“Shall I wait for her?”

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About four months ago, I started to use a language learning app. On this app I messaged this girl and we soon became friends. However, during all the times we interacted I started to develop feelings for her. I asked the people around me about what I should do about it. They told me that if you are certain that you like her, you should tell her.

I eventually told her how I feel towards her and she gave me a response that wasn’t really a no, but not a yes either. To sum it up, she said the distance is too big, so we wouldn’t be able to see each other and she’s not sure what to do about me confessing to her. We are still talking to this day, but now I’m starting to question myself with “Should I wait for her?” and “Should I just start looking around again?”

These questions stem from the fact that I really don’t know how she feels towards me, because the answer she gave me were right down the middle. I’m also paranoid by the fact that she may find another guy who is better then me and that makes me worry if waiting for her is worth it. I honestly do really want to be with her, but I feel like she doesn’t feel the same way in return. I don’t know, either to wait for her or just start talking to people again in a sense of dating.

“I hate lying to my mom about my feelings”

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I’m an 18 year old guy who lives with his mom (no dad.) I’ve been confused about my gender. Earlier today, my mom came home from the store with a big bag of women’s underwear she got on sale, so I stole a pack of them to try on, and now I’m worried she’s going to find out somehow. She seems open minded as I’ve already came out as bisexual, but I don’t know how she would handle this. On top of that, I feel bad for stealing them. What should I do?

“My boyfriend quit college”

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I need help in determining if I am in a dead end relationship. It started in June 2016. I started talking to this guy on Facebook. We both attended the same college and planned on meeting for the first time then. We were pretty much in a relationship when we first met. We have been dating 7 months now.

Last fall semester, he told me he hadn’t been going to class about half way through the semester. After telling his parents, he was warned if he did the same thing in the spring, he would move back home. Which is 3 and 1/2 hours from our school. So the spring semester comes around and he does the same thing. However, he told me in March but it’s been since February he hasn’t been going to class.

He has made specific lies about how he’s in class and has homework and lying to me for months. He tells his parents and his parents tell him he has to withdraw and go back home. So now he is at home and he is choosing to work until he can come back to school. I love him but I don’t feel like I can trust him and also with the distance and his job, I am not sure I will be able to see him as often as I’d like to. Help.

“My guy is preventing me hanging with my friends”

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I’ve been dating a guy on and off for about 7 years. He generally hates my friends, and doesn’t enjoy going to the events that I do. I used to make an effort to invite him/bring him along when I went out, but every time I did,  it just ended in him being rude and angry, and my friends not understanding why I was with him.

My friends hit me up to hang out all of the time, but if I do go out without my boyfriend he gets sullen and possessive. It’s gotten to the point that I find myself lying to my friends and making excuses not to see them just to avoid a fight. When I do go out I get anxious because I know that I’m going to be fighting to be able to go out up until I step out of the door, and that when I get back I’m going to be in ‘trouble’. Is it unreasonable to go out with my friends alone? We go on dates but he complains that he never gets to go out with me and my friends….I basically feel fucked if I do or fucked if I don’t. Advice?

“I love a girl who isn’t interested in me”

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I need advice. There’s this girl I like (I’m a girl as well). We have known each other for a long time. Recently, I’ve had a romantic interest in her and I told her so and we continued on as friends.

Last night, she told me she loves me, and she broke up with her girlfriend that night, providing screen shots for proof. But the next morning, she tells me she fixed their relationship and she’s sorry… I told her it was fine, when it obviously wasn’t. I was heartbroken. We haven’t texted all day and I still love her. What should I say?

“Shall I ask him out for a drink?”

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I recently visited an outdoor food market by myself, as I was passing and hungry. While there I got chatting to a guy working behind one of the stalls. We talked for about 15/20 minutes just about work/where we’re from and other random things. He told me not to be a stranger so I said I’d come back soon.

Went again today and again, we got chatting about random things – he said how he was going to visit home soon etc. I left as I was going to meet a friend but wished I had asked him for his number or just to go for a drink. Problem is, I can’t tell whether he’s just being nice or is actually interested! And I don’t want to be rejected!

I’d be willing to visit again and maybe ask him to go for a drink. What is your advice? Has anyone been in this situation before? Guys, have you ever been asked out by a girl and been glad? And do you think it’s possible he’s just being a nice guy? He waved at me across the courtyard and seemed eager to talk, where as he wasn’t making much conversation with the 4 other people waiting in line.
Thanks in advance.

“My drug-using girlfriend is ruining us financially”

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A few months ago, I bought a house and moved my girlfriend and her 4 year old son in with me. I am 21, she is 32, the loan and title are in my name only etc. She makes around $16.25/hr and has never had a problem paying bills. Since we have moved into this house, she has been coming short on bills every month and I have to cover her, as well as pay for groceries.

I also do the majority of the cleaning, because if I don’t, the place becomes a wreck. I have found evidence that she has been buying and using pills recreationally. I have found over$100 worth in her purse at a time. When I confront her, she becomes very defensive and upset, but it is ruining us financially. She has severe anxiety and depression. I want to end the relationship but I am worried for her and her son. I know her parents would take them in, but I’m still worried about what will happen and I don’t know how to approach this. I wouldn’t care as much about the pills if she wasn’t lying to me and costing us so much.

“My new man is a bit intense”

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I am a 33 year old woman. Last June, I left a 7-year relationship, which included 4 years of marriage. I’m currently in the middle of the divorce. Immediately after leaving my husband, I had a 3-month intense rebound relationship with an ultimately emotionally unavailable man that left me heartbroken for longer than the relationship lasted. I decided to go to therapy and try to remain single for a while, to learn more about myself and prevent future mistakes of these types.

Before I hoped — i.e. a couple weeks ago, after about 6 months of single-hood–I met a man I really liked. He was interesting, we have a lot in common, I felt really comfortable around him, etc. I was in heaven for the past week or so, but some doubts have surfaced. Continue reading →

“Am I in this relationship because it feels safe?”

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I’ve been in a relationship with a guy I met online when I was in high school (I’m currently a freshman in college). We instantly clicked and we’ve been dating for a little over two years. He lives in a different state. He has come to visit twice and it definitely confirmed our feelings. We work so well together and he is my first love, as well as the first person I’ve ever had sex with.

We’re both in college and both very busy but we’ve always made time for each other and while it is a long distance relationship, we are always very connected (we FaceTime, call, and text constantly). In the beginning of our relationship I hid him from my family, however, my parents found out about us and didn’t like the idea of me talking to someone I’ve never met. I spent most of my time on the phone with him and it caused a lot of tension between my parents and I, which upset me because we have always been very close. Continue reading →