“I’ve been in love with the same girl for almost a decade”

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I’ve quietly been in love with the same girl for almost a decade. How do I move on?

Firstly, apologies for the lengthiness – I have a lot to get off my chest.

I’ll start by giving this scenario a bit of context. I’m twenty years old and have been living in a fairly quiet rural town for just over ten years now. I’m two years out of school and a few months away from leaving to go to university. All of the friends I made at school have already started university, with some even approaching their final year. I’m still in very regular contact with them, but opportunities to see them or anyone else I know are spread out across the year and quite infrequent. I’m generally frustrated by living in a place with little to do on a day-to-day basis, but get some relief from knowing that the situation will be changing for me very soon. Continue reading →

“Am I in a toxic relationship?”

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My ex-boyfriend and I of three years have had a very rough patch over the course of the years. We were so very in love but he did not treat me the way that I wanted to be. I had a few talks with him about what bothered me but there was little to no change. I decided to end it with him and try to see someone else.

That was a mistake. We tried working things out again but I left him once again. The next time I left him again and it went from a spiral. He wants me to quit my job in order for things to work out between us because a co-worker and I tried dating and another one currently has a liking towards me. I see where he’s coming from but I feel like this will be a mistake in the long run. I love him very much and I’m not sure what to do about the current situation. Any advice? Do you think this relationship will become even more toxic in the long run or will this solve some problems?

“Do I get back with my daughter’s dad?”

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Going to try and keep it short…
I got pregnant by someone I hardly knew. The guy spent 3 years in prison and now that he’s out I thought I would try and have a civilized relationship with him for the sake of my daughter.

Now here’s the issue.. I find myself talking to him a lot now. I’m happy in a relationship already so I don’t want to, or plan on having a romantic relationship with my daughter’s dad. I’m so surprised at how good we are getting along, we laugh a lot, and it just feels so wrong. I try to stop his flirting but he is so persistent and dammit, he’s so charismatic. It’s weird, I don’t want a relationship with him, and don’t want to ruin the relationship I have now, but I’m having a hard time trying to stay away. HELP PLEASE!!

“I’m stuck between my family and the guy I love”

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I need help. I am stuck between a rock and a wall, between my family and my love. Yesterday, I came home from college, my grandfather, brother and dad helped me move out. When they came to my dorm to take everything out, they met my African-American friend. They had no idea that he was actually my boyfriend, it was very recent and I do not share personal details of my life with my parents.

We moved everything out, came back to my house and while unpacking, jokes were made about me needing a boyfriend. I said that I did not need one because I already had one. Everything was silent, my mom was mad at me for 2 days and on the third day she finally spoke to me. Continue reading →

“Should I forgive him? – my heart says yes, my brain says no”

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My boyfriend of a year, had a girlfriend when we started dating. I did not know he had a gf already or I would not have gotten back together with him. We were secretly dating, because when I was younger he was charged with statutory rape and kidnapping. He is 21 and I am 18 now. This court case went on for 2 years. Anyhow, we got back together and everything was great. A year later they dropped the charges on him and we got a marriage license and they could not legally stop us from pursuing it. Now this girl messages me his texts from the entire 9 months we were dating of him, saying he loves her, calling her babe etc. Continue reading →

I’m a guy and I love wearing dresses and jewellery”

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Hi, I am a straight 15 year old guy who occasionally, in private, wears dresses and some jewellery as I find them comforting. I am not gay, or trans, I don’t do it to be or look like a woman. I do it to feel better about myself (plus I look good in them!)

For example, the other day when I was home alone, I wore a black dress that I took from my girlfriend once. That’s the thing, I love my girlfriend so much but I feel shitty lying to her about this. I want to tell her that I like dressing in this way, so I can do it around her without feeling like a freak . Should I tell her?

Also, I have been thinking about sex as well, and whether we should try it. Although it will be my first time, I am ready (despite that we are underage). I want to approach her about it to see if she is prepared to take our relationship to the next level as I am so in love with this girl!
Is it a good idea?

“My teacher is picking on me”

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I am in high school, and a pretty good student, known for being well behaved. Last semester I had gym with the teacher now teaching me science. She isn’t very good, but last semester I made an effort to be good to her, because it is her first teaching job and I wanted to be helpful.

This semester, however, I’ve had a really hard time concentrating in her class because she doesn’t control behavior, and other students are really noisy. I tend to not pay attention sometimes, and I know that it’s wrong, but no one else in my class pays attention. I get grades between 85 and 100 in her class.

The other day she yelled at me in front of the class and then told me to meet her after school to discuss my behavior. During the meeting I felt really bad, apologized, and promised to make a better effort. These last two weeks I have been copying all the notes and paying perfect attention, yet she still gives me terrible looks and says harsh things to me. There are students who yell at her, insult her, and act dangerously in her class and she says nothing to them, but continues to pick on me. What should I do? All my friends are angry about the way she treats me, but I just feel confused. I don’t want her to feel badly, I just want to make it stop.