“I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciates me”

We are in a long distance relationship for the summer and he rarely makes time for me. He says we should Skype but when I bring it up he always has a reason to blow me off. When I travel a long distance to see him (I always go to him, he never comes to me), he spends the majority of the time playing video games or watching videos while I wait for him to finish (he never does). I try to show interest in his hobbies, but he always puts them before me. I always try to show him I much I care. Recently I planned a short vacation for us. He invited another couple (his friend and his friend’s girlfriend that I don’t know) without asking me. While they are nice, I would’ve rather had a romantic vacation with just him. His friends coming along made it very stressful logistically, and I had to wait around while him and his friend played video games because I drove.

Basically, I just feel like my boyfriend doesn’t value me. He’s always putting his friends or hobbies before me no matter what I do. I just want him to spend time with me, even if it’s just a 10 minute call. What should I do?

2 thoughts on ““I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciates me”

  1. Anonymous says:

    I have a question for you: do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling unvalued?

    Talk to him one last time, but be aware things won’t change. LDR’s are super hard, even for people who are very committed. It sounds like you are both in different places in your life with different priorities. He’s taken one fork, you should take the other and find someone walking along that road. It will be rough for a bit and there’s no good time to break up, but you are smart enough to realize it now then spent 10 valuable years of your life being with him while being left out of his.

    Internet hugs

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