“He hasn’t been the same since leaving the army”

I’m married and my husband was just discharged from the army for attempting suicide in basic. We moved in with his parents. I’m scared he’s cheating on me or isn’t in love with me. He always goes in to work early or stays late. Once he came back late smelling like perfume. Always agitated. Emotionally absent – does nothing if I cry. Always hides his phone. We used to fight a lot but now it’s just silence. I know he’s depressed and upset at himself for “yet another failure “, but I can’t tell if it’s just him or us or me.


“She hates my career choice”

I am a married man in the military. My wife and I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. I have been in the military 8 years. She hates my job and everything that comes with it. She wants me to move us from our current posting, that she hates, to somewhere new.

Then leave the military in 3-4 years, when my current contract ends. I want a full career, 20+ years, and love my job. Our marriage is tempestuous and she has trust issues. What do I do? Stay in my career but probably get divorced, or give it up and hopefully stay married?



“He’s leaving to become a Marine”

My boyfriend is leaving soon to go do basic training to become a marine. He’s my best friend and I’ve always loved him as a friend, and even had a crush on him and now I’m falling for him. We have been dating for almost 3 months, which isn’t long, and I want to commit to him while he’s away.

But my mom says it’s a waste of time seeing as he will not be home for 3 months then 4 years. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this, because I don’t know what to do. Stay or leave? I have only felt this way about one other person and even then I wouldn’t go this far.  After that ex, I built up a wall, and after 3 years this is the only guy I want to commit to and be with. He tore down my wall and I want to be with him. Please help! I’m still in high school and I’ve got one more year then I graduate, and can move up there and see him every now and then.

Help please!


“I need to know for sure if he likes me or not”

My male best friend just left for bootcamp for the marines. I think I’ve fallen for him though. I care for him so much I would honestly take a bullet for him, and I wouldn’t do that for just anyone. He’s the most loyal and caring person I know, and we all know how hard it is to find someone like that these days.

Whenever I was upset and told him I needed a hug, even if it was midnight, he would actually drive over just to give me a hug and make me feel better. He had also told me how, if he survives the marines, he would like to settle down and start a family. And I’m actually willing to wait for him, no matter how hard it might get. His guy best friend, we’ll call him C, has been trying to get us to date as well. C asked my best friend if he would date me, and I tried getting C to tell me what my best friend said, but he just replied with “Bro Code” and left it at that.

My best friend has done so much for me, and has always been there for me, whenever we got food he would never let me pay, he always helped me get in shape, whenever I asked for anything, he would get it for me, but I just need to know for sure if he likes me or not; if he doesn’t, then at least I could have the closure to move on and find someone else over time, while keeping our friendship intact. I would do anything for him, but would he do the same for me? Please help me.

“What’s wrong with me?”

My best friend left for bootcamp for the marines about a week ago, and ever since then, I’ve been acting weird, both physically and emotionally. I can’t sleep, and when I do, it’s always nightmares about him dying on the battlefield.

I can’t eat, just thinking of food makes me sick to my stomach. I barely talk to any of my friends, and I’ve started to isolate myself from everyone. He’s all I think about day and night and I’ve ended up crying every night because I’m scared for him. But he’s my best friend, why am I acting this way?

“He thinks I’m cheating but I’m not!”

My boyfriend and I have not been together for that long and all of a sudden he keeps asking me if I am cheating on him (which I am not whatsoever), I do have guy friends but it was something we discussed before we even made our relationship official and we came to the agreement that since these people have been in my life longer than he even has, and are such a major part of my life, it wasn’t going to be a problem.

Yet he still keeps asking me if I am cheating, if we are hanging out and my phone goes off sometimes he will rip if out of my hand and go through it. We’ve talked about it and he said he will work on it but he still questions me and such. I feel like he doesn’t trust me.  Continue reading