“He says rude things to me, even though he knows they hurt my feelings”

Lately, I’ve been feeling kinda down about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are both just so different. Not to mention, he’s been treating me differently. It’s not only like he isn’t trying anymore, but he says just really rude things.

It’s been mostly about my appearance as well as lifestyle. Like having some of my facial features fixed, telling me I should tone up, and even tell me I should have a breast lift (I’m 24 and have never had kids). I know it seems so vain and insecure of me to feel bad about some of the things, but even when I tell him that it hurts my feelings, he just brushes it off and still brings it up.

I think it would be a bit drastic to break up with him over some rude comments and lack of effort in our relationship, but I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?

3 thoughts on ““He says rude things to me, even though he knows they hurt my feelings”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Get rid of him. What he is doing is called negging and gas lighting. It’s a form of emotional mental abuse and it will only get worse. There’s nothing you can do to change him. Just get out now!

  2. Dennis Hong says:

    It’s one thing if he’s just a sarcastic dude and likes to tease. It’s another thing when you make it clear that it hurts your feelings, but he still does it.

    That shows a lack of respect for you as a person. And I promise you, that will never change. So no, it’s not a bit drastic. You need to break up.

  3. David says:

    You deserve better than to have someone try and change and mold you into what they want. Breast lift? Are you kidding me? I’d tell him to come talk to me about breast lifts once he’s gotten a dick enlargement

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