“I love him but should I move on?”

I have been dating this guy for about 6 months maybe. He’s amazing, sweet, funny, smart, but a little selfish since he was the baby of the family. And he sometimes acts childish beyond how most guys act. And we have been on a “break” for about 4 months now (10 months in total) so I can work on my social anxiety without him having to feel responsible for me. We are basically best friends, we have sex and hang out, but we aren’t “together” technically. We are exclusive as well.  Continue reading

“I feel guilty for finding other guys attractive”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and we’ve been living together for 2 years, so most of our relationship. We have always gotten along really well and never had any problems. He is amazing and I love him with all my heart, but lately I just feel like things have changed.

I am 19 and he is 21. He has been working since he graduated high school, no college, and has a good job where he is successful and makes good money. He works a lot of long hours and lately I feel like I never see him anymore. Continue reading

“I’ve been in love with the same girl for almost a decade”

I’ve quietly been in love with the same girl for almost a decade. How do I move on?

Firstly, apologies for the lengthiness – I have a lot to get off my chest.

I’ll start by giving this scenario a bit of context. I’m twenty years old and have been living in a fairly quiet rural town for just over ten years now. I’m two years out of school and a few months away from leaving to go to university. All of the friends I made at school have already started university, with some even approaching their final year. I’m still in very regular contact with them, but opportunities to see them or anyone else I know are spread out across the year and quite infrequent. I’m generally frustrated by living in a place with little to do on a day-to-day basis, but get some relief from knowing that the situation will be changing for me very soon. Continue reading

“I know my family loves me but I feel nothing”

I need advice because I don’t know how to do this delicately. I am soon to be 18 and without going into specifics,  I plan to move across the country after I graduate High School. In consideration to my mother, I’ve allowed her to still claim that I’m living with her so she receives welfare/death benefits, (my Dad died) even though I moved in with a relative in October.

I am the youngest of a large family but I am totally uninterested in human relationships on a personal level. I can be social and I’m very polite in my interactions but I secretly loathe the necessity. I am a straight A student with skills/love in the arts. I plan work under the table in my relative’s small business, part time, until my graduation but after that I want to cut ties. Now I know from an outside view this is a heartless act – the point is I don’t care. But if there are any mothers or families who’ve experienced a relative cutting ties, I’d be curious how it impacted you. I told my mom I’m leaving but I haven’t said where and I’m not sure if it’s kinder to maintain the facade with other relatives who wish to see me. As I’ve said I can be charming – I know my family loves me but I feel nothing.

“I’m falling in love with a girl I just met”

I just ended my relationship, now I think I might be in love again, and I don’t know what to do. I just moved to a different country, and even though I tried to make it work long distance with my girlfriend, we didn’t make it. It was a pretty tough thing, but that’s life.

I think I’m just missing someone in my life, because a few days ago I met this girl, and think I’m falling in love with her. The thing is, she’s not interested in me, and I don’t know what to do because I don’t know how to date anymore after being in a relationship for so long. And worse yet, she seems really interested in my friend (who knows I like her and is not doing anything, but still I feel really bad watching her flirt with him). Continue reading

“I can’t get over my first love”

So, recently my first love contacted me. He pretty much ended our relationship on a terrible note, and left me crushed in the wake. The relationship itself was rocky but we were young, fresh out of school, and had different interests. He was a gamer, I was a partier. Though I did like gaming, I much preferred just being social and surrounded by people. We had our normal conflicts. I trusted him until the end of the relationship after I found out he had almost hooked up with a girl at a mutual friend’s party during one of our breaks (so that was never an issue in the relationship until the end). I had been very open with him during our times of separation and just expected the same amount of respect back. So once I found that out, I got paranoid and I knew it was going downhill. We broke up two months later.

He grew up in an emotionally and mentally abusive home with an alcoholic and had childhood traumas I couldn’t even touch, but I tried so hard to support him and be patient through all of his struggles. I wanted to be there for him as much as possible because I loved him, I still love him to this day. I’m by no means insinuating I was perfect, my family isn’t “good.” On more than one occasion, under the influence of alcohol, he had outbursts at me, never hitting me, but he would choke me. He never knocked me out or really hurt me, it was more of a restraint hold… And I would leave and eventually forgive him because I knew he didn’t know how to properly manage his emotions (in a matter of five years, this happened four times – no excuses just letting you know) and to me, when you love someone, you fight through the bad because they are worth it and obviously I knew of his past, so I was willing to try. Continue reading

What do i do

I’m 20 years old and i was dating this guy who is 27. We dated for about a year about two years ago then he broke up with me because he said he didn’t feel it was the right time for him and i that he wanted to take time for himself. After he broke up with me he wanted to get back together almost a week later but i told him no because he said he wanted to take time for himself and that he should take that time and maybe i should as well. Despite the fact that we had broken up we continued to communicate and see each other often because his sister is my best friend. Fast forward two years later things continue he’s still in love with me and i love him but i don’t think the relationship will be the same anymore. I feel bad because he’s done so many good things for me, my mother loves him, his family is close with me.Him and his sister are pretty close and her being my best friend makes things weird because i feel like my relationship with her can be ruined because of him. At the same time i feel like because him and i still communicated and saw each other pretty often we never really experienced and actually break up and i’m starting to feel like i want to experience something new. Most recently i met a new guy who i really like a lot, and i kind of want to see where things go with him. I wanted to be honest with my ex boyfriend so i told him about the new guy and he completely broke down crying telling me he’s loved me for 2 years and here i am being interested in a new guy who i barely know, I’ve encouraged him to date other people since we broke up he just won’t do it and the new guy wanted to make things official but i told him i needed to work some things out before i could do that. So he told me it’s either him or the other guy and he told me not to speak to him until i have an answer. I don’t know what to do this confusion is killing me