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“What can I say to let him know that I have a boyfriend?”

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I had crushes on 3 people in October, and I gained some confidence, so I told one of them that I liked him in November. I see him at school every day in a lot of my classes and he’s also at my bus stop. He told me that he’s not ready for a relationship and all that ‘generic’ stuff and kind of started talking to me less after that.

Then, in early December, I found out that one of my other crushes, the one that I liked the most, liked me back. So, now we’ve been boyfriend/girlfriend for more than a month and I haven’t really told the other guy that I have a boyfriend. He’s starting to talk to me more again, and I’m pretty sure he thinks that I still like him. While I don’t hate him, I also don’t want him to say something like he’s ready for a relationship now, and I would have to say no. I’m not the kind of person who likes doing that. What can I say/text to him to make him know that either I have a boyfriend now, or I don’t like him like that anymore without being that direct?

“How do I tell my Christian mom that I want to live with my boyfriend?

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I grew up as a Seventh-Day Adventist Christian, and I was always taught that you were supposed to get married before having sex or moving in with a significant other. This was my plan for a long time, but it became unrealistic, and I met the man of my dreams and the guy I plan to marry, and those things changed a bit. (He is a baptist Christian.)

To make a long story short, I’m still a Christian and still a Seventh-Day Adventist, I just view some things in different ways. Well, I have to move out of my college dorm during the beginning of May, and I want to get an apartment with my boyfriend (of almost a year) and another couple. I am also certain that this is what I plan to do, but I don’t know how to tell my mom. (I will tell my father eventually, but I care more of my mom’s opinion.)

I mentioned to her the idea of getting an apartment (didn’t mention boyfriend), and she said that she was okay with it, but only for the summer, because living off campus during the school year will make doing school work and going to class harder. Continue reading →

“He’s planning to be roommates with the girl he cheated on me with”

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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We never really had issues until this girl who became his best friend came into his life. If they had been friends long before then, I would have absolutely no reason to feel insecure.

However, he and I started dating months before they became friends. About a year into our relationship, he and his friend started dating — and I was completely unaware. He was cheating on me and lying about it, but he had told his whole family and all of his friends that he had broken up with me.

I never really let people get to me like that, but went into a manic state and faced (and currently still face) a lot of mental struggles. He cut me off, and I felt very alone, because all of his friends are also my friends, and based off of his lies, they took his side. Continue reading →

“Will he ever be okay with me needing time to be ready?”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now, he’s my first boyfriend and our relationship was doing amazing. We’re both in college now and he’s really sweet, and we talk about our future together all the time.

However, he has told me many times that the sexual aspect is sub-par and he would like more from it. Lately he has been asking me to go down on him more and for me to start giving him bjs even though I’ve expressed to him many times that I’m really uncomfortable with doing that. Even though he tells me that all of his friends are doing it, it still really scares me. He’s been asking for about 6 months now and my idea of it hasn’t really changed. Continue reading →

“I’m having doubts about my boyfriend and our future”

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I have been with this guy for almost a year, and I’ve never been happier. Lately he has been distancing himself, he will not go out and won’t talk to me for hours. I have recently been catching up with a friend of mine who I haven’t talked to in a very long time. I have never seen him as more than a friend, but the more I think about it, the more I feel as if I might actually have feelings for him.

I absolutely love my boyfriend and I would never want to hurt him. We always talk about our future together and getting married, but right now I’m having doubts. He has been very neglectful. My friend and I have been talking a lot and every time we do I am extremely happy. Unfortunately he is friends with an ex of mine though. Am I just catching feelings because he is giving me more attention than my boyfriend?

“My boyfriend sent his ex videos of us”

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I don’t know what to do at this point. So me boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We had our ups and downs. Before me he used to mess around with girls, had a couple of long-based relationships, but mostly messing around.

When we got together, we were bumping heads, but we did fall in love and worked things out. Recently there’s been one girl he used to mess around with — I found out that he sends her videos of us and basically gets off to it, trying to I guess convince her to get into it, too.

When I found out, I lost it. I knew her sort of because we’ve talked before. I told her I didn’t want them talking and she was being cut off after I went to him first. After the yelling, the crying, the begging, and him deciding to go to therapy, we are slowly working on this. And it’s better. Continue reading →

“I’ve developed crippling anxiety”

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My boyfriend and I just moved to a new state. We got our first apartment together (although we’ve been living together for almost 2 years) and we’re struggling to make ends meet. Most of the reason we are struggling is because I’ve developed crippling anxiety.

I feel depressed, tired and sick all the time which leads to me hardly ever being able to work. I beat myself up about it constantly and I think its leading me into an even deeper depression. I have no support here besides him and I feel like I’m crushing his soul with my constant negativity. I love him so much, I know he is the one I want to marry someday. But I feel like I am just going to ruin our relationship if I can’t get back on my feet soon. What do I do?

“My boyfriend’s ex keeps posting stuff about us”

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I really need help with this weird situation I am facing because I can’t handle it alone anymore. I am in the middle of trusting issues with my boyfriend because of his crazy ex.

So, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He broke up with his ex, because (as he said) he didn’t love her anymore, and he fell immediately for me. At the beginning things were fine, and I was sure he loved me from all the things he would do for me. Only someone in love acts like that.

But then like 5 months after we started dating, his ex became part of our lives. She started posting descriptions on Instagram about me all the time. Like, he is still mine, he has been lying to you, he loves me, open your eyes, etc. I saw all that by coincidence. Continue reading →

“I found out my boyfriend is on Tinder”

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I have been dating my boyfriend for year now. About 5 months ago, my boyfriend left for a week to Canada to play in a hockey tournament. When he came back, I found a screenshot of a girl from Snapchat on his camera roll, which led to me also finding his Tinder account. He was using his Tinder account when he was out in Canada.

His team had won the tournament, and his last night they went out. The screenshot of the girl was some Canadian girl from Tinder, and from the glimpse of the text said “I had a really fun night,” but I didn’t have the gut to read their text messages (the girls he message on Tinder were just flirting — he only gave his number out to this Canadian girl). Continue reading →

“My boyfriend is driving me crazy”

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We were going strong. We went to prom together as our first date. We had an amazing relationship at first. But by the second month he started talking to one of his ex-girlfriends. She had moved on and had a boyfriend before he asked me out.

This caused a lot of fights between us. His ex hated me and tried breaking us up multiple times, because her boyfriend also used to like me. Eventually they came to an agreement (without me saying anything) to not talk. So things were fine until his other ex came into the picture. She started taking him on an emotional toll and making him upset all the time, which really made me upset, but i didn’t mention anything. Continue reading →