I have been dating my boyfriend for year now. About 5 months ago, my boyfriend left for a week to Canada to play in a hockey tournament. When he came back, I found a screenshot of a girl from Snapchat on his camera roll, which led to me also finding his Tinder account. He was using his Tinder account when he was out in Canada.
His team had won the tournament, and his last night they went out. The screenshot of the girl was some Canadian girl from Tinder, and from the glimpse of the text said “I had a really fun night,” but I didn’t have the gut to read their text messages (the girls he message on Tinder were just flirting — he only gave his number out to this Canadian girl).
I consider the flirty messages emotional cheating, and I do believe he physically cheated on me too his last night there. I obviously forgave him — we are humans, we make mistakes. It wasn’t easy, but I do have insecurities now. Whenever we would talk about this topic, I would get angry or he would shut down. I feel like I’m at a mature place where I can talk about this maturely. I need to know why and the truth of what happened that last night at the bar. I need closure. What do you guys think about this?