Category: Advice Needed

“I don’t see us getting together because of our families”

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My best guy friend told me that he likes me like a lot, and I am confused. We have been friends for more than a year. I am single and I don t want to be in relationship, and I never had one before.

I have promised my mom to not have one until I graduate (we are both 19). I don’t think I am mature enough for a relationship, but deep down, I feel I also like him, as most of the time I can’t stop thinking about him.

We are really close, but I ended up telling him that I don t want to be in a relationship with anyone, and the friendship we have is more important than that. This was three months ago. We talk on and off now, because he always ends up telling me that he wants me and can’t get me out of his head, and my other girl best friend (who is also friends with him) keeps telling me how much he wants me and is really heartbroken. Continue reading →

“I’m scared my health problems are pushing him away”

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I’ve been with my fiancé for over 4 years. In the first year of our relationship, he went behind my back with his ex. He also cheated on me with her again (and briefly left me for her) in the winter of 2015 and February 2016. He also cheated on me with and left me for a girl he worked with a couple of years ago for a month. However, we have been together for the majority of the last 4 1/2 years.

I cut him off last year, because I had had enough and didn’t want to be his backup or just-in-case anymore. He would never open up to me. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative and always kept me hanging on while still talking to other girls. Continue reading →

“My wife got drunk and tried to cheat on me”

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Should I be mad about this? I caught my wife cheating on me with … ME.

My wife is (EXTREMELY, like ready to divorce me) mad at me, because (ironically) she thinks I cheated on her. Long story involving a lady who was a friend of mine (never even kissed her, actually) and a years-old email message from my friend that that I’d totally forgotten about. Until my wife (snooping through my old email messages) went batsh*t crazy over it, that is.

So my wife decides she’s going to solve all of her problems by spending THE RENT MONEY to go out alone with her “gay” friend (I’ll call him Mike) and get plastered.

She calls me at 1 AM to come get her. She’d spent about $150 of the rent money, I assume on drinks for the two of them. But when I found them, she was buying takeout food for him. Could have killed them both, but there was a young child home (asleep), so I was mainly concerned with getting my drunk wife home fast. Continue reading →

“My best friend hates the guy I’m secretly seeing”

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So there’s this guy. Let’s call him A. He has been in love with me for 3 years now. He used to just be that annoying boy who has a crush on you and is a bit clingy, but we’ve always been quite close friends. In the past year we’ve grown way closer, and I really really think I like him and he still loves me. We call each other for hours every night and spend every spare few hours we can together.

Last week, I was at his house and we gave each other head …

Anyway, A is a very complex person. Towards me, I really see his caring side, and he has the hugest heart and is an amazing person. Although, I’m the only one who sees all of that. Towards everyone else, he’s just a bit annoying and immature. I mean, I understand that because before we got close, he seemed annoying and immature to me as well. Continue reading →

“I want to break up, but he’s obsessed with me”

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I don’t want anything to become serious. I am in high school (freshman), and I recently got asked out by a guy who is completely compatible with me, and my parents seem to like him. I met him a couple months before he asked me out. We started talking around 2 weeks before he asked the big question, and me being me, I said yes.

There has been some pressure from his friends, as he’s been very public about his crush on me, and now everyone knows that we are together. It’s been a week into the relationship, and already I feel that something is off between us. I know I shouldn’t have accepted, especially since I’m so young and naïve. Continue reading →

“I want an open relationship with my boyfriend”

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I am a 23-year-old college student, trying my best to balance out life. I’ve been with my boyfriend a little over four years, and I love him to death. But lately, I’ve realized I want to have an open relationship. Before I was with him, I was with someone else on/off for almost four years. I would really like to explore other individuals, at least for a few months, before settling down for good.

In no way do I dislike my boyfriend, I just feel like I truly never had the time to explore different options. He, on the other hand, is highly against non-monogamous relationships. What do I do in this situation? Is this just me being selfish?

“The age gap doesn’t bother us, but his parents don’t approve”

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I’ve had a crush on this guy for a really long time, and this summer, I figured out he felt the same way about me. I had an amazing summer with him, and we were together all the time. We were in the same youth group, so we went on a lot of trips together this summer (Dallas, Lookout Mountain, Whitewater rafting, camping).

On the bus ride home from camp, he sat by me and told me how he felt. We’ve both never been in a relationship before, but he’s unlike anyone I’ve ever met. He puts God and others before himself in every situation and is such a great guy. Continue reading →

“He sent me videos of he and his boyfriend having sex”

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I really like a guy I met a couple years ago. I’ll call him S. He was 26, and I was 19. We started talking in March of 2015, after both of us were coming out of relationships.

We started hanging out almost daily. Before we’d even done anything, I was already very into him, as this was the first guy I’d been with in person since coming out of the closet in 2013. I was new to being in a “real-life” relationship, especially with a guy.

One night, we’d been drinking and I’d told him about some pretty dark stuff that happened to me, and he’d told me some things about himself. He kissed me when I started to tear up, and essentially that night, he took my virginity. We didn’t finish, though. I wanted to stop because I was feeling kinda gross, and I didn’t want to be drunk for this. So we did.

The next night, I went to his house again, and I was sober. This time, I was definitely the initiator. But he kept pushing me away. Eventually, he said he felt uncomfortable, and he went to sleep. I stayed up, because I felt kind of gross, even though I enjoyed being next to him.

The morning after that mess of a night, I confessed to him that I did like him. That’s when he let me down and said that he didn’t feel the same. Continue reading →

“I really like him, but I’m nervous like he is”

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So this guy and I have known each other for about a year-and-a-half now. We go to the same school, and I normally see him like 2-3 times a day. We mostly talk through social media, so it’s really awkward when we are together in person.

I see him in the morning in the library with both my friends and his friends. Some days, he leaves the library a few minutes after I get there. He sometimes looks at me, and other times he doesn’t.

In the hall, when we pass each other, he either looks at me for a few seconds and keeps on walking, or he looks at me quickly and tries to move for his side more like he’s trying to escape or something. He gives me a lot of mixed signals, and that’s why I can’t tell if he likes me, but is just really shy, or just not interested at all. Continue reading →

“I’ve been dreaming about my coworker who reminds me of my boyfriend”

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I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years with a good guy. He’s honestly a good person. We’ve been together since I was 20 and he had just turned 30. The first four months of our relationship were amazing. Total honeymoon phase. But after we started living together, he started to show his true emotional weaknesses. He would play video games for hours, sometime bordering on days. He would come home from work and ignore me until bedtime, where he would toss and turn until morning, only to do it all over again.

We never did anything fun or went anywhere together. I was starting to feel incredibly trapped and unappreciated. We fought all the time, with me always conceding my side to calm him down or make him happy. He finally got some help with his depression and things got better.

We still fight, and nothing I do seems to be good enough for him. I’m too lazy, I’m not clean enough, I forget to do things, I’ve gained a bit of weight. All these things make me feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. I always feel like the one who is more caring and affectionate. We didn’t have sex for months at a time. And we when we did, it was lacklustre and sad. When I lay it all out like this it seems horrible. Continue reading →