I grew up as a Seventh-Day Adventist Christian, and I was always taught that you were supposed to get married before having sex or moving in with a significant other. This was my plan for a long time, but it became unrealistic, and I met the man of my dreams and the guy I plan to marry, and those things changed a bit. (He is a baptist Christian.)
To make a long story short, I’m still a Christian and still a Seventh-Day Adventist, I just view some things in different ways. Well, I have to move out of my college dorm during the beginning of May, and I want to get an apartment with my boyfriend (of almost a year) and another couple. I am also certain that this is what I plan to do, but I don’t know how to tell my mom. (I will tell my father eventually, but I care more of my mom’s opinion.)
I mentioned to her the idea of getting an apartment (didn’t mention boyfriend), and she said that she was okay with it, but only for the summer, because living off campus during the school year will make doing school work and going to class harder.
Well, my mom likes my boyfriend. Actually, both of my parents do, and almost every time they come to visit me, my boyfriend is in my dorm (he basically lives here), and although we have never discussed his always being here, I’m sure they’ve noticed it. We’ve (my parents and I) also never discussed that he and I are having sex, but I’m sure they’ve also assumed that, because of how often and late he’s here, and because he’s a tad bit older than me.
My mom and I are very close, almost like best friends, but because she is so strongly a Christian & Adventist, this is hard for me. There are some things that help my case: 1) My mom is changing her life and basically separating from dad, so she’s not in a permanent place. She moves around a bit, so it would be difficult for me to live with her. 2) My dad isn’t an option for reasons I don’t want to give, but they’d both agree living with him isn’t an option, and he lives in a different state. 3) I am going to be a student at 2 colleges next semester (August), so kind of like dual enrollment, and because I’m not a full-time student at either school, I can’t live in the dorms at either school.
Also, my parents pay about 400 for my schooling a semester, but when I move off campus, financial aid will give me a refund, and I will be able to take care of that 400 on my own. They also give me about 50 dollars a month, but it isn’t consistent and I don’t rely on it.
How do I tell my mom I want to move in with my boyfriend? Or do I not tell her and just let her think I’m living with the other couple (which I am) and not my boyfriend, and just hide his things when she comes to see me/tell her he’s just visiting me (she doesn’t live far)?