Category: Advice Needed

“He says he’s committed to me, but he wants to keep living with his ex”

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My entire relationship has been a series of “do this and be this way, and we won’t have any problems.” I have a hard time being controlled and breaking down walls to trust people. Finally, after all my efforts and much wear and tear emotionally, I have given in to every request.

That is not the problem, though. My issue is the last two years, I’ve been getting serious. After the ring and time invested with one another’s children, I feel betrayed and manipulated. I have been accepting of him living with his ex and kids half of the week. He would assure me they were done over and over again, yet he had me tip-toeing around her because I shouldn’t “rub it in.”

It recently came to light for her that he and I have been together. She is accepting of it now. Only problem is, he admitted to having sex with her monthly to make sure she was being faithful. Now that he wants to stay fully committed to me, and she knows about who I am, he has stopped and doesn’t want to do it. Continue reading →

“We are arguing because of her issues”

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My girlfriend thinks she doesn’t have my full attention no matter what I do, because when we began talking months ago I liked pictures on Instagram while we were talking, not even dating. She assumes that I have eyes for everyone ever since that incident, no matter how much I reassure her, she won’t take me for my word.

She likes to bring up hypothetical situations and when I give my answer, it isn’t good enough or she twists it to fit her argument. She has a lot of self doubt and she blames me for it, we have come back to this same argument time and time again and this is literally our only problem in the relationship. She has threatened to leave me plenty of times but never has and she says my words don’t do anything, but it seems my actions don’t either. Continue reading →

“My friend is a compulsive liar”

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I have a friend of 6 years who I do love and we have had great times. But over time (and it’s getting worse as time goes on) I have realized that this friend has a serious issue with guilt tripping and attention issues. I’m bringing this to a place like this now, because it really is getting serious.

The friend’s mother had a seizure, and it was found out that she had a small tumor in her frontal lobe, which is being removed in a few days. I want to be there for my friend and I will be, but we got into a shouting match very quickly yesterday because my friend showed up in the middle of my school’s art show, and started every conversation with every person who saw them with ‘well my mom is dying from cancer so I’m doing horrible’ and then proceeded to make more similar comments, etc. Continue reading →

“My mom and I constantly argue”

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I can’t seem to stop fighting with my mom, and it’s tearing me up inside. We have big differences in ideology and faith and obviously age, but we’ve always been pretty close. She came to visit me during Thanksgiving, and I found myself becoming very easily annoyed with her (and other family) and snapping and fighting.

Since then, it’s been so hard to go very long without having a huge argument over politics, opinions, each other’s choices, etc. She makes me feel like if I question her logic (I have been in school in the science field, so it’s hard for me not bring up objections to logic), that I think she is stupid and I hate her. But I have explained it’s not personal, then she says incredibly mean and cruel and yes, illogical things to me. Continue reading →

“I don’t think my boyfriend is in love with me”

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now. We are both in our late 20s. The relationship started off great but now I feel like we hit a plateau and it is not progressing. We have both had many stressors in our lives since we started dating so I don’t think we have had it easy.

Our past relationship experiences are quite different. We both have had a serious long term relationships except my experience was positive and his experience wasn’t. Many friends have told me that his last relationship was awful and it had a negative affect on him. He also believes it has created some emotional baggage for him. He has told me that he often feels closed off. Continue reading →

“I did terrible in my first semester of college”

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I’m almost done with my first semester in college and I did terrible. Unlike high school I actually tried my best and did my homework and studied hard for tests. I’m pretty sure my GPA is going to be between a 1.6-1.8 and that’s so bad. Even worse than my high school GPA.

I cried about it all day today because I’m so disappointed in myself. And I’m terrified to tell my parents. All they wanted from me was at least a 2.0 and I couldn’t even give them that. Also I’m really scared that I won’t even be able to get my GPA up. I know I have the rest of college but I’m not sure. I also really wanna change my major but I’m not sure. I have to retake bio and maybe Chem and that’s embarrassing. I feel so stupid and hopeless…..

“My celebrity crush asked if I wanted to hang out”

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To start off, I am a female. I direct messaged a celebrity my age for fun on Instagram. I told him that I loved him and what he does (not in a creepy way, he really is an inspiration), and sent him a picture of myself (it was appropriate). He actually responded within a day or two, and we had a small conversation and that was it.

About a month later, he starts a new conversation and asks if I’m in a certain city (it was the city I live in, but I never told him where I lived — he had to of looked at my Instagram profile bio to know that). I responded about 10 minutes later, because I didn’t see my phone, and he replied instantly. He had a layover in my city (about 4 hours) and was at the airport and wanted to meet me! I offered to pick him up in my car when he said he wanted to go into town, and he AGREED.

I actually ended up taking too long (I had to get ready !!!), and he actually ordered an Uber and drove 20 minutes to meet me at a halfway point. He then waited on the side of a curb for me for 10 minutes!! When he got in my car, I had no freaking idea what he wanted to do for those hours, or what his intentions were, so I improvised and drove him to some landmarks. We ended up walking around a bit and getting a drink. Continue reading →

“My boyfriend wants me to talk to other guys”

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My boyfriend has 4 jobs including grad school and we never see each other.  I’m perfectly fine with having a mix of a long distance relationship and a seeing each other relationship, but he thinks I grow unhappy and wants me to talk to other guys while we continue having our relationship.

I’m personally not that girl but he insists he doesn’t want me to have sex with them, just talk to form some type of relationship. I’m at a loss…

“Our sex life has become non-existent”

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I am a 25-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been living together for 3 years and have been together for 4 years. Our sex life has recently become non-existent, and we don’t know why. At first, we blamed it on the stress (end of the year), but now it’s been a month and a half.

We love each other and have a good relationship. I don’t know how to get things going again. I need advice please. Our relationship is great except for this one thing. I am getting very worried. (I’m sure he is not cheating.)

“Will I be okay seeing my husband with another girl?”

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I don’t know how to put this … I have a very REAL fantasy of using a strap-on. I am a woman.
My husband and I do anal regularly, but now I feel I want to return the favor. He is very taken aback by this fantasy of mine. I just can’t shake the feeling though. It turns me on immensely! I think about it very regularly.

When my husband met me, I was dating a woman. The sex was average (no toys). So I’ve asked my husband if he’d be willing to let me do it to him, as I was willing to try — and now enjoy — anal for him.

I have told him that I am willing to get a third party (a girl) in. Understandably, he asked if he could do the same to this girl. This is all in talks, and he says he really needs to sit down and think about all of this before he decides anything. I’m just worried about how I’d react to seeing him with another girl. I know I’d love to do her, but would I be okay watching my husband do her? Continue reading →