“Shall I ask him outright how he feels?”

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Hi, I’m a bisexual guy and I’ve been meeting up with this guy for a few weeks now for sex basically, I’ve been to his a few times he’s been to mine etc, and the other day I told him that I actually like him, he seemed to kind of avoid saying anything like he likes me etc…

He’s really talkative in person but seems to be lacking in texting skills and always seems to blank my message when a topic becomes overused in a conversation instead of what people normally do and divert it over to something else… and as he’s blanked the message I don’t want to look like a fool by messaging him to start the conversation again.

I’m really not too sure how to go about it as some of my mates have told me just to ask him outright how he feels/if he feels anything for me and what he wants, but I don’t really want to force him into anything, or drive him away especially only having known each other for around three weeks…

Thanks.

“I’m scared to show her what I look like because I feel ugly”

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I really need help… my girlfriend (I am also a girl) who I only know on Skype, is really pretty. We recently called and she calls herself ugly but she’s very beautiful. She has long, brown hair. She has flawless skin and she makes me all squidgy inside. She makes me feel so happy and wanted in the world. I can’t explain.

But now, she wants me to show her my face (she says I’m beautiful but she doesn’t know what I look like) and I look like an ugly human. Continue reading →

“I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciates me”

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We are in a long distance relationship for the summer and he rarely makes time for me. He says we should Skype but when I bring it up he always has a reason to blow me off. When I travel a long distance to see him (I always go to him, he never comes to me), he spends the majority of the time playing video games or watching videos while I wait for him to finish (he never does). I try to show interest in his hobbies, but he always puts them before me.  Continue reading →

“I can’t cope with my parent’s death”

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Dear Blurb ,
I’m a 20 year old girl from Cape Town, South Africa and I found my mom dead on the bathroom floor when I was 13. When I was 18 I walked into my dad’s room as he took his last breath.

I’m going through some weird emotions and I don’t really have money to talk to someone. When my dad passed, the flat we’ve been renting was put in my name so all the responsibility was given to me overnight.

I’m not really sure how to deal with it all, please send me your advice and tips to help with coping.

“Will his stubbornness and naivety improve over time?”

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What should I do, I like my bf, but his stubbornness and naivety are irritating me. Especially when I tell him something, and he doesn’t listen and says I’m untrusting of people, and then finds out that I was right and apologizes (happens often).

I [23F] have been dating my bf [26M] for around 1 year now. He is very nice to me. However, as I slowly got to know him more, I’ve realized that he is very stubborn and naive, and trusts people too much. He believes everyone is a good person, and won’t hurt or take advantage of him. Continue reading →

“I’m in love with my best friend”

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I’m in love with my best friend who is a girl. I am male but gay, (or bi I guess) and I have feelings for her. She is incredibly sweet and pretty and nice, but is currently in a relationship with someone who has hurt her in the past.

It is still a strong relationship, but I am worried about her potential, as well as my feelings towards her. I think that if I told her we would still be friends, seeing as we’ve talked about living together and things like that, but I don’t want to do it while she’s in a relationship. The guy she is in a relationship with is also a good friend of mine.

“I’m in love with a felon”

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I’ve fallen madly in love with a man who served 26.5 years in prison for a murder (gang related) he committed when he was 19. The ironic thing is I was dating him when this happened. He pursued me for years before I would take him serious. He was trying to quit the gang life for himself and me.

I wrote him for a year and moved on with my life. Decades later he paroled and found me. He said he never stopped looking for me and always thought of how things could have played out so differently if he wasn’t such a fool as a kid. When we are together it’s like we are teenagers again. Continue reading →

“Am I acting out of place?”

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When I came home after a long Sunday out, I asked my mom about my pet’s vet visit and every time I spoke, my sister sighed. My other cat has cancer and my mom said that every time me and my sister are home we have to take care of her and that I just can’t be going out. But I told her that the only times I went out during the week were to work or to get driving lessons. My sister sighed again.

When I went to see my kitty with cancer I saw that her post-surgery cone was put on with the clip half way in the loop so soon to fall off, and with the clip out the outside instead of the inside so part of the cone angled out, getting caught on objects, and that the string that tied it was untied. I asked my mom who tied it in an angry voice and my sister said to my mom that she will never help with my sick cat again. Continue reading →

“He thinks I’m cheating but I’m not!”

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My boyfriend and I have not been together for that long and all of a sudden he keeps asking me if I am cheating on him (which I am not whatsoever), I do have guy friends but it was something we discussed before we even made our relationship official and we came to the agreement that since these people have been in my life longer than he even has, and are such a major part of my life, it wasn’t going to be a problem.

Yet he still keeps asking me if I am cheating, if we are hanging out and my phone goes off sometimes he will rip if out of my hand and go through it. We’ve talked about it and he said he will work on it but he still questions me and such. I feel like he doesn’t trust me.  Continue reading →

“I’ve got feelings for my friend-with-benefits”

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I have had a ‘Friend with Benefits’ for about 5-6 months. We became friends at work. Since we are coworkers and know our associates gossip like its their mission on earth,  we have decided to keep our personal business very hush-hush.

He’s the first guy I’ve ever been with and…. as cliches would have it, against my own better judgement, I developed some serious feelings for him. In my defense, though, I’m pretty positive he’s caught some feelings as well… at least…. for a while, it seemed like it.

The problem is, that when he was acting like he wanted more than sex and being extra attentive and intimate,and we were starting to interact more like a couple I got overwhelmed and pushed him away out of fear and because I believed that we were not compatible for an actual relationship. Continue reading →