I’m in high school. There’s a girl in one of my classes that I ignore for the most part. She has tried throughout the year to squeeze my nipples while walking by. I don’t think she is doing it to be funny because I try to not react to it. I just am not sure if this could mean she likes me.

A girl I met, we had an intense first couple of meetings. In bed she would exclaim “you’re amazing” with a cute voice and have a sparkle in her eye. She was great. And sweet with words.
The more I got to know her the more I found out about her. She has a lot of close guy friends , which is cool, she grew up with them. But she also gets obliterated drunk with them too and confesses she ‘blacks outs ‘. This I couldn’t deal with, this relationship was fresh and I didn’t build up any form of trust.
So I ended up just ending it with her. She was devasted.
I’m not hyping myself up here. That’s just how it went.
Now, I’m stuck with regret of ending it, everything was great except me getting concerned about her being drunk around guys.
I don’t know why but I’m sad and depressed about it. She hasn’t tried contacting me and vice versa. I guess I should just let this be a short and sweet chaptor of my life. But I can’t get her out of my mind ….and it bothers me that I ended it . Do I leave it or do I contact her. …I think she’s moved on

My husband and I got into a huge fight. He ended up calling me a “worthless bitch.” In our relationship, that’s about as low of a blow as you can get. That’s what he always called his ex wife, but she is in fact worthless. He called me this once before when we first started dating, and I told him then if he ever uttered that word to me again, in a fit of rage or not, I would leave. And he has never called me that up until now. He’s apologized a million times and swears he didn’t mean it and just said it out of anger. But I just can’t get past it. It really hurt me. How can I get over this?

My fiance and I are going over yet another revision to the guest list for our upcoming wedding this October. Our reception venue can hold no more than 200 (that’s including wedding party). Ideally, we’d like to keep the list at roughly 175.

The largest debate we often hear from others when it comes to inviting others to a wedding is making sure to invite those you WANT there, and those you feel OBLIGATED to invite. The thing is we would prefer to simply invite only those we WANT there, so we’re trying to keep the list to those who have played significant parts in our lives and are important to us.

Now having said that it’s going to make my actual question sound somewhat “dickish” and possibly make me out to be an ass.

Here is my hopefully basic and simple (to ask) question for everyone here.

I have 4 cousins, each married and with children, whom I’m not really close with, haven’t seen in over 10 years, and most interactions have been likes/comments on Facebook posts averaging maybe 1-2 per year.

While I would obviously like to have family at my wedding, it isn’t precisely priority they be there.

Would I be causing waves in my family (we’re Italian…just FYI) by not inviting them?

Does the fact I still plan on inviting my Aunt and Uncle, their parents, and not them?

So I’ve had this thing with a guy for 2 years now and We would be dating but he lives 40 minutes from me and we got this huge argument about where we stand and what we’re doing and I asked him if he likes someone else and he said “Kinda:/ like it’s nothing like ours is, but I just see her a lot more, but sometimes that’s the difference 😦 ” I dont know what to do, I want to let this fling go but I can’t convince myself to. Please help

Last year I went out with a guy a three times. Had fun, kissed but absolutely nothing more. Then he kind of faded away. He’s pretty clueless with women and without getting into details because they’re boring, this isn’t just my opinion, it’s a know fact.

It’s been about 6 months, and I randomly get a text about cookies I dropped off at work. I was surprised but replied nicely. And that was it. Today, about 2-3 weeks later, he texts me about something I put on Facebook. This time we exchanged a few messages.

I think he’s trying to reconnect, but this is the first time a guy has done this (booty calls exempted). I’m not holding my breath and I’m not expecting anything, but I would like to encourage him if he really is interested in reconnecting without scarring him off.

Thoughts?

Just wondering … do any of you ever feel like you are so busy you can’t see straight, and yet most of your lives are spent on everything for everyone else … you find yourself not even remembering WHAT in life ever got you excited at all? I’ve been stuck here for years. I fill my time with eating (what new taste or new wine can I discover next?). I used to fill my time with dating and dinners or brunches; but my income has gone down since I took a government job, AND I have a toddler now … so time and spending money have gone out the window.

