So, I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend’s ex-boyfriend (I’m a guy). I also have had a huge crush on him since he broke up with my ex. I didn’t want to ruin what we had between us, so I never bothered to vocalise or display my feelings. Then, he got a boyfriend, and I pushed my feelings to the side and remained his best friend. Now, he has been broken up with his now-ex-boyfriend for a month (from a four-month relationship), and my feelings have come back stronger than ever.

I stayed at his place on Sunday night. I arrived at 1:30 and we talked until 3:30. Take into mind that we were sharing the same bed, as friends do, like. Then, we started kissing and after two minutes, he said “I can’t do this! I’m not ready for a relationship.”

And I said “Okay, that’s no problem.”

He then said “You can’t tell Shane about this,” and I said “My sex life isn’t any of his business, so he ain’t going to be finding out. Look you don’t want this so I’ll stop.”

But he said ” I want it.” So we kissed for ages. Then the next morning we just went about our day as best friends. But come 14:00, I said that I hoped what had happened the night before hadn’t jeopardised the friendship that we both so cherish. I know that he isn’t ready for a relationship, but obviously there is something there beyond friendship that could flourish. Otherwise what happened that night wouldn’t have happened, would it? I really, really like him and I don’t know what to do! Please help!!!!!