“He loves his friends more than me”

I don’t know how to start this, but I think it’s best if you know as much detail as possible.
I’ve been with my current partner for just over two years, I am 23 and he is 19, almost 20. I have a 4 year old son, who’s father is my ex.

At the beginning of our relationship, I discovered he was still actively using a dating app because he was unsure if ‘we’d work out’. He was also deleting messages from his ex. This situation was confronted and quickly forgiven. I absolutely adore him, and as cliche as it sounds, he came in to my life when I needed someone very badly (I suffer with depression). Like I said, I adore him. Continue reading

“Am I a secret admirer or creepy stalker?”

I am divorced. I went to my son’s new school (he is 5) and met some of the teachers. There was one that spent an amazing amount of time with him. I was taken by her…she was charming, excellent and patient with him, and very attractive. I left the school knowing nothing could happen but I couldn’t stop thinking about her.

I want to be clear – I have met her only once. I have no delusions of what she is like and I am not falling over myself about her. However, I am, among other things, a musician and she inspired me to write a song. It’s a fan favorite, actually, about meeting someone that you have an instant attraction to, and you have to bypass that attraction. Continue reading

“My marriage I would rate a 1 out of 10”

I am 46 and married with one son, who is 8. My wife and I started dating back in 1989. We have been together without separation since 1989, after 16 years of dating and about 10 years of engagement. We married in 2005. My son was born in 2008. We live a good life, not perfect but pretty comfortable.

My wife is a 10 out 10 as a mother. Very caring and responsible with our son and we raise him together and have a strong family bond. We eat dinner together every night and we spend time together as a family in the most healthy way any good American family does. My only pain is my marriage. Continue reading

“My drug-using girlfriend is ruining us financially”

A few months ago, I bought a house and moved my girlfriend and her 4 year old son in with me. I am 21, she is 32, the loan and title are in my name only etc. She makes around $16.25/hr and has never had a problem paying bills. Since we have moved into this house, she has been coming short on bills every month and I have to cover her, as well as pay for groceries.

I also do the majority of the cleaning, because if I don’t, the place becomes a wreck. I have found evidence that she has been buying and using pills recreationally. I have found over$100 worth in her purse at a time. When I confront her, she becomes very defensive and upset, but it is ruining us financially. She has severe anxiety and depression. I want to end the relationship but I am worried for her and her son. I know her parents would take them in, but I’m still worried about what will happen and I don’t know how to approach this. I wouldn’t care as much about the pills if she wasn’t lying to me and costing us so much.

“I love him but his family hates me”

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, and we have a 6 month old son together. But lately it feels like I have to constantly remind myself why I love him. His family hates me, and makes me miserable almost every day of my life, and it’s been this way for the last three years.

Every time his mom or sister calls, I get a pit in my stomach wondering what they are going to say, and my anxiety goes through the roof when we go to visit his grandparents. I just don’t think a relationship should be this way. I have tried talking to him about it again and again but nothing changes and we just end up fighting. Every day I wonder what my life would have been like if I chose someone else, and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love him, I do but I’m starting to wonder if it’s even worth it at this point?

“I can’t handle my son’s crazy girlfriend”

I’m 40, my son is 19, & his girlfriend is 18. They have an infant son. In an effort to keep this short, I’ll try my best to give a nutshell version, but will elaborate on anything if need be.

Their relationship was dramatic, as she got pregnant as soon as they met. Constant fighting & breaking up, as we got to know her we all realized she has a major mental problem. I don’t mean that in a bad spirited way, the girl needs legitimate help. She admits to being manipulative and having uncontrollable “personality” mood swings in which she does things impulsively & selfishly. She involves everyone she possibly can in her attention circus, calling out to people who have no clue what’s even going on. Literally everyone I know that isn’t her family has told me they get a bad feeling or vibe around her & she makes them uncomfortable. She treats and speaks to her parents like dogs, which my son used to hate but is recently resorting to.

Since the baby was born and a paternity test proved he was the dad, he’s wanted a family. I encouraged that, thinking giving her more love may help her get her head worked out. All was forgiven and I gave her another chance. For 2 months, while she breastfed, she was great. Sweet, caring, did a really good job with the baby. Once that tether was gone, she slowly went back to her old self. Started smoking again, drinking, partying, and running around. Her younger sister took on the role of caring for the baby. She started college, and soon began cheating on my son with a study partner. Continue reading