When I was pregnant I got extremely insecure and paranoid, and starting going through my boyfriend’s phone. I had never been that girl until an ex of mine cheated and I found very upsetting things on his phone. I hadn’t felt the need to do it with my boyfriend now, until I was a month or so pregnant.
I found naked pictures from snap chat and found a bunch of cam girl websites. I got upset, he got upset that I went through his phone, we fought and then he deleted it all and said he wouldn’t do it anymore because it upset me, but that he didn’t see why it was such a big deal, it was just open to him. The rest of my pregnancy we were fine and I didn’t go through his phone. Our baby is almost 4 months old now and I’ve noticed for a while that he never ever leaves his phone in the room with me, he takes it everywhere, even if he’s just getting up to grab a drink, and sometimes I can see he is going through Facebook, but then a notification will pop up and he’ll turn the phone away from me, read something and then reply to whatever it was.
I brushed if off and tried my hardest to trust him and give him the benefit of the doubt by assuming it was nothing. But recently we were both watching a video on his phone and an Instagram notification pops up on his phone and he very quickly swiped it off, but I saw what it was, his request to follow some slutty pic account was accepted.
Tonight he went to do dishes and I noticed he left his phone behind. I tried to just go about my business, but I ended up looking through it. All the accounts he says he doesn’t have, he has. Instagram, snap chat, Twitter, and they’re all filled with nude pictures. He has a huge list of cam girl websites, and the most upsetting to me, he has two apps to get nudes, one called show and one called kik. I opened one and found a message where he started a conversation with a girl to get nudes. It wasn’t very long but still hurt like hell to read. He just said ‘hi’, she said ‘hey,’ then sent a nude and then asked him if he loved it. He said ‘yea’ and she sent him a link to pay her for more, and he said he didn’t have any coins on the website to pay her with.
But they website said he has 700 now and I can only assume he is spending money to get nudes from these girls. And the girl’s account didn’t look like a professional account either, it looked like an amateur girl on her 20’s just trying to make easy money. I’m so upset right now and don’t know how to deal with it. I’m afraid he’ll just get mad that I went through his phone and try to focus on that rather than what I found on it. What do I do?