My boyfriend of a year, had a girlfriend when we started dating. I did not know he had a gf already or I would not have gotten back together with him. We were secretly dating, because when I was younger he was charged with statutory rape and kidnapping. He is 21 and I am 18 now. This court case went on for 2 years. Anyhow, we got back together and everything was great. A year later they dropped the charges on him and we got a marriage license and they could not legally stop us from pursuing it. Now this girl messages me his texts from the entire 9 months we were dating of him, saying he loves her, calling her babe etc. So I confront him, and he admitted to sending those to her and claims it was not cheating. I then get hold of her and we both basically plan for him to think he is just meeting with me, but both of us are there so he can tell no lies. He literally told her the only reason he was “dating” her was for a place to stay where he was almost stuck, however he moved back in with his parents and still continued to talk to her. Him and I are so close, I just can’t imagine him saying everything he said to me with her. After the court case was dropped was when he dropped her also, saying he was in love with me and he was sorry and that we have been together the entire time, both of us clueless about one another. I feel like we were both played as idiot.
He started crying to me about how much he loved me and how he didn’t know how to tell me. When I say crying I mean balling his eyes out. He started shaking while he sat on my truck. I just always told myself I would never be that girl who takes someone back for that. I always defended him when people mentioned they thought he was dating the other girl, saying there is no way, for he loves me so much. So my question is, do you think it is possible to be together still? I love him and know I can get over it, but this is just the last straw to me in a way.
One thought on ““Should I forgive him? – my heart says yes, my brain says no””
You know where trash goes? Kick him to the curb. He’s already proven he will cheat on you given the chance. Yes, breaking up isn’t easy and especially with a master manipulator like him. Cut all forms of communication and get a divorce.
You are the person who can change this situation by deciding you won’t be played for a fool any longer.