So here’s the thing. I have a boyfriend. We’ve been together for 7 years and I truly love him, he’s my best friend. My problem is, we’re pretty much just friends. The intimacy is gone. On his end. He doesn’t want to have sex anymore, and even the rare occasion it does happen, it’s like a chore for him and I’m always left wanting more.
He’s gained some weight (which I find sexy af) and is very stressed out, which I’m sympathetic to. I just need some kinda intimacy in my life. I’ve tried to discuss it after about 2 years of unsatisfaction, he won’t even tell me exactly what he’s going through or how to help. He’s even gotten angry when I pushed this discussion.
I’ll be honest, its led me to infidelity. I don’t wanna leave him, I love him more than I’ve every loved anyone, but like everyone, once in a while, I feel starved for emotional AND physical affection, and I’ve strayed to an ex who I know still loves me. I always feel like shit after, but 6 months later I’m calling that side man.
Should I let him go, or stick it out?
2 thoughts on ““I cheated because we never have sex””
Go. He’s not telling you things, you haven’t had sex in two years and you are cheating on him instead of dealing with the relationship issue. It’s not going to get better and even if you did leave now he isn’t going to change. Might tell you what you want to hear, but since he won’t even tell you what the problem is I doubt he would go to couples counseling or the doctor. This relationship isn’t going anywhere. There’s never any good time to break up with someone, but the sooner you do the sooner you both get on with your life and meet someone who has what you both need.
You should let him go especially if it leads you to cheating, but also especially bc it seems like you both are just dragging the relationship along for no reason.