I have been married to my husband for almost 6 years. We got together when he was still in the military. He was my first everything and I love him with all my heart. However, as much as I love him I can’t trust him. I have caught him over several occasions talking inappropriately to other girls on phone and going on Craigslist look at personals. Continue reading
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“My boyfriend is worried about our future”
My boyfriend of 3 years told me about 2 months ago that he wasn’t sure what our future could be long term, and insinuated that he didn’t want to marry me or have kids, or at least wasn’t sure he would want to. Ever since, we’ve been getting into stupid fights which is infuriating, because we basically never fought before this, and I don’t want to have to deal with this issue now.
I’m 23: at what point do you have decide if marriage/no marriage is a deal breaker for you if you love the one you’re with? I picture any and all kinds of futures with him, but those possibilities are starting to narrow as he drifts away from me. I should also mention that he’s kind of going through a quarter-life crisis right now (he’s 26), so with him being down on himself and unsure of his own future, I don’t know if I should take every single thing he says seriously. What if this is just a passing mood for him and I miss out on spending more time with the love of my life? I don’t want to break up with him period, but I especially don’t want to break up with him over this. Help? What would you do?
“Do I tell him about the cheating, or keep my mouth shut?”
I would like to get something off my chest that has made me sick to my stomach since the day I found out. I work with this fella that has been messing around with a married lady… that’s on her for putting herself in that situation and not being faithful but it’s on him for continuing with it. She was recently married a couple years ago. You ask me why is this your problem?
Well coming from a marriage with a cheating spouse this kind of hit home for me. Not only did everyone lie to me that knew about my husband, but I literally tore myself apart just to find the god awful truth. If a stranger or someone that was around them when it happened would have came to me and told me, it would of saved me a lot more time and heart break.
So I am asking for advice on if I should contact him about how shitty of a wife he has, or simply keep my mouth shut. I feel bad for her husband and dislike the boy I work with, but I believe I owe it to the cheated on spouses. Please help!
“What happened to the chemistry we had?”
I come from a fairly conservative household. I met “M” on POF and quickly discovered we had ties. Since I lived in an area where there were a lot of us of the same culture, his family and my family had a distant friendship.
He said he was looking for marriage, as was I. We hit it off and started speaking on Whatsapp. Soon after he began to tell me how God answered his prayers sending me, how we meshed so well and how he could not wait to take me home. Continue reading
“I’m falling for an exotic dancer”
31/M/Registered Nurse. I am just out of a 10 year marriage and have had a lot of trouble dating. I lost a lot of weight, improved the way I dressed, without any luck. I ended up befriending a couple exotic dancers that are much younger than I am. One of whom I am very interested in pursuing a relationship with. She’s in a relationship with another guy but is constantly spending time with me. Her partner and her have a very bad relationship and he’s very distant.
Almost every day she’s asking for comfort from me because he doesn’t support her. I give it freely but have made my feelings known but stated I’d prefer their relationship run it’s course before I pursue anything. I ended up inviting them along for a vacation in a city where they work occasionally. This led to her partner distancing himself further and yet another night of talking/texting/spending time together.
My questions are as follows 1) Should I even be pursuing a relationship with an exotic dancer 10 years my junior? 2) Should I press her to leave her current partner since she’s so unhappy?
“I’m in love with a felon”
I’ve fallen madly in love with a man who served 26.5 years in prison for a murder (gang related) he committed when he was 19. The ironic thing is I was dating him when this happened. He pursued me for years before I would take him serious. He was trying to quit the gang life for himself and me.
I wrote him for a year and moved on with my life. Decades later he paroled and found me. He said he never stopped looking for me and always thought of how things could have played out so differently if he wasn’t such a fool as a kid. When we are together it’s like we are teenagers again. Continue reading
“I told her I was fantasizing about her friend”
So this is the stupidest thing I have done yet…… a few days ago I got home from work, everything is fine, she was fine and I don’t know what came over me I decided to tell her that I had fantasized about one of her friends. With that said it changed the mood of the whole house. She stopped talking and being non responsive.
I know at that moment I messed up, I tried to explain at the time but it made things worse, I have never seen her this angry before. She has given me the silent treatment for 2 days now. I don’t know what to do. I don’t mind if people judge me for having those thoughts I know it’s a mistake and that because I am married I should only be faithful to my wife but I don’t even know if that counts as cheating. Do I wish I can take it all back? Of course, do I wish I never have those thoughts? Definitely. At the moment I am just waiting for her to forgive me but it feels like I am on death row. Please help?
“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”
I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.
I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?
“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”
I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.
I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading
“Am I a sex addict?”
I am a bad guy. I have made some horrible decisions. And I am beginning to believe, despite laughing off even the thought this was possible, I have an addiction that is taking over my life.
I am very afraid I have a sex addiction. I’m married over 20 years. We have had a few problems over the years, but nothing close to serious… in fact, our problems/arguments are probably less frequent than the average married couple. Sex life is also pretty good. For a while, I thought our sex life was boring. I pursued other women. Continue reading
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