“When do I confront her?”

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I found out yesterday my wife just started sexting with a high school sweetheart from 30+ years ago. She doesn’t know I know & I haven’t confronted her about it yet. I recently screwed up our relationship big time (finances), so I have no ground to stand on.

She kicked me out for 3 nights, before letting me back in the house while we fix the finances, but nothing promised. We have a family picnic this afternoon (not at our house) & I’m trying not to confront her before then as to not ruin the day, for the family’s sake, not hers, but I’m struggling keeping it in! We have two older kids from her first marriage, & a 14 year old of ours living in the house. When do I confront her?

“Do I delete him number and move on?”

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I’ve been dating a guy for almost 2 years, we met in uni so we saw each other almost everyday. When I went back home in the summer he didn’t bother texting much or even calling. When I text, it takes him over a week to reply and the excuse is he’s busy. He does have a job but no one is THAT busy.

He also got caught cheating in an exam so he got a year’s deferral which means I won’t see him for a year. We texted a little but now he suddenly stopped replying all together, I’ve sent him multiple texts and it shows that he’s read them. On whatsapp, I can see that he’s online everyday but he doesn’t bother texting me. He also wouldn’t add me on snapchat which is a huge red flag for me.

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“He kissed another girl”

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 7 months, we’re young (17) and each other’s first loves. He was a border at a school in my town but had to move back in with his family so we’re now in a long distance relationship (4 hours away).

He recently told me he had feelings for another girl at his new school and they kissed a couple days ago. I’m really worried about being hurt again and I’m not sure if I can trust him again. He seems genuinely sorry, has admitted everything, we’ve had long conversations about it as I went to visit him and he’s even messaged the girl (who really likes him) saying how he f**ked up and doesn’t want anything else to do with her. I’m just so lost and hurt, someone help or share advice. Thank you xoxo

“Do I tell him why I broke up with him?”

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My ex boyfriend asked when we broke up, if I could eventually tell him what he did wrong. In the same conversation, I learned that he has asked this of all his exes and that he does absolutely nothing to fix those problems.

I’ve been tempted to tell him what he’s done wrong,  but always didn’t, because I doubt he’ll try to improve himself in any way. I always try and take the high road even if it is rough and I don’t want to do it. Continue reading →

“I’m in love with my grandfather”

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My grandfather and I are in love?

I’m 18 and he’s 70…I know it sounds terrible and awful and it’s not something that should ever happen. But he had to move in with us about six months ago and we really clicked. We binge-watched TV shows and ate ice cream and had so much fun! We just kept getting closer and closer. Eventually we sat on the same couch, and a while after that we ended up holding hands. Continue reading →

“I told my friend a massive lie and want to come clean”

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I told a really big lie to someone I care about and now I want to tell them. We’ve been friends for a little over year, and our friendship is at a really critical point because he’s going through relationship trouble and stress with school, and we’re connecting more than ever before. We have these long, intimate conversations about everything from music to horror movies to graduate school, and we have so much in common. I guess I just want to be honest with him for my own piece of mind, I want to have a clean conscience and feel like I’m presenting my most authentic self. I also want him to be vulnerable with me, especially when he’s struggling with something. We’re not totally there yet and I want us to be, so I guess I just feel like coming clean might help with that. Continue reading →

“I think I’m in love with my best friend”

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I’m a 15 y/o girl and I’ve liked my best friend, a 13 y/o girl, ever since I met her. I think I might be in love with her? I met her when I was 7, she was 5. I don’t think I realized how I felt about her until I was about 12. At first I thought I just liked her as a close friend or little sister. But I think I love her.

I haven’t confessed to her, but I have told her that I’m bisexual, although I’ve never had any romantic feelings towards anyone but her. When I was 12 and she was 10 we had a sleepover at her house, that’s when I realized how I feel. I find myself staring at her a lot. I also tend to go on her social media profiles quite a few times a day. I get jealous whenever I see anyone do or say anything to her that I feel could be flirtatious. Continue reading →

“He worries about money and never initiates sex”

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I have recently moved in with my boyfriend of over a year. I love being with him, but two things have bothered me since we moved. First and foremost, he is extremely concerned about money – this would be normal, but he has approximately 1000 dollars more than me currently, and I paid for all of our furniture/home essentials/most of our food.

Given that I don’t drive, he gets very upset about spending gas money (we hardly drive anywhere and he drove all the way home without me this past weekend, 3 hours away). It got to the point where we really needed another trash can, and he wasn’t going to buy one because a large one in Walmart was $10… so I caved in and bought it. It took him 2 weeks to pay back his $80 share of our internet/router. I really don’t have much money left but he expects me to pay half/more than half our groceries.

The other thing is, he just doesn’t seem attracted to me anymore. If we have sex I am the one to initiate, and he barely touches me and normally just wants me to get on top of him. We spoke about this and have had good sex twice since (I initiated though).

The money thing is very, very, very uncomfortable for me though, and I don’t even know how to bring it up. He gets very angry and acts like I’m crazy/doesn’t believe that I’ve paid for as much as I have. My stress levels have been through the roof and I’ve been crying and panicking a lot. He seems confused about that, too, and gets frustrated with me very quickly when I show any emotion or am not super happy or active. I think he may be stressed and acting like this due to that in part. But I need outside perspective. My friends are a little biased.

“I’m feeling out of place in my relationship”

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I went to my boyfriend’s bar to pick him up and he bought me food which was sweet. We sat and talked, he just told me stories about his past, I tried to talk about ideas or something more mentally intriguing, but as usual he was not reciprocating and seemed uninterested. I like hearing stories of his past but it seems like it’s all he talks about recently…which in turn made me feel bored.

So I went to dance, he didn’t come to watch. I danced for about 15 mins then returned to the table. I had bought new clothes and dressed up for him, he didn’t acknowledge it until i finally asked for a compliment, which has also been a trend. Continue reading →