Category: Advice Needed

“I used to be abusive towards my family”

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i had a very healthy life until I lost my father when I was 15 years old. I got into wrong habits like talking to many boys at one time, sleeping late in the night etc., which spoiled my reputation in society. My mom being the single parent worried a lot for me and explained to me to not do this by every means. I never listened to her and instead used to fight and beat my younger siblings out of frustration who were 7 years younger to me.

I never used to like any of my relatives and used to blackmail my family that i will behave even worse so that relatives would really want to break all ties with us. Somehow two years passed and I was sent to college. I was well-to-do with studies and hence was admitted to a good college. I hated my college as it was an all-girls college and I was from a co-ed school. I flunked a year because I used to bunk classes and got into smoking and drinking wit my then-BF.

We were dependent on my maternal grandparents for money. I somehow with a lot of difficulty finished grad school and joined a call center. I started earning but I hardly gave money to my family. I met a bad guy who used me physically and cheated on me. I left him and found a very decent boy with a decent family. My best friend guided me wrong and asked me to break up. I broke up with him. Continue reading →

“He offered me money to do sexy things with him”

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I’ve arranged to meet with someone online and do sexy things with him. But I’m still a virgin and kinda want my first time to be special. This man is 49, whereas I’m nearly 18. He has offered me £150 to do just low-level sexy things with him for 2-3 hours. Now I could really do with that money with Christmas coming up and all that jazz, and 150 is a good amount to spend on friends and family. I’m just not sure if i really want to do this, but the money aspect is very alluring. Any advice?

“My boyfriend is only using me for sex”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for one-and-a-half years. He was my first time and ever since that first time, we usually have sex a lot. It seems like that’s all he ever wants. We’ve tried everything — anal, bj, missionary, different sex positions. We’ve run out of options and now I just feel like a porn star.

His favorite is anal, and it’s not comfortable for me, but if I don’t ever want it, he just gets upset about it. He’ll get upset if I don’t know anything new to try, but how can I? I was a virgin before him, he thinks we don’t have enough sex, but usually we’ll have it 4-5 times a week. I used to be so into it, but now he just wants to get in and get out. I have to use lube just to get started. Now because he won’t have foreplay with me anymore, he thinks its a chore to turn me on. He just wants to do it. Continue reading →

“Is she interested in me?”

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I’m 26m, independent person, met a girl introduced by a mutual friend. Hit it off quite well, she’s independent too, about my age.

Asked her out for some desserts and coffee and she said yes. Texted very little because I prefer to see her and not be a text buddy (I found that I always initiated first). Offered her to pick her up, but she prefers to meet at the place, so we met at the place and hit it off really well. We talked for almost 4 hours effortlessly, didn’t felt like it was that long, she had to go cause she had a family dinner and I offered to walk her to her car. She initiated text by saying she reached home and had a good time.

During the date, she showed signs like playing with her hair and sharing some very deep personal stuff talking about her life on top of the casual stuff we talked about having fun.

I maintain texting her, initiating every about 2 days and she replied rather quickly, and there was teasing and I threw a bit of sexual double meanings to indirectly let her know that I want her and not to be a friend and she played along with me. Continue reading →

“My girlfriend won’t move in with me”

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My girlfriend and I have been happily in a relationship for 2.5 years. We understand each other and have many similar interests. We are truly each other’s best friend. She suffers from severe anxiety, and it has its strains on the relationship, but nothing we can’t work on together.

Her parents bought a duplex for us/me to rent to own. Honestly I’m happier here than I have been in a long time. But she won’t move in. She claims she doesn’t want to be a financial burden, but I make $80k/year so it’s not justifiable. She spends lots of time over, but she still lives with her parents, and she freaks out when I bring it up. I’m ready for our relationship to move forward into a partnership, but it’s obvious this scares her so much. It’s been five months now. How do I convince her that it’s time to move forward?

“My boyfriend annoys me very easily”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We are seniors in high school, and he’s been my best friend ever since we started talking sophomore year. Ever since we started dating, we’ve been inseparable. Some slight ups and downs, nothing too major. He’s close with my family, I’m close with his. We have many mutual friends, and we are truly great together.

