“He worries about money and never initiates sex”

I have recently moved in with my boyfriend of over a year. I love being with him, but two things have bothered me since we moved. First and foremost, he is extremely concerned about money – this would be normal, but he has approximately 1000 dollars more than me currently, and I paid for all of our furniture/home essentials/most of our food.

Given that I don’t drive, he gets very upset about spending gas money (we hardly drive anywhere and he drove all the way home without me this past weekend, 3 hours away). It got to the point where we really needed another trash can, and he wasn’t going to buy one because a large one in Walmart was $10… so I caved in and bought it. It took him 2 weeks to pay back his $80 share of our internet/router. I really don’t have much money left but he expects me to pay half/more than half our groceries.

The other thing is, he just doesn’t seem attracted to me anymore. If we have sex I am the one to initiate, and he barely touches me and normally just wants me to get on top of him. We spoke about this and have had good sex twice since (I initiated though).

The money thing is very, very, very uncomfortable for me though, and I don’t even know how to bring it up. He gets very angry and acts like I’m crazy/doesn’t believe that I’ve paid for as much as I have. My stress levels have been through the roof and I’ve been crying and panicking a lot. He seems confused about that, too, and gets frustrated with me very quickly when I show any emotion or am not super happy or active. I think he may be stressed and acting like this due to that in part. But I need outside perspective. My friends are a little biased.

“How do I get my ex to leave me alone?”

Hi there, I’d like a little advice about trouble I’m having with an ex. To start, I want to say I’ve been happily married for a few years. I’m turning to you because I have an ex who continues to pop up in my life randomly.

When we were together, she broke up with me because she said her mental illness didn’t allow her to keep an interest in any one parter for more than a year. It was the first time my heart was really broken, and it took me some time to recover. I had thought at the time this was the person I would marry. Continue reading

“Is my older man bored with me?”

I have been with a man who is 26 years older than me for 6 months but recently, within the last month or so, I feel as if he’s not interested anymore. He claims it is because of stress but I just don’t know what to do anymore.

He does not give me affection anymore and the only time he acts as if we are together is when we are around others. I have anxiety and I don’t want to ruin an otherwise happy relationship because of my anxiety or his stress, I just need to know if this is normal. Has the lust just worn off is he bored with me?

“I want to get back with my ex”

My girlfriend of 1.5 years has recently broken up with me. After a few drunken fights, mainly down to us both, but mainly me being stubborn, she said the relationship was just too stressful for her and that she wanted to be single.

This has been a real eye-opener for me and I know I can be better if we got back together. She claims she still loves me and that she doesn’t want anyone else. We hung out recently after not talking for a week and it was awkward. What is my best chance at getting her back? I have some friends saying give her complete space and let her come back if she wants, but I also have friends saying I need to keep some contact with her so she doesn’t forget why she loves me. What do y’all think? What about social media.. is there anything I can do specifically to make her miss me more at this point?

“I’m depressed because of my stretch marks”

I’m a 16 year old girl and I have very prominent stretch marks because I’m so pale and because I have gained a lot of weight in the past few months. Recently I’ve been really upset by them because they’re getting worse.

I recently had a really bad fight with my best friend and he won’t talk to me anymore. I don’t handle emotions well because of my depression, anxiety etc. I don’t have enough money to have the operation of the laser removal treatments, so I’m trying to find a way to feel better about them. Right now I feel ugly and fat, like even if I lose this weight I won’t be any better because these are going to be on my body forever. They’re on my stomach, hips, thighs, arms, sides and breasts. I’m just looking for ways to make them fade or even just advice on how to feel better about them. I know I’m overweight and I’m working on feeling better about my shape but the marks really make me feel bad about myself. Anything helps.

“I don’t know what to do with my life”

I am feeling a little lost. I have recently come back from traveling around the world after two and a half years. A large part of me traveling was the fact that I was in a job I didn’t want to do anymore, and my dad having terminal cancer made me realize how short life was. The glimpse of tranquility and calmness I saw on his face really made me want to feel the “sense of freedom” he felt from packing his bags with little money.

I went traveling and loved it. I studied photography — a subject I had huge drive and passion for. During this time, my then-boyfriend moved in with me, and it all went down hill from there. I made my life about making sure he was happy, stopped doing things for myself, and to be honest, just felt as if I was no good at photography. Instead of learning the things that I didn’t understand, I simply saw every failure as me being a failure, and in the end, the guy I thought was going to be with me forever left me. I do not want to blame him or anyone else for my failures, and I know that we just weren’t suited. Continue reading

“Shall I try to stay friends with my ex?”

I dated this girl for a little over a year. We were very close, closer than I had ever experienced with someone before. Going into college, our relationship seemed to go very well for a few months.

At the beginning of November, however, she switched gears completely. She stated that she no longer “loved me like I wanted her too”, and it evolved to us breaking up, temporarily at first, then permanently. We had established we very much wanted to stay friends, but my attempts to maintain contact failed. Eventually she told me she didn’t see me in her life at all, but the way she talked and how she had suddenly decided that seemed wrong to me. Continue reading