I’m a single mom who is lucky to have a flexible schedule, a roof over my head and halfway decent money, but I don’t do ANYTHING with my life beyond being her mom (and I LOVE that J.O.B. – don’t get my wrong). I pay bills, eat and eat some more. I work. I love to sleep a lot when she is down for her naps. It just doesn’t seem like life has a purpose though.

But … I tell myself that I am in my 40s (feeling really old already), and that this is probably to be expected. I am depressed and deal with anxiety a lot. I just feel so unfulfilled in my ho-hum relationship. I have much of what I need (at least as far as society says so). I fancy myself a writer, but I mostly just string together good sounding sentences for the government.

So, I ask you … is there MORE to life than just existing and staying afloat? Have any of you been there and come through that and found a better way to live your lives? I used to find that spark in life through running (for 20 years!). But I injured myself. I also retired from the military. I miss my life as it was. I used to do more, go more places, and just BE MORE. Now I feel like I’m no one doing nothing that anyone will ever remember once I’m done and gone.

ANY ADVICE would be so welcomed. I don’t mean to sound like a pity party. I just don’t know how to escape my boredom and dissatisfaction with life. Antidepressants just aren’t the answer either.

I telework, so some weeks I don’t even leave the house but once or twice. And that may seem great to some, but it gets old. I don’t feel like doing anything. So lethargic and dealing with a thyroid problem — but that’s pretty well under control.

I feel like I want to discover a way to reinvent my life before it’s too late.

As for weird dreams … I woke up from a particularly disturbing one today. Yikes. I was in a public bathroom stall, and suddenly someone was outside the door. I kept saying, “Hang on! I’m almost done.” Finally, the door started to budge, and it was just ripped open with super human strength. I didn’t get to finish my business, and a little angry Asian lady was standing there, and I felt really afraid and uncomfortable. She ignored me and just opened the door anyway. Not sure what this means, but weird! Anyone? If it helps … for context … I am a woman.

I have the disease known as Graves, which causes hyperthyroidism. I couldn’t have gotten the symptoms that include rapid or sudden weight loss … oh no. I had to get it so that I don’t drop a pound, but somehow everything else is on overdrive … like I am exhausted to the point of feeling like I have to peel myself off the bed in the mornings. And, yay, lucky me … when I do … finally get to that point, my clothing, the sheets, any bedding I used … all of it is soaked like the towel I use right after my shower and smells like I peed the bed all night. That makes for a lot of laundry!

I’m not in the best of relationships, and I’m quite sure it’s going to be hard to get into one with this issue. Now I understand why some couples sleep in separate bedrooms! I’m thinking it will either come to that, or some kind of embarrassing rubber sheets for the rest of my life.

The worst thing about being 42 and having this disease is that I won’t know when I hit menopause. I’ll be having hot flashes and it will all be rolled into one as one big nuisance of existence in my life — the thyroid issue AND the hot flashes and all.

I take the drug methimazole for this condition, and yet it doesn’t seem to do a damned thing.

So, for some background: We have been classmates in university for two years. We were friendly, worked really well together professionally. We made a great team. I always thought she was pretty but didn’t do anything about it, because the whole mixing pleasure with work thing. So we were friends, not close or anything, but just friends.

So cut to about 6 months ago. I was doing an internship in my home country, and she shows up there as well for an internship (she is also, originally from the same country). In the same city. She messaged me, and we hung out a few times. It was really nice. Nothing romantic, just getting to actually know each other, becoming closer friends. I started liking her, but wasn’t sure yet, so didn’t say anything. When it was almost time for the both of us to head back to uni, she got another internship. This meant that she wouldn’t be coming back to uni with our class. It’s an 8 month long internship, so I would be out of school when she gets back.

Anyway, so I left for uni, and she went to the other country for the internship. This is about 4 months ago. We’ve been texting almost everyday since then. With a few minor gaps (that felt a little like, who would break the silence first tests) but we both texted first equally as much. I was really falling for this girl despite the distance.