For some reason, things have been off the past couple months. We fight a lot more than usual. But the thing is, I’m the one who starts the fights usually. I’m super sensitive, and it takes little to tick me off. My boyfriend is the sweetest, most innocent kid ever, but he annoys me very easily. I don’t know why. Sometimes I think I am a lot more mature and more intelligent than him. Other times I think I miss the way I used to be. I used to be a lot closer with my friends, and more carefree.

Thinking about going off to college soon terrifies me, only because I don’t know what to do. Anytime I hint a breakup, he gets so upset and I feel so awful, because there’s no specific reason for a breakup. I’ve just become sad recently, and I think I’d be happier without a relationship on my hands. But another part of me thinks I will be absolutely miserable and regret it. What if I never find a guy like him again? He’s perfect but I just don’t know where to turn. I feel like I’ve lost myself and we’ve lost our spark. Help.

“Why are my friends acting so weird?”

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Why are my crush’s friends acting so weird? And they’re actually my friends too. I’m a freshman girl and I have a crush on my sorority president. Let’s call her Naomi, and it seems like she likes me too. She usually gives me intense stares, checks me out, and accidentally (not accidentally at all) bumped into my arm and kept her arm touching mine until she left — bearing in mind that we were outside in the open and it was just like a dozen girls there.

She also gives me this look where its like, her mouth is open and she lowers her eyelids … anyway I’m friends with two of her friends. Lets call them Annie and Kelsey. And she has another friend who is very quiet, Lily.

Annie and I met because we do charity work together and we became friends and I would hang out with her, and she would ALWAYS bring up Naomi, all the time, telling me what church she goes to, things they’ve done to her and how she reacted etc. Even once when I mentioned eating these amazing muffins, she was like “oh me and Naomi went to this amazing coffee shop the other time but I cant remember what its called, I’ll ask her for you”.

Kelsey and I would also hang out and she would also always bring her up, try and link whatever we were talking about to Naomi. But Kelsey would also seem to have a crush on me anyway. We were having hell week and were supposed to graduate but didnt because of issues with transport. Continue reading →

“I have a crush on my ex-boyfriend’s ex-boyfriend”

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So, I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend’s ex-boyfriend (I’m a guy). I also have had a huge crush on him since he broke up with my ex. I didn’t want to ruin what we had between us, so I never bothered to vocalise or display my feelings. Then, he got a boyfriend, and I pushed my feelings to the side and remained his best friend. Now, he has been broken up with his now-ex-boyfriend for a month (from a four-month relationship), and my feelings have come back stronger than ever.

I stayed at his place on Sunday night. I arrived at 1:30 and we talked until 3:30. Take into mind that we were sharing the same bed, as friends do, like. Then, we started kissing and after two minutes, he said “I can’t do this! I’m not ready for a relationship.”

And I said “Okay, that’s no problem.”

He then said “You can’t tell Shane about this,” and I said “My sex life isn’t any of his business, so he ain’t going to be finding out. Look you don’t want this so I’ll stop.” Continue reading →

“I caught my wife going to a guy’s house”

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I caught my wife going to her coworkers house at 4:30 in the morning right before I got out of work — after I told her I don’t want her contacting him. Well I thought it was all good.

For some reason, I left my phone in car while I was at work. And the recorder was on. I asked her what she did after work, she said take a shower then to get me. Well she went to his house — I could hear them talking for a bit about going inside his house. They did for about 20 minutes, then got back in car, and I heard them saying they hope I don’t sneak up on them talking behind my back. I mean, she cheated. What do you think?

“My girlfriend is picking fights with me”

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Lately my girlfriend has been getting angry at me for petty things, like, not replying fast enough to messages,  and then refusing to talk to me for hours over such meaningless squabbles. Anyway, she’s also been hanging out with this guy who I’m pretty sure fancies her quite a lot lately, in fact till very early hours this weekend. Both Friday and Saturday night she promised to come see me after but bailed both times. They’re friends because they’re both vegan, which is another thing she often criticises me for and sometimes threatens to leave me because of.

I’m normally cool about all this cos you know its part of being in a relationship (right?) and you need to be patient, but, just now, this guy posted a pic of just him and her together in a toilet mirror (?!) with the caption “Fav <3” and it makes me very uncomfortable he’s putting hearts with pictures of just him and her.

Maybe this is just my impulses and I’ll get over it but is this a valid reason to be annoyed?