31/M/Registered Nurse. I am just out of a 10 year marriage and have had a lot of trouble dating. I lost a lot of weight, improved the way I dressed, without any luck. I ended up befriending a couple exotic dancers that are much younger than I am. One of whom I am very interested in pursuing a relationship with. She’s in a relationship with another guy but is constantly spending time with me. Her partner and her have a very bad relationship and he’s very distant.

Almost every day she’s asking for comfort from me because he doesn’t support her. I give it freely but have made my feelings known but stated I’d prefer their relationship run it’s course before I pursue anything. I ended up inviting them along for a vacation in a city where they work occasionally. This led to her partner distancing himself further and yet another night of talking/texting/spending time together.

My questions are as follows 1) Should I even be pursuing a relationship with an exotic dancer 10 years my junior? 2) Should I press her to leave her current partner since she’s so unhappy?