My boyfriend and I have not been together for that long and all of a sudden he keeps asking me if I am cheating on him (which I am not whatsoever), I do have guy friends but it was something we discussed before we even made our relationship official and we came to the agreement that since these people have been in my life longer than he even has, and are such a major part of my life, it wasn’t going to be a problem.
Yet he still keeps asking me if I am cheating, if we are hanging out and my phone goes off sometimes he will rip if out of my hand and go through it. We’ve talked about it and he said he will work on it but he still questions me and such. I feel like he doesn’t trust me. On top of that I have told him that I am applying to study abroad and he told me that he doesn’t think that he can do a long distance relationship even though he knows I am in ROTC and on track to go active duty in the military. What did he think was going to happen when I graduated? That I would never have to go overseas? I haven’t even applied and he is trying to talk me out of my dreams of studying abroad saying he doesn’t understand why I want this or why I will ever have to go overseas.
I’m starting to not even care if I lose him or not even though I love him so dearly. What do I do? Is there a way for me to fix things and change how I am feeling?
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Oh honey, you live IN red flag forest. Run, don’t walk away from this boy. He’s not going to change but get worse.
He invades your privacy.
He tries to cut you off from friends and your dreams.
Claims to be working on stopping, but continues to do these things.
Threatens you, belittles you, doesn’t trust you, and cuts you off.
You are in a abusive relationship already. Get out NOW. He knows what he’s doing is wrong, but nothing you can do will change him. If he honestly cared about your feelings he never would have gone through your phone.
Ps. One thing real cheaters do, is blame the other person in the relationship.