“He doesn’t appreciate me and I think I should leave him”

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So …. I met this guy while I was working at a national park.

We got close together very fast. Fast, as in we had sex maybe within a week or two? But I liked being with him and even though it was my first, I had no opposition to it or anything. We did have lot of fights though. Sometimes small, sometimes big. And I did break up with him but we got back together within a week .

So now, our contracts are over and now I’m back in my home state and he actually got a job in my home state so we’re 5-6 hours away. The problem is, this long distance is soooo damn hard for me. Idk about him, but to me it’s driving me nuts. Continue reading →

“I have a foot fetish”

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I accidentally let it slip I have a foot fetish, and now a girl keeps putting her legs and feet on my lap, and it’s not that I don’t mind, it’s that she does it in public, and whenever she does I tense up.

She’s also had a few other girls put their legs and feet in my lap but she hasn’t told anyone why that I know of. I’m scared someone will connect the dots and find out, what should I do about it?

 

“I don’t want to meet the guy she cheated on me with”

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She cheated on him 15 years ago, and they’ve moved on from it. But now, they’ve been invited to a dinner where the guy she cheated with is going to be in attendance. How should they handle this invitation? Here are their sides of the story …

Moite says:

When my wife and I were going out before we were married, she cheated on me with this guy she liked before we got together. I forgave her and moved on. Now — many many years later (like 15 years) — we have a party with one of her friends, where the guy she cheated on me with is going, too.

I’m upset about it. I have never had to meet this guy and obviously have no interest in doing so. I get it was a long time ago, but there is nothing like having to go meet the guy face-to-face to open up an old wound. I’m hurt because it was her mistake, and she should have protected me from being put in this position where I will feel humiliated.

She didn’t even tell me about it. Her friend throwing the party did the asking if I minded. It will be embarrassing and humiliating to have to go to this, but would be more humiliating saying I can’t go. It’s her friend’s party. I found out he is going from the friend, not her. She should have not let this situation occur and protected me from this humiliating experience.

Frieda says:

I made a mistake and cheated on my husband when we first started going out. It’s a big occasion for my best friend, and I found out this other guy is going to be there. I didn’t want to bring it up as it was a long time ago, and I thought we would have all moved on now.

I knew he would probably not be happy about it, but surely its not the end of the world, and we can get on with our lives. He sees that I chose him, married him, and this guy doesn’t mean anything to me. How long do I have to pay a price for this?

I think he is actually upset because he recently found out I also slept with this guy I cheated on him with a couple of years later when we had broken up and not gotten back together yet. I was single then and did nothing wrong in that.

It’s my bests friend’s special occasion — I can’t tell her I can’t go because he will be upset over something 15 years ago!

“I still think about my ex after 3 years”

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I woke up this morning from dreaming about my ex all night. We dated on and off, for about 6 years. We have been broken up for close to 3 years. I can’t seem to let him go. I dream about him often, even on days that I haven’t even thought about him.

I still run into him with his new GF at festivals. I guess that’s not going to change, because that’s how we met. We both love the music scene. I’m not sure why I can’t seem to let go. I left him for many reasons, he was not a good BF, he was not a man, he could not grow up or treat me right. I gave him so many chances to fix himself, but by the time he had started making changes I was already over it. He broke my heart into a million pieces over and over again. Continue reading →

“Is his housemate more than ‘just a friend'”?

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Hello.

I have quite some predicaments with my boyfriend at the moment. He lives in a student house where he shares the facilities with 6 other housemates. One of these housemates, a girl, is pretty close to him. They like to tease each other and to mess around, which I find normal, but I also notice that sometimes it is a bit concerning how they interact. She is a nice girl, but I get jealous sometimes when they tease each other and I wonder if this is right for me to do.

I also notice that my boyfriend goes to a certain length to help her when she is having problems. He would even ask his mother/family to help her out when she needs some help. Continue reading →

“I’m stuck between by boyfriend and his brother”

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I need some advice on a crazy situation. I had been dating this guy for a year now, and awhile back I started going to school with his brother.  I kinda started to like him because I had gone to school with him before I dated his brother,  and then we started to secretly date. We did acid, all 3 of us, and it was fun, but that is where it all started .

I really thought I was in love with my boyfriend’s brother, but then he fell super in love with me and started to freak out and stress, about not being able to date me. Then his aunt saw us kissing at school one time, then his parents found out, but they said that they wouldn’t tell my boyfriend, because he is unstable with that kind of news. Continue reading →

“Am I jealous of my boyfriend’s friends?”

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I am jealous of my boyfriend’s friends. I don’t know why, but last night I was supposed to hang out and then he told me that his friend showed up and is spending the night. I don’t know if it is weird, but I went into his account and read his messages, and he told his friend to come over and they went to go do something.

I don’t know if this is over-obsessive or something, but I felt like he wanted to chill with his friend over me, and then told me he did, but his friend ended up showing up. Can someone tell me if this is weird or wrong for me to feel?

 

“I’ve caught him staring from afar”

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I really like this guy who is into my music and physics class. He is kinda quiet, not shy at all and just super sweet. Loads of people seem to have a crush on him. I’ve never really been in a relationship before, so I’ve got no idea what I’m doing. I was quite flirtatious for the first couple weeks I’d met him, up until he dropped the girlfriend bombshell, that’s when I backed off. I’ve tried so hard to change the way I feel, with little success, and here I am over a year later, still just as crazy. Continue reading →

“Do I stop talking to him and move on?”

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I’m very confused just now. My ex broke up with me a month ago, and has spoken to me every day since, he says he still loves me, but not looking for a relationship etc and he tells me he broke up with me because we were arguing a lot, which is true.

I obviously feel really low about it and it is hard to continue talking to someone you care about when they seem to be happier without you. I’ve often thought of just not talking anymore and trying to move on, by speaking to other men and maybe dating etc but I know that would be used against me if he decided we should make it work again.  Continue reading →

“Do I have a crush on my best friend’s boyfriend?”

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My best friend just recently started dating this guy, and I didn’t really know him that well, but thought he was cute. Then, gradually, as I’ve gotten to know him a little, I think I’ve started to like him.

I’m not sure if this is just jealousy because my friend got a boyfriend, or if I really do like him. I feel so bad because I don’t want guy-drama to get in the way of our friendship. I even told my friend I may like him, because I trust her that much. What should I do next?