I need help in determining if I am in a dead end relationship. It started in June 2016. I started talking to this guy on Facebook. We both attended the same college and planned on meeting for the first time then. We were pretty much in a relationship when we first met. We have been dating 7 months now.
Last fall semester, he told me he hadn’t been going to class about half way through the semester. After telling his parents, he was warned if he did the same thing in the spring, he would move back home. Which is 3 and 1/2 hours from our school. So the spring semester comes around and he does the same thing. However, he told me in March but it’s been since February he hasn’t been going to class.
He has made specific lies about how he’s in class and has homework and lying to me for months. He tells his parents and his parents tell him he has to withdraw and go back home. So now he is at home and he is choosing to work until he can come back to school. I love him but I don’t feel like I can trust him and also with the distance and his job, I am not sure I will be able to see him as often as I’d like to. Help.
You are correct. You can’t trust him. He’s throwing away HUNDREDS of dollars away to be lazy and moving too far to keep your current relationship going on months of lies. If he lies about just not attending class to you so easily, then there is no telling how much else he could be lying about. Move on, because he’s not going to change and you deserve better.
It’s one thing if he was telling you the whole time he’s not meant for college and a whole other to lie about it. Not everyone is meant for college. I know people working in their careers full time that earn barely above minimum we who have four year degrees. And then there is my BIL who does construction laying down 70K a year, which in Alabama isn’t anything to sneeze at.