“My mother is ready to press charges against my abusive father”

So my mother, older sister, father, and I live in this house owned by my grandmother. My grandmother and her mother lived next door until my great-grandmother died in late 2015. My great-grandmother was a tyrant and caused all of us to feel like shit, so we figured once she died, my grandmother would be able to live the life that she couldn’t before because of her and would become a lot nicer.

Well, that didn’t happen as planned. She is just as obsessive and mean as she was before. On top of her constant verbal abuse, my father and sister are emotionally abusive to my mother and me as well. My father will yell and curse at my mother for her weight and her job (whether she works her scheduled 40 hrs — which is too few for his taste — or if she works between that and 80 hours — which is too many — he is not satisfied), and he will be upset if the house isn’t kept up to his liking (even though he is the one that trashes it).

He will yell at me for not doing anything (if I don’t go out with friends or work), but will yell at me if I am doing too much (hanging out with friends or working) and is constantly upset with me being in school (since he has to drive me, because I am 19 and not allowed to have my license).

My sister feeds on any drama in the house and will do anything to stir anything up. We have never had a decent holiday at our house between her and my father. They both love to throw things, too — food, keys, television remotes, etc. You can never talk to any of them, my grandmother included, about anything because they will use it against you. Continue reading

“How do I ask her out?”

I went to high school 2 years ago with a girl whom I never talked to until now, as I am shy about meeting people. She recently moved back in town after a pretty bad breakup, though I don’t know the details. I’ve gotten out of a relationship with someone who cheated on me twice in the last 9 months, as well.

I think she’s really beautiful and deserves someone who is loyal and treats her with love and respect, but I don’t know if I should say anything to her about how I feel, as I’ve sorta only texted her for 2 weeks. I asked her out for coffee, but I haven’t gotten a reply. I’m an awkward texter, so I’d rather talk in person where my charm is.

“I’m angry about my ex-girlfriend’s rape”

I’m not exactly sure how to word this, as it’s a fairly odd situation. One that shouldn’t be any of my business whatsoever, but I haven’t been able to sleep for the last two nights because I just feel so much anger and at the same time a deep sense of loss. Not for myself, but for an ex-girlfriend.

She was my first serious girlfriend and we had dated for over a year. I didn’t feel appreciated in the relationship as I was willing to do anything for her and frequently proved it, but I felt as if I never got the same treatment back. Eventually stress kept piling up on me between school work and our relationship, that I told her I needed a breather to get myself figured out. I realize now that I should have just talked to her about my feeling instead of bottling them up. However, she told me that she would wait for me and when I was ready we could begin again. Continue reading

“I don’t know if she’s interested in me”

A couple of nights ago we had a staff party at work. Fantastic night, it was the best staff party I think we have had in a long time. Lots of alcohol. Everyone got super f***** up. And my friend (lets call him L) had a bit too much to drink and he really likes this girl (lets call her R,) but I like her too. And I followed her from room to room trying to find a place to sleep.

We ended up going to L’s Room and  having a 3-way spoon. And I was the little spoon. R was the middle spoon and L was the big spoon. R now hugs him from behind at work all the time and doesn’t to me. Is this a sign that I don’t have a chance, or she’s just not interested? Any girls ever been in this situation?

“My boyfriend is really stingy”

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 3 months now, and things are really good mostly. But I feel like he is really stingy with money when it comes to putting money into our relationship, like going on dates, buying me a gift for valentines day, or anything really. But he has no problem spending money on energy drinks for himself or an $80 video game.

I just don’t understand why he is like this. I understand he has been single for a long time, so maybe he’s just not used to the changes that happen when you’re in a relationship. Am I over reacting? Am I being silly? Should I try to talk to him about it? What should I do?

“My lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk”

Please help me. This is my first serious boyfriend. We’ve been together for a little over a year. He and I are in a strong long distance relationship, or so I thought. He moved away from me in Summer 2016. It’s been so amazing up until this point. We trusted each other tremendously and had planned a future and everything you could imagine a love stricken couple would do.

After this Christmas, he suddenly stopped talking to me. Maybe the occasional, awkward ‘hi’ if I was lucky. All of the sudden, my lovely boyfriend turned into a real jerk. He would ignore me after I called him out on the issue, and he still does. Flash forward a month and it’s really rocky. We still talk, but it’s so awkward. It’s nothing like before Christmas. I’m seeing a side to him that I don’t like. Recently he has been denying the fact that I love him. He blows it off. I don’t say cutesy little things anymore or tell him I love him because then he’ll ignore me. I need help. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to assume things and be THAT girlfriend, but I’m fearing the worst. Please help.

“I’m married to an abusive husband”

This is a deep thought question so I’ll try to keep the details short.
I’m married to an abusive husband. We have one child, I have another who is much older from a previous relationship. I went to my attorney to divorce said abusive husband. Before I continue, I should say that my husband is a doctor. This will be important later. He has a high income, yet most people don’t realize that we don’t have cash on hand, it’s tied up and we are in debt. But, he does bring home a large amount of money.

He went to counseling with me. There, we discussed how we fight with each other because my cleaning isn’t up to his standards. (I am in no way filthy. I’m just not one of those OCD people like he is). The therapist suggested we hire a housekeeper so we wouldn’t fight about it. So we did, and it mostly worked. Continue reading

“He says rude things to me, even though he knows they hurt my feelings”

Lately, I’ve been feeling kinda down about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are both just so different. Not to mention, he’s been treating me differently. It’s not only like he isn’t trying anymore, but he says just really rude things.

It’s been mostly about my appearance as well as lifestyle. Like having some of my facial features fixed, telling me I should tone up, and even tell me I should have a breast lift (I’m 24 and have never had kids). I know it seems so vain and insecure of me to feel bad about some of the things, but even when I tell him that it hurts my feelings, he just brushes it off and still brings it up.

I think it would be a bit drastic to break up with him over some rude comments and lack of effort in our relationship, but I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?

“My husband looks at other women on the internet”

I don’t know what to do when it comes to my marriage. Let me start from the beginning…

About a year and a half ago, I went onto my (then) boyfriend’s computer to check my bank account. I started typing ‘Bank of America’ into the browser, but as soon as I entered ‘ba’, a bunch of history sites for backpage.com popped up. I didn’t know what it was, but I also saw ‘escorts’ in the web address. I then looked at his history and saw that he looked these pages up. When I confronted him about it, he said he was just curious. He said he had read they do a lot of sting operations, and he was just curious to see if the profiles really were fake. Continue reading

“Have I pushed her away?”

About 2 years ago I developed a crush on this girl, I was walking about by myself trying to clear my head one night and thought about asking her out when I ended up seeing her with her boyfriend.  Only just realising she had a boyfriend, she waved and gestured me to come over but I just continued walking and then started to cry.

For a while after I took walks pretty often by myself to think, and I always somehow ended up seeing her with her boyfriend, as if the universe is trying to tell me she has a boyfriend. After that I convinced myself we could just be friends, I ended up meeting her boyfriend and we honestly have loads in common and he’s my best friend now. Continue reading