“My boyfriend won’t sleep with me”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about four months now, and recently I feel like he doesn’t find me attractive anymore. When I come home (we live in an apartment together,) I give him a hug and kiss but he won’t respond with the same level of affection.

When we’re in public I wrap my arm around his since he doesn’t grab my hand. And we’re living together, we share a bed in our room but he’s been sleeping in the living room for the past month. He says he can’t stand sleeping there because of my cat’s litter box and he can get sick (he has Crohn’s). I’m ok with that but he’s given me no solution to fix it. Continue reading →

“Our argument ended in violence”

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My boyfriend and I got into an argument, and long story short, he ended up saying something along the lines of “at least I’m not a depressed bitch, waaah look at me, I have depression”, and I ended up hitting him in the face.

From that, he immediately got up and whacked me with a chair a couple of times. I couldn’t believe what I had done and I immediately said I was a monster and that he should just leave me. He refused, and even comforted my undeserving, crying, pathetic ass. I even told him to punch me in the face right back for it, which he did. He totally forgave me and said to not even worry about it, but I can’t forgive myself. What should I do? (Give me your honest answer, and don’t mention what he did because it isn’t the problem here.)

“Is my boyfriend undeserving of me?”

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I have been with my boyfriend almost a year. He means so much to me, I can’t think what I would do without him. But I feel like I am constantly doing things wrong . He tells me I’m dumb quite a lot, an example is when I drop things on the floor (this is something I’ve always done and I try so hard not to do it, but I was diagnosed with dyspraxia from a young age.)

He shouts at me a lot and tells me that he shouts because of his mental health… I’m a mental health student nurse and I try so hard to understand it. I feel like I’m doing everything wrong as a nurse, as I can’t understand. He also tells me I can’t be a good nurse if I don’t understand. Continue reading →

“I had sex and want to come clean”

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Last year, I had sex with a guy, only to find out that he had a girlfriend. I honestly felt terrible because he continued to go on dates with her since, and she had no idea what happened. I recently found her social media and saw that she had posted a picture of them together.

I really want to come clean and tell her what happened between her boyfriend and me, but I am scared of what is going to happen next. I need advice on whether or not I should tell her, and I also need advice on what I would say if I told her.

“Is my friendship with a younger guy inappropriate?”

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I’ve been struggling with this one a while now and even though it’s not about a romantic relationship, I hope you can help. I am a 26 year old female in a 5+ year serious relationship. I am a part-time educator and I play a lot of online multiplayer games. I have recently become friends with someone I play online with a lot, and we now chat really casually via Facebook messenger (but are not Facebook friends).

He seems like a good kid with a good head on his shoulders and at this point I am invested is his life and success just as you would be with any dear friend. However, he is ten years my junior. My significant other is fine with our friendship, as is the friend in question and as am I. But I did find out recently that his parents do not know about our friendship, and I think this is due to the fact that I am so much older than he is and he feels they would not be comfortable with it. Continue reading →

“I love him but his eyelids disgust me”

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We’ve been dating over a year and moved in together a couple months ago. We get along great, never fight, he is very attractive to me, we have great sex, we are emotionally open, have a lot of fun, and I honestly couldn’t get along better with a boyfriend if I tried.

But myy boyfriend has really noticeable veiny eyelids, and whenever he raises his eyebrows they show up like “Bam! Here I am!” I’ve started obsessing over the veins and hating to go in the daylight with him because I know when he raises his eyebrows his veins are gonna disgust me. I’ve tried ignoring them, tried to make them into something funny in my head, tried to trick myself into thinking they make him unique but I always go back to “ugh, I’m probably gonna have to stare at those forever if we stay together”.

But, I know that if I break up with him I’d lose a wonderful man. He’s so kind, smart, would do anything for me… and I feel like I’m being shallow and I don’t know what to do. I have told him about how I feel and he said “well there’s nothing I can do about those” and he’s right… So what do I do? I know most people will say “either get over it now or move on” but I can’t get myself to do either.

“Am I being anal retentive about the car we share?”

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I have a sweet boyfriend who is a part time mechanic. He bought a cheap old car, fixed it up a bit and lets me drive it. We live some thirty kilometers apart and it takes forever to get home on my scooter. We split the insurance and road taxes. I pay the gasoline and drive him to and from work.

But it bothers me something awful, whenever we talk to people, he says that it is his car and he just lets me drive it. It makes me feel like I am a little gold digger. I am paying half the expenses and all the gasoline. Am I being anal retentive if I would like him to say OUR car??

“Torn between believing he is interested in me or not”

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I’m 16; a high school student, inexperienced with relationships and boys. I mean I have some, such as my first kiss (at 13) and “hooking up” (making out) on a cruise when I was 14. Nothing else happened, until now. This boy (also 16) added me on Instagram and Snapchat and we started talking. It went great, we had similar interests such as sports and dancing. He was also really funny. I learnt that he loves kids which was something I took note on. He even sent me a video of him playing with his niece. He bought his mom shoes for her birthday recently too. He seemed nice, caring AND met all the standards I looked for in a boy. One day he asked me if “we could chill at his house”. Continue reading →

“I’m worried he’s trying to control me”

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I’ve been dating this boy for 6 months (longest and most serious relationship I’ve ever been in) and we get along really well and are very happy together, but I have my doubts sometimes on the likelihood that this will last, because we have pretty different views on things, and he is very stubborn.

There have been a few things where he asked if I could stop/start doing something because it made him uncomfortable and I have done that. But the couple of times I’ve told him something he does that bothers me, he gets very upset that I’m criticizing him or “trying to change him,” until i just give up, so he never makes any compromises for me like that. Continue reading →

“I love him but am worried about his mounting debts”

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I’m a 59 y/o female with same guy for 4 years and he is almost 65 y/o. We love each other but completely disconnect on financial matters. He talks about living together all the time and I’d love to, except he has no assets, owes thousands on credit cards (which he pays a little but needs a lot more to pay off) while I work hard, earn a good living and have assets.

I worry all the time about his finances because it will affect me if we live together. I’ve told him we can’t have a future without him getting his cards paid down but he wants to move in and give me his paycheck and let me decide how to allocate the money, which I don’ t want. I don’t need a rich guy but I really need a financially settled guy who doesn’t spend more than he earns! I am almost ready to break up with him but know that there aren’t many “good” guys out there. Any advice?