“My boyfriend is only using me for sex”

My boyfriend and I have been together for one-and-a-half years. He was my first time and ever since that first time, we usually have sex a lot. It seems like that’s all he ever wants. We’ve tried everything — anal, bj, missionary, different sex positions. We’ve run out of options and now I just feel like a porn star.

His favorite is anal, and it’s not comfortable for me, but if I don’t ever want it, he just gets upset about it. He’ll get upset if I don’t know anything new to try, but how can I? I was a virgin before him, he thinks we don’t have enough sex, but usually we’ll have it 4-5 times a week. I used to be so into it, but now he just wants to get in and get out. I have to use lube just to get started. Now because he won’t have foreplay with me anymore, he thinks its a chore to turn me on. He just wants to do it.

One day I asked him to maybe make out with me, or just run his hands all over my body to help me, and he got offended. We work together, we live together, and at work when he texts me, he just wants to text about sex, and if I’m not saying anything interesting, he will literally tell me he’s bored now or I killed the fun. I don’t know what to do anymore … I know this sounds like a bunch of rambling but I don’t know how to put it all together in a better way. I just feel used.

3 thoughts on ““My boyfriend is only using me for sex”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Congratulations on admitting there is a problem. That is step one.
    You may be dating a sex addict.
    You are in a abusive relationship. He doesn’t care about your feelings mentally or physically.
    I would end this relationship if he doesn’t want to go to counseling with you. You should go on your own.

    You deserve better.

  2. Anonymous says:

    This does not sound like a healthy relationship. If he doesn’t care about your feelings now, it’s likely not going to get better. But you need to tell him that it’s not working. That if he can’t give you more with foreplay and the occasional make out session rather than just sex, you can’t see a future together. If he cares and wants to change, great. If he doesn’t after you’ve clearly explained how you feel, you need to to end it and move on.
    You need to find someone that wants the same things as you do in a sexual relationship.

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