“He cheated, it’s in the past, but I’m struggling to move on”

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I found out over a year ago that my partner had cheated on me. I’m still struggling with it, and I’d like some advice from an unbiased source. The way in which I found out was teen-soap-opera levels of melodramatic, but I’ll leave it at this: I found out, confronted him that night, and after several nights of conversation we decided to work through the issues and stay together.

Fast forward to now, and we’re getting close to 3 years. The love I feel between us is so strong and sincere that I get emotional thinking about it. I’ve had my fair share of shitty guys who lent a hand in warping my perception of myself and my worth, but this man has helped me feel loved in the skin I’m in now, and I’m so unconditionally cared for. We live in our own places but I’m there often enough to feel like I live there, with my own set of keys. We spend so much time with each other and I really do cherish every moment. Continue reading →

“My marriage I would rate a 1 out of 10”

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I am 46 and married with one son, who is 8. My wife and I started dating back in 1989. We have been together without separation since 1989, after 16 years of dating and about 10 years of engagement. We married in 2005. My son was born in 2008. We live a good life, not perfect but pretty comfortable.

My wife is a 10 out 10 as a mother. Very caring and responsible with our son and we raise him together and have a strong family bond. We eat dinner together every night and we spend time together as a family in the most healthy way any good American family does. My only pain is my marriage. Continue reading →

“I’m in love with my ex”

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I have been dating this guy for a year, and I care about him a lot but I don’t want to be with him. It’s kind of one of those “our parents wanted us to be together” things. But I’m in love with my ex.

My ex and I broke up 3 years ago but have been sneaking around and seeing each other in private.. is it wrong of me??? What should I do? Because now my ex is talking to me about this great new girl he met who he likes, and what not. I just wish I could be with him.. but I can’t break up with my current boyfriend, and now I feel like my ex is using me for sex. I’m stuck and I feel like a horrible person.

“My boyfriend’s cold attitude is making me feel horrible”

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I told my boyfriend today that his indifference and cold attitude towards me makes me feel horrible about myself. He won’t call me beautiful, won’t have sex with me, and spends every waking hour he can on his computer and ignoring me.

I told him it feels horrible that I always build him up and let him know how great he is, when in return he won’t even give me the time of day basically. I told him when he rejects me for sex, it’s more than just an “oh man I’m horny thing” and that having sex with him makes me feel sexy and empowered. He cooly responded that he was sorry sex was so validating for me.

I have manic depression and he used to be an uplifting part of my life but I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m in a tough spot as I live with him and feel like if I leave him it would put me in a position where I would need to find a new place and I don’t think that’s possible. I don’t know what to do.

“My boyfriend is being a jerk about prom”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We were good friends when he was in high school, but never dated. Now he is in college 5 hours away, and I’m still in high school and we are happily in love.

However we are having a situation over prom. My boyfriend hates prom. With a passion. He thinks of it as an excuse for boys to have sex and get drunk and girls to be sluts. I think this is a ridiculous stereotype. I can’t even mention the word prom without him getting mad. He keeps making comments saying that he is going to be a jerk the night of prom.

It’s not fair for him to ruin my high school experience. I love him and see a future with him so I don’t want this little hang up to ruin us, but it hurts my heart.

“I don’t know what to do with my life”

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I plan on becoming a police officer and I am currently studying a bachelor of policing. However, I don’t have much work experience and I am an extreme introvert and shy. I don’t really have many things I am good at, and to get a part-time job you need so much experience, or qualifications, and to get qualifications it costs too much. I don’t know where to start.. some help please?

“My boyfriend never has sex with me”

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Can you imagine being a 41 year old woman and you have no life?! Your kids treat you like pure shit and your boyfriend would rather go out drinking beer and watching football than spend one single minute alone with you.

You never have sex…oh, wait a minute, you might about once a month, or every 2 months, and only then because you cry that you never have it. So nice to have to force your boyfriend into having sex with you. Makes you feel like a disgusting piece of shit. Is he getting it elsewhere? Continue reading →

“I hate my boyfriend’s dog”

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Honestly…I hate my boyfriend’s dog. We live together and he barely washes the dog and it sheds a shit ton,  stinks and has ringworms. He is not taking care of it. I fucking hate the dog and want it out. I even imagine hurting the dog or letting it out of the house to never see it again.

We have been together for almost 3 years…. I would hate to break up after this but he refuses to get rid of the dog. He used to walk it once a day and she would pee and poop. I went fucking crazy and now he walks it twice. Every day my hatred for this dog grows.. what do I do… I have been picturing abusing the dog and I don’t like having those thoughts, I’m just mad.

“My husband is always on vacation with his dad”

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I really need advice on my 5 year marriage. We are 29 and 31 and recently my husband has been going on vacation with his father for two weeks every year on the other side of the world. Recently, when my husband came back from vacation, literally the day after, he tells me that he is now planning on going on another vacation with his dad in Mexico very soon.

We have never gone on vacation together even though I have asked him on many occasions. It just seems unfair to me that he has just come back, we are in the middle of closing on a new house and I guess I’m angry because he makes no effort to plan any adventures or vacations of any kind with me. Yet when his dad pays for him to go with him somewhere, he jumps at the chance with no thought at all to invite me too.

His dad remarried a few years ago and has a bad marriage with his current wife, and he always seems to spend a lot of time away from her. I am worried that he is staring to influence my husband to do the same thing. As far as I am aware we have a loving marriage, I just get frustrated why my husband can’t understand that it upsets me and I feel excluded from his life. I know that if my parents invited me on vacation they would make sure my husband was invited too as we are married and to be honest I feel that marriage should include experiencing new things and places with each other. Am I wrong?

His girlfriend doesn’t know about his gay sex”

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I became friends with this guy who is significantly younger than me (he’s 25). I mention his age because I do feel somewhat maternal towards him. He’s in a swinging relationship and very open about his sex life with me. He’s also openly bisexual.

Recently he’s been having a LOT of unprotected man on man anal sex (receiving). As a friend, I told him I was worried and even asked if he was on Prep. (He isn’t. ) I also notice he’s lying a lot to me lately. (He’s very bad at it, lol). He’s also put on a significant amount of weight in the last 3 months. I feel like he’s in a very self destructive state. Continue reading →