I dated this girl for a little over a year. We were very close, closer than I had ever experienced with someone before. Going into college, our relationship seemed to go very well for a few months.
At the beginning of November, however, she switched gears completely. She stated that she no longer “loved me like I wanted her too”, and it evolved to us breaking up, temporarily at first, then permanently. We had established we very much wanted to stay friends, but my attempts to maintain contact failed. Eventually she told me she didn’t see me in her life at all, but the way she talked and how she had suddenly decided that seemed wrong to me.
I think the stress of finals and college in general caused her to try and eliminate me as an issue, even though trying would have given her me as someone to come to. I’ve left her alone for a while, but I have decided to send her a letter after she returns home from finals, saying I will fight for our friendship and that I think she wants to as well. Is this a good idea?
One thought on ““Shall I try to stay friends with my ex?””
Short answer: no.
Longer answer: She’s broke up and doesn’t want contact with you. To “fight for our friendship” is pushing it way on over the line if she hasn’t initiated it. It falls into stalker territory. You’re heart is broke and I understand that, but unless she contacts you, then leave it alone and move on. Your relationship is over and you owe each other nothing.
I do wish you best of luck while your heart is healing. Time to focus on you now and start over.