I’ve been meeting up with a girl on and off for a year now. She’s 34 and I’m 22. She’s had bad experiences with men before me – her ex tried drowning her. She loved him, cheated on him, and continues to love him. She has two kids to him and a third to another man. Her daughter was diagnosed with cancer. She doesn’t drive I do so help out with appointments, etc., recently driving 120 miles a day for 3 weeks. She told me she isn’t interested in a relationship, but continues to text and meet me when she’s had a drink. She says I’m 22, and tells me to enjoy myself. She says she isn’t interested in anyone apart from me, and won’t hold me back. I love her and believed her, and if she knew I was seeing a girl, it didn’t stop her from cracking on with me when the notion took her. She says things she shouldn’t, making me think that she loves me.
Category: Advice Needed
“My wife divorced me, and now wants to get back together”
My wife left me in January after only eight months of marriage. She said she was “100% sure” she couldn’t be happy with me, and that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She said that I work too much (she wasn’t working at the time). She said awful things to me about my appearance, my personality, and my ability to be loved. I was torn to a million pieces.
She moved out of the house, and while I told her I wouldn’t ask her to love me anymore (that doesn’t work, in my experience), I also said we should slow it down. Go to therapy. Keep in touch. She refused. The only thing I asked was that she not serve me papers at work. I was new, and I was the department head, and my team didn’t need to see me get served at work.
So she served me at work.
A couple of months later, I met an amazing woman. I knew it was risky, but we decided to date. She’s fantastic. She enjoys all the things I do (travel, cooking, wine – all things my wife was lukewarm – at best – about), my friends love her, and she matches my hustle professionally.
“I’d spend my last dime on my girlfriend if I could”
So, my girlfriend and I have been together a few months and she is complaining to other people that I’m not getting her hints for sexual attention. I’m also a virgin, and she is aware of this fact. We share the same birthday, and every time I try to set up what we want to drink, or where we are going, or what we are doing, she gets distracted or says, “I don’t know” and shrugs it off.
Is this a sign that she isn’t really feeling the relationship? Do I just idly sit by and hope she feels comfortable enough to talk to me about how to respond to her moves, or make moves of my own? She talks to me all the time about how she has eloped in this parking garage or corrupted that parking lot. When I try to ask what she is comfortable with, she says, “We will get there when we get there.” It’s to the point that I kinda just exist in the room with her, and am relatively indifferent unless I’m getting inebriated with her. I know that’s not healthy, but I’ll be 21 in a few days, and she will be 19.
“I’m ready to lose my virginity, but my boyfriend isn’t”
I used to be abstinent. After some thought, I decided that that is not important to me anymore. I’m still a virgin, but, if sex happens, it happens.
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now, and he refuses to have sex with me because of “my beliefs.” It’s been years since I told him I no longer believe in waiting, but, he absolutely will not have sex with me. What do I do?
“I want to make out with every guy I’m with”
Okay, so this has been going on for a while now and I don’t know what to do. I’m 16 years old, and I’ve been having this sudden urge to make out with any guy I’m with. I know it’s literally called being horny, and it’s purely hormonal. I am pretty sure I’m not asexual, but I am not interested in having sex AT ALL.
I’ve seen the consequences of unprotected sex, and sex when you are too young, and the consequences are not appealing to me at all. I literally just want a traditional one night stand kind of deal, where we make out for a while, and feelings beyond physical attraction are just not there, and we go our separate ways, unaffected besides the pleasure of making out with each other.
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“Should I wait for him?”
I’m in a strange, complicated issue. I’m an Asexual Panromantic female, and I’m in love with my best friend. He is in love with me too, but is scared to date because of a distance issue. My family tells me not to wait around for him.
I love him so much, yet at the same time, want to experience life instead of waiting around. What should I do?
“I can’t tell if he likes me or not”
I’m in high school and there’s this guy … we have some things in common, and he seems nice enough. He often “slides into my dm’s” (like, two to three times a week). I’m pretty sure he likes me, but I’m not positive, and I don’t know how to talk to him at this point.
After school ended for the year, some of the people from our grade went on a trip. I chose not to go because I was saving for a car. Anyway, on the trip, one of my friends overheard him telling his friends how “smokin’ hot” I was (which is weird, as I’ve got no booty and no boobs to speak of). They also said that there were tons of rumors about how he had sent me nudes, even though he hadn’t even spoken to me throughout the duration of the trip. Since the end of the trip, he hasn’t talked to me very much. He slides into my dm’s occasionally, but I always have to end the conversation because I’m busy doing other stuff.
“My girlfriend is insanely jealous”
Hello, I need advice to save my relationship. I have been dating this girl for close to three years. I love her with all my heart. She gets mad at me for little things (other girls telling me “happy birthday”, etc.). She would get very mad and block me. She would ignore me for days and no matter what I do, I could not fix it. I’ve tried giving her presents, apologising, admitting it’s my mistake (even though sometimes it’s not). But nothing works. I have accepted her character and love who she is, but things have been going south lately. She’s been getting mad at me every day (up from about once a week), she asked me to un-friend every girl from my Facebook friends, and I did it, to prove that I don t like other girls or talk to other girls at all.
Recently she checked my YouTube history, and she found some videos which have girls in the thumbnail as clickbait, and she is now ignoring me and blocking me again. She is becoming more and more insecure, and I don’t know how to save my relationship.
I have never cheated on her, I never talk to other girls, or even look at other girls. I don’t know why she just doesn’t trust me.
“I’m considering having a threesome with my bisexual girlfriend”
I have been in a monogamous relationship with my bisexual girlfriend for the past six months. We’ve recently been discussing incorporating threesomes, so that she can further explore her female-female side, and we are both feeling pretty confident about doing so.
However, today, when we were talking about this, she brought up that she had been thinking about her best friend (female), who she sometimes thinks about in a physical manner. This is the first time she admitted this to me, but it was pretty obvious to me already. When I’m with them, I sense that it’s a bit more than just a friendship. They have been intimate in the past, and so her liking her friend in that manner seems more complicated and more serious than anything like a casual threesome.
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