“I’m 25 years old and I’ve never had sex”

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I want to but I’m so socially awkward that I push away anyone who’s interested. The only guys I’ve ever kissed were those who surprised me. I’m mad at myself that I didn’t let it get further with the first guy when I was 16. I was drunk, he was experienced and I had a big crush on him.

Now, nine years later, I’m still a virgin. I want to have sex and for the first time in my life and I’m trying to seriously date someone (I met online). He’s nice but there is absolutely no attraction. There are guys I am attracted to (I feel like there are more of them ever since I started dating) but none of them would notice me, and if they did their confidence would probably make me run the other way. I don’t know if I would feel more comfortable around men if I had sex.

Am I shallow for wanting to have sex with someone I actually find attractive instead of a guy I feel comfortable taking to but have no desire to even kiss? I feel like the longer I wait the less likely it is that I will ever have sex with anyone. I wish I could just get drunk and lose my virginity that way but I have never been drunk enough to actually go through with it.

“I have a crush but my friends don’t like him”

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I have a crush on a boy. This boy is really sweet and funny. I’m afraid to tell any one because everyone thinks he’s weird. Even my best friends make fun of him. People say he’s bad for me because he has a bad reputation, but the truth is, he’s there for me.

He understands what I’m going through and supports me, my other friends just can’t do that. I want to date him but I’m afraid people will make fun of me. What should I do?

“I’ve lost my self-worth after sleeping with a married man’

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So to keep it short, since about April I have been involved with a married man. He is 37, and I am 25. I too, am involved in a long term relationship so I guess we both could relate on some of the issues that we have been dealing with in the both of our relationships, which in turn sort of started the whole affair.

We both agreed to trying our best at not developing feelings, which was totally cool at first. But lately I’ve been having strong feelings. I feel a lot of guilt on so many levels, and I feel so worthless ever since we started sleeping together. Each time we have sex and he leaves, I can’t help but due to the shame that I feel. It’s like he takes a piece of me each and every single time he leaves after we are done.

I really want to break this off, especially knowing that our relationship will never be anything more than what it is. But sadly I have fallen for him. I have nobody to vent to, and it’s eating me up inside. I’m just curious as to how do I let this guy go? How do I emotionally and spiritually pick myself back up again? How do I get my self worth back again? He took it all from me.

“I’m being forced to choose between my boyfriend and family”

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I am 16 and I have been dating someone for 6 months. At the beginning, everything was perfect. He is the most loving, hilarious person I have ever met. I had my parents approval and everyone said we were the cutest couple.

But, my mother developed hatred toward my boyfriend. She now thinks he is disrespectful and a bad influence. She judges him and blames him for things he doesn’t do, and is now forbidding me to go out with him. I love him but she wants me to end things. I have tried fixing things and have invited him over to my family, but it only seems to make things worse.

I don’t feel loved or supported at home, and am constantly being told that everything I do is wrong. I also feel unsafe and scared for my future. I think I have met my future husband, and the fact that I am not allowed to date him is giving me severe anxiety and depression.

I don’t know what to do, because I can’t chose between my family and my boyfriend. I need advice.  At this point, I don’t want to live in my house anymore.

“My sexy teasing is making him upset”

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Hello! So me and my boyfriend are going through a long distance relationship right now, and we’re having a difficult time trying to get through it. One of the most recent bumps that we went through was that sometimes I tease him too much. And when I mean tease I mean wear sexy clothes, give him shows on Skype or FaceTime, or talk dirty to him. Before we went on the long distance thing we had sex regularly, and it has always been fun.

When we were together we would always tease each other and no one ever complained. But the reason why he thinks it’s too much sometimes is because he just misses me a lot. I understand what he is trying to say but my thing is that I don’t want to tease him if it’s just going to lead to him being turned off. Whenever I try to give him a show it always ends in us being sad or misunderstood. I don’t want to stop and he doesn’t either, we want to have fun, but we just don’t know how to tell each other “that’s enough” without making the other person feel bad.

“I told her I was fantasizing about her friend”

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So this is the stupidest thing I have done yet…… a few days ago I got home from work, everything is fine, she was fine and I don’t know what came over me I decided to tell her that I had fantasized about one of her friends. With that said it changed the mood of the whole house. She stopped talking and being non responsive.

I know at that moment I messed up, I tried to explain at the time but it made things worse, I have never seen her this angry before. She has given me the silent treatment for 2 days now. I don’t know what to do. I don’t mind if people judge me for having those thoughts I know it’s a mistake and that because I am married I should only be faithful to my wife but I don’t even know if that counts as cheating. Do I wish I can take it all back? Of course, do I wish I never have those thoughts? Definitely. At the moment I am just waiting for her to forgive me but it feels like I am on death row. Please help?

“I’m bored with my relationship”

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I’ve been dating this guy for almost 6 months now, but recently I’ve been getting bored with the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy and an amazing boyfriend and we were even friends for a long time before we started to date. It’s just that recently I’ve been getting really annoyed over little things and the relationship isn’t exciting like it used to be.

Also, my ex is back from college and I’ve been fantasizing about him sexually.. a lot. I’ve been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I’m afraid of losing the only person who’s close to me and I can open up to. I generally keep my feelings to myself and not many people really know me. I’m ready to be free of the obligations of a relationship and explore other options, but I don’t want to lose my only real friend.

“He’s really bad at kissing”

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just under 6 months and we’ve only kissed properly with tongues around 4 times. He’s really bad at it and I don’t want to tell him as I feel it will put him down. He’s always saying we need to get better at it and do it more so we can improve but it’s always super awkward and I don’t like doing it that much anymore? Help please :/