“My boyfriend thinks I was on a date”

Hi, I have a question. Is it wrong to eat out and watch a movie with a good friend, which is a guy, even though you have a boyfriend? Does that pass boundaries? Because my boyfriend got totally pissed. He’s aware that I was going to eat out with my male high school friend.. but he got pissed when he found out we were going to watch a movie, where he perceives the situation as if it was more of a “date” then a “hang-out”… Help!

 

2 thoughts on ““My boyfriend thinks I was on a date”

  1. Anonymous says:

    I would say it’s a date if I didn’t tell the boyfriend. I have gone to the movies with friends, but I always told my husband hey this is where I will be in case of emergency. You may have not have had intentionally gone as a date, but lets think about this through his shoes. He’s going to dinner with a friend who is a girl without you then decides they should take in a movie. He’s not going to tell you about the movie until afterwards. Sounds shady now, doesn’t it? If you care about people you let them know what’s going on.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I don’t think it’s wrong necessarily and it sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t trust you.
    But, you may want to think about why you didn’t tell him about the movie. If you were intentionally trying to hide something he has a reason not to trust you.
    If you have a history of cheating or if he has a history of cheating or being cheated on his reaction makes more sense, too.

    You need to have a talk about these expectations with your boyfriend. In my opinion, you should be able to go to dinner and a movie with a male friend without having a fight. if he doesn’t like it, you can either decide his feelings are more important than your friend, or you can tell him to suck it up. Just know whatever you do is your decision–don’t let your boyfriend tell you who you can and can’t hang out with or you’re on the path to being controlled and manipulated for the rest of your relationship.

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