Hello. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for over a year now. Everything has been great until these past few weeks. He’s been distant and preoccupied. Not answering my calls, taking hours to get back to me. Coming home late. Then last week after I worked the graveyard shift, I come home and find sex toys in the shower. (Dildo). He said he used it on himself. Then this morning I found my vibrator in his glove compartment of his car. It was in our bedroom previous to that. Once again, he said he used it on himself. I told him I’m not buying his story and he needs to come clean. He told me I need to get a grip and that my crazy thoughts need to stop, and I need professional help. That my insane way of thinking is driving him away and keeping me from believing the truth that he told me.
I don’t think that I’m insane or crazy. I think any woman in her right mind would think how I do. That he is full of shit. And that he is messing with my head because he got caught . What is your advice? By the way he will not let me go near his back door ever. Not even to tickle him so what am I supposed to think??
LemonVibe 
Buy him his own to use. Men using sex toys is common. Also those those he used out, because fecal matter should not mix vaginal anything. That’s a fast way to get a yeast infection.
As to telling you that you are crazy, seek a professional marriage counselor.
I’m sorry that he dismissed your feelings and called you crazy.
I’m sorry that he doesn’t have a understanding partner to have sex with.
You both were in the wrong with how that situation was handled.
I wouldn’t buy his story either, especially if he isn’t into anal play during your sexy time. Also finding the vibrator in his GLOVE COMPARTMENT is a big red flag! The shower isn’t so much suspicious because guys do tend to…self-pleasure in the shower.
But in the car? Not as common. That would definitely be a red flag for me. I honestly suggest you don’t use those sex toys until you find out what the deal is here. If he’s using them up his butt, you could get an infection by using them in your vagina because of any left over fecal matter on them.
If (worst case scenario) he is using them on another woman, you could get an infection from that as well and catch any kind of STDs she has. Like the other answer suggests, throw them out and buy yourself new ones but lock these away somewhere. If you want him to keep the old ones then let him but I honestly wouldn’t unless it was absolutely confirmed he was using them on himself and not anyone else.
I hope you’re able to sort this out! Good luck 🙂
I’m sorry, I understand that this is no fun for you but I couldn’t help laughing at him. I don’t know what should be worse. If he dates someone else or if he really uses your toys on himself. Kick him out of your life!