“My fiancé thinks I have too many issues”

I am a 29 year old medical student. Doing well academically, but this year has been hard. You see, after my sister passed away in 2013, I withdrew from medical school for some time, to take care of my parents. I eventually gave up. But I later realized I still want to do it, I made a promise to my sister I’d get back in it.

In the mean time I met this girl, things were decent, we had our differences, but it worked. She wasn’t career oriented, I was, and I eventually got back into medical school. I was doing very well, till the doctors told me I needed open heart surgery. Continue reading

“Will he ever propose?!”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 and a half years now (we are 23 years old), we have been living together for a year and do everything together. I have hinted a few times that I am ready to get engaged and he has agreed (even my family has been hinting).

But it feels like it is never going to happen. We get into fights about it all the time. I have expressed to him how I don’t want to be an “old” bride and would love for my aging grandparents to still be around when we tie the knot. He doesn’t seem to be interested and I’m over bringing it up as we just fight.

Do you think he will ever propose or am I just going to be someone’s 40-year-old girlfriend?

“Does my friend need professional help?”

One of my best friends is super depressed and I don’t know how to help. He is pretty good at masking it around people, but I can tell. A few years back he started dating his old high school crush and even proposed and she said yes.

Well, shortly after she broke off the engagement, and for whatever reason he has it stuck in his head that she was the only girl in the world for him. Now almost 2 years later he is still really bad off. He got really blackout drunk on his birthday last year and let a lot of his bottled up emotions spill out and even talked about how he has considered suicide.

Since then he has not drank but he did take up 420 which in retrospect is alright since it is an anti-depressant. I have talked to him about it and expressed my concerns but he is very adamant about not wanting “professional” help and not wanting to be put on “chemicals” (medication). He is my friend and I love him but it hurts to see him in pain and not doing anything to seek help. I want to do more but according to professionals if someone is refusing help don’t push it because it can make it worse. So I just don’t know what to do.

“I don’t know how to move forward”

My boyfriend of 4 years is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. He’s wonderful. I love him in one thousand different ways.

He’s been engaged before. Last year we went to get rings sized, but both agreed we could wait several years. The other day he said he doesn’t believe in marriage, and we will never get married. It was during a discussion about a friend of ours getting married.

I fully plan on being married someday. Do I just end things now instead of wasting more time in a relationship that doesn’t have the future I want? I don’t know how to move forward.

“I got engaged and now I don’t want to kiss him”

In late August I got engaged to my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is twelve years older than me. I’m 25 and he is 37. He is kind, loving, funny and hard-working. Honestly, everything was great until we got engaged. I don’t know why but everything changed for me then.

On the day he proposed, he’d done it when I was struggling to stay afloat in a new job and without my family there. He knew I’d always wanted my family there. I also cried a lot that night before it happened because I was so unhappy with my job. I said yes because I loved him. I’d told him before that if he’d ask I’d say yes. It was a tough night and I don’t remember it with joy. Continue reading

“I think he might be happier if I were no longer in his life”

I’m engaged to a wonderful man that has been a great part of my young adult years. We have been through many up and downs, but recently I made a mistake that has cost us financially. He resents me for it, and although day-to-day he is very loving, when we occasionally fight he turns the conversation toward my mistakes and becomes overwhelmed and angry.

I am very disappointed that I am now his greatest stress — and quite possibly a regret. I would be completely heartbroken without him, but I think he might be happier if I were no longer in his life.

Any advice?