How can I love someone and want to be with them if it was so easy to leave?

 

“He doesn’t appreciate me and I think I should leave him”

So …. I met this guy while I was working at a national park.

We got close together very fast. Fast, as in we had sex maybe within a week or two? But I liked being with him and even though it was my first, I had no opposition to it or anything. We did have lot of fights though. Sometimes small, sometimes big. And I did break up with him but we got back together within a week .

So now, our contracts are over and now I’m back in my home state and he actually got a job in my home state so we’re 5-6 hours away. The problem is, this long distance is soooo damn hard for me. Idk about him, but to me it’s driving me nuts. Continue reading

“Is his housemate more than ‘just a friend'”?

Hello.

I have quite some predicaments with my boyfriend at the moment. He lives in a student house where he shares the facilities with 6 other housemates. One of these housemates, a girl, is pretty close to him. They like to tease each other and to mess around, which I find normal, but I also notice that sometimes it is a bit concerning how they interact. She is a nice girl, but I get jealous sometimes when they tease each other and I wonder if this is right for me to do.

I also notice that my boyfriend goes to a certain length to help her when she is having problems. He would even ask his mother/family to help her out when she needs some help. Continue reading

“I’m stuck between by boyfriend and his brother”

I need some advice on a crazy situation. I had been dating this guy for a year now, and awhile back I started going to school with his brother.  I kinda started to like him because I had gone to school with him before I dated his brother,  and then we started to secretly date. We did acid, all 3 of us, and it was fun, but that is where it all started .

I really thought I was in love with my boyfriend’s brother, but then he fell super in love with me and started to freak out and stress, about not being able to date me. Then his aunt saw us kissing at school one time, then his parents found out, but they said that they wouldn’t tell my boyfriend, because he is unstable with that kind of news. Continue reading