“My love life is a complete mess”

I’ve made my love life a complete mess. I was dating this wonderful guy, off and on for 3 years. I cheated on him twice (yes I know, I’m awful) but we got back together after both.

He bought me all kinds of thoughtful gifts, made me close with his family, planned a future and was just great. In February I broke up with him to date my friend from work, who I thought I was madly in love with. It felt incredible, like my last relationship just sucked, and this felt great. That only lasted for a few months and now I feel sad all of the time and find myself constantly thinking about my ex.

I currently live with my boyfriend which makes this all so much worse. Do you think I actually regret ending the relationship? How can I love someone and want to be with them if it was so easy to leave?


2 thoughts on ““My love life is a complete mess”

  1. Anonymous says:

    First off you don’t even make yourself happy. You won’t be able to have a stable, happy relationship until you can do that. You are co-dependant and afraid of being alone which is why you relationship hop. Learn to love yourself and be alone for a while. Move out. Don’t date. And if need be seek out a licensed therapist.

    Best wishes.

  2. Elin says:

    Giiiirl… you’re a hot mess. Get a grip. Cut this guy loose. Get your own place. Be single for a while. Go to the movies, go for a hike, make some female friends and enjoy life. You’re literally in NO place to have a serious relationship and any guy you latch on to will be “wrong” until you figure your own shit out.

    Leave your ex alone, he deserves better and you know it. You’re flip flopping. You get back with the ex you’ll just stray or cheat again. Wanting what you can’t have is natural at this stage in your life because you just don’t know WHAT you want. That’s fine, but you can act on it in a tactful way (ie, don’t fucking treat people like shit).

    Live alone. Date CASUALLY. Live ALONE (or with a female roommate). Pay your own bills. Take out your own trash. Do your own dishes. Being self-sufficient helps you figure out what you want/need in a partner and since right now you have no clue, it’s a good place to start.

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