I love how ambitious she is, how hard working she is, how she is so open minded but still holds on to her core values, how she wants to travel the world, and how she always wants to learn. How she has the loudest laughter in the room. Her fashion sense is flawless, and holy shit, I think she is one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever met.

Ok here is where the issues begin:
For a while, my work started to get affected, largely I think because I wanted to tell her how I felt, but couldn’t bring my self to because of various reasons I thought up. It wasn’t fair to her. She is in a whole new country. Anything could happen. Is it right to let her have you on her conscience if she meets somebody she likes? What about the logistics of it all? I don’t know where I’m going to find work after all of this. Probably not here in the same city as the uni. So more long distance after all of this? And then the good old, don’t want to spoil this friendship. Cause we were pretty close other wise by then.

Side story but, pretty important. About 3 months ago she was still getting out of an abusive relationship. I hadn’t known before because she was ashamed to talk about it. But she finally told me when it got too hard to deal with on her own. The guy was a lying, cheating bastard. She is really loyal. He disrespected her and manipulated her. I helped her through it. I just lent a shoulder, well over text, and gave her the care and respect that she deserved. She was obviously very emotional and shaken up. But she came through with time. She’s so much happier now. Excited about life. Still has some horrible memories, but she is learning from them.

OK, back to main story. So, the stress was building in me to say something. It was the night before my final review. I was supposed to be working on my project, but all I was thinking about was her. I stopped working and messaged her. I didn’t want to say I like her or anything. Because I’m done with that part of my life (more like just skipped it). I decided I wanted to plain and simple ask her out, but, it was weird because, it was some sort of weird way in the future date. (this was about a month ago) She had told me how no one had taken her out on a date just a few hours ago, and how she’s so tired of people trying to hook up with her.

So I said “it’s confusing to me how no one has asked you out on a date. I think you are an amazing girl, and I would love to take you out on a date. But your in (place) now, so when at some point, we are in the same city, and you would let me, I’d love to take you out”

I got a “Im just a little emotionally screwed up right now, so I don’t want to put that on you. but, yeah sure we can!” “It took me a long time to get over my previous relationship, so I might take a while this time as well”

Well for me at that point, it was all I needed to hear. I was over the moon. Work happened at light speed.

We’ve still been texting, but obviously not as much. We have been texting straight for 4 months everyday, so conversation tends to taper off at least a little. We still have long talks every now and then.

I have doubts though. Some times there are long pauses. Maybe a hint of boredom. Maybe I’m coming on too strong? I’m really trying to dial it down. Because we’re not in a relationship, and I can’t really have any expectations. There have been mention of a few douche bags that were trying to get to her. But not as much after I asked her out. She hung out with one of them because she needed friends, and she admitted that she thought that he looked good. But she didn’t want another douche bag in her life. He wanted to hook up. And used to try to make out with three girls on the same night. And she quickly started to hate him. And decided that it was worth loosing on the other friends, just to loose him. So she has been just doing her own thing.

So before I asked her out, I don’t think she ever looked at me as someone she would want to date. I’m not the best looking guy in the world, but I’m happy the way I am, and also getting fitter everyday. This seems silly but, I know she at least is not disgusted by me because she complimented me on this beard im growing out haha. And you know an honest compliment. I know she likes me at the emotional level a lot. But, I know relationships are much stronger if there’s both emotional and physical chemistry.

Waiting for her, for me, would mean not letting anyone else have a chance I think. Because, well how would that work? And, possibly making pretty large career decisions based on this. Try to stay in the city, and find some sort of job for the time being. It’s not a blow to my career, but its a big move.

Ofcourse, I’ll be able to tell for sure, after we go on a few of those dates. But I’ll already would have had to make big decisions before that stage.

I just hope she isn’t being nice. I don’t think she would do that. I’m sure she would have been honest and told me she would have preferred to stay just friends when I asked her out. But, one has doubts.

What do you guys think I should do? Any questions?

Thanks