So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We never really had issues until this girl who became his best friend came into his life. If they had been friends long before then, I would have absolutely no reason to feel insecure.
However, he and I started dating months before they became friends. About a year into our relationship, he and his friend started dating — and I was completely unaware. He was cheating on me and lying about it, but he had told his whole family and all of his friends that he had broken up with me.
I never really let people get to me like that, but went into a manic state and faced (and currently still face) a lot of mental struggles. He cut me off, and I felt very alone, because all of his friends are also my friends, and based off of his lies, they took his side.
That happened for about two weeks, and he and I finally talked about his new relationship. That night, he ended it with the other girl, and for the past 3 months, he’s been incredibly remorseful for everything he’s done. Keep in mind, during most of that time, he cheated, and before, he was a serious alcoholic.
I’m quite forgiving, so I’ve let most of the situation go. However, he and the girl are still best friends. They often talk about the times they shared during the relationship in front of me, they hang out every night, they go out for lunch and dinner, and too often she lets him know that she still has feelings for him.
Even worse, they are going to be roommates next year. I have tried to bring up to him that the current state of their relationship makes me uncomfortable, but he’s quick to turn it around and say I shouldn’t be so insecure. I have post-traumatic moments regarding the weeks where I was completely cut off from everyone, and I panic most every night. He knows the trauma that he and his best friend have put me through, yet they don’t do much to prevent my panic attacks or at least show me any type of respect.
Maybe I don’t know what love is, but I love this person with my entire being, but I think I’m being treated unfairly. What do I do?