My boyfriend is leaving soon to go do basic training to become a marine. He’s my best friend and I’ve always loved him as a friend, and even had a crush on him and now I’m falling for him. We have been dating for almost 3 months, which isn’t long, and I want to commit to him while he’s away.
But my mom says it’s a waste of time seeing as he will not be home for 3 months then 4 years. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this, because I don’t know what to do. Stay or leave? I have only felt this way about one other person and even then I wouldn’t go this far. After that ex, I built up a wall, and after 3 years this is the only guy I want to commit to and be with. He tore down my wall and I want to be with him. Please help! I’m still in high school and I’ve got one more year then I graduate, and can move up there and see him every now and then.
Help please!
LemonVibe 
If he’s still around and you’re not dating anyone in 4 years then date him. Until then let him go. You are both going to grow and change a LOT during those years. Military life is a hard one. You’d be more alone than with him. You can still remain friends. Don’t pressure him into staying with you either. That only backfires when the service men cheat on their significant others as soon as they get away.