“I love him but his eyelids disgust me”

We’ve been dating over a year and moved in together a couple months ago. We get along great, never fight, he is very attractive to me, we have great sex, we are emotionally open, have a lot of fun, and I honestly couldn’t get along better with a boyfriend if I tried.

But myy boyfriend has really noticeable veiny eyelids, and whenever he raises his eyebrows they show up like “Bam! Here I am!” I’ve started obsessing over the veins and hating to go in the daylight with him because I know when he raises his eyebrows his veins are gonna disgust me. I’ve tried ignoring them, tried to make them into something funny in my head, tried to trick myself into thinking they make him unique but I always go back to “ugh, I’m probably gonna have to stare at those forever if we stay together”.

But, I know that if I break up with him I’d lose a wonderful man. He’s so kind, smart, would do anything for me… and I feel like I’m being shallow and I don’t know what to do. I have told him about how I feel and he said “well there’s nothing I can do about those” and he’s right… So what do I do? I know most people will say “either get over it now or move on” but I can’t get myself to do either.

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One thought on ““I love him but his eyelids disgust me”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Have you tried counseling for OCD? You might have a mild version of it.
    But yeah, if you don’t think this is something you can deal with the rest of your life, please move on now so you can find someone that you can live with the rest of your life and stop wasting both of your time on this relationship.